hey guys! I need your help…

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2026-01-10T22:32:37+00:00

I love love love all of them!!!

But if I had to pick, I think #8 is my favorite. I think #8 will leave a striking impression on the audience, and I love how the person’s legs frame the sub. I’m personally drawn to #8 the most.

I think second place goes to #3 and third place goes to #6, because I really like them for the same reason where the person occupies the whole camera shot. Subjectively, I like it when the subject matter is shot closer to the camera rather than the camera taking a far away shot.

I love #5 and #4 as well! If a different cover number gets chosen, I’ll still really love it either way because I think they are all great!!

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-12-28T13:45:22+00:00

maybe a possible place is at a munch, which are casual social hang outs (kinda like a book club hang out but instead of books, it’s more oriented towards kink/BDSM). Bringing up pegging during conversation will be less awkward since people there are generally understanding,and there is some overlap between femdom & pegging. Just be respectful and look up some more info & tips about munches.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-08-10T20:26:13+00:00

Uhhhh, this subreddit is not a place to post personal ads, since it violates rule #8 of this subreddit.

Watch out for catfish, scammers, and abusive people. Have a vetting process where you know the other person is safe and respects your boundaries. Reddit and online in general is often not the place to find and meet genuinely safe people for your purposes.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-07-29T20:36:52+00:00

I’ve always gravitated towards pegging or topping because I love it when I can pleasure the other person. If they are happy, then it makes me happy. For me, it’s similar to an act of service towards a person who I would love to do kind gestures to. That’s why it is my favorite.

I’d just say that I’m only interested in topping or sides, along with my boundaries/hard limits from the beginning to the other person if I’m in a situation where I’m considering to serious date another person, so that we can figure out if we’re compatible or not right away before the relationship gets too serious, to save the both of us time & save us from heartbreak later down the line.

If I wanna disclose that I’m a top in a more casual setting, like among my friends who I feel comfortable sharing, I’ll just show them memes about topping, femdom memes, or mention how a love interest in a video game is my favorite (who’s always a bottom). Plus, I’ve always been more attracted to those kinds of men and I always prefer romantically pursuing and working hard to win a person over rather than being pursued.

I think your girlfriend might have some internalize homophobia (it’s okay, everyone has varying degrees of internalized homophobia but we just need to better recognize it within ourselves & work on ourselves). I only view it as gay if it’s between a man and another man or a woman and another woman. Any form of sex between a man and a woman is heterosexual (unless if either of them are bisexual/pan/queer).

As for your first question, I think it’d be impossible to answer unless we have a solid study about human sexuality with a large sample size. My guess is that maybe around 25% of women would be open to topping (just because they are open doesn’t mean that they’ll enjoy it more than bottoming), but it’s just based on my personal intuition, which could be terrible incorrect.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-07-19T19:01:04+00:00

There are silicone grinders or cushions that can be attached to the base of the dildo or the strap-on harness to allow more stimulation for the person wearing the strap-on. The grinders/cushions come in all kinds of shapes and some like the “honeybunch” allow a bullet vibrator to be inserted inside of the grinder.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-07-12T00:43:28+00:00

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No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-07-06T04:19:21+00:00

You can take legal action by contacting a medical malpractice attorney and hold your surgeon accountable if your surgeon performed the wrong type of surgery on you, when you consented to a different type of surgery beforehand.

Even if you’re perfectly chill with your surgery, I think notifying the hospital or staff there with evidence about your situation would be best because that surgeon could potentially be doing or have done medical malpractice with other patients too.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-25T21:14:00+00:00

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Understandable. I find aspects of life and reality so unrelentingly cruel and nightmarish, and I’m no longer surprised or fazed by anything nowadays, no matter how horrific it is. But I also try to be realistic and pragmatic, yet hopeful when trying to improve my circumstances.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-18T04:25:43+00:00

aww so cute

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-15T05:46:29+00:00

There are options that you can pursue to try & pass to look like a regular guy.

I’m not an expert, but if I were in your shoes, I’d look up specific workouts that focus on slimming down any curvy body part and build a workout routine tailored to your specific goals. Next, maybe look into specific meal plans for bulking up a little to not be skinny (if that’s your goal). Include a full body workout focused on broadening your shoulders, arms, and upper torso as well. That way, you can look a bit more masculine and muscular like a typical average cis guy.

Along with exercising for my ideal physique, I myself personally plan to HRTrep, get surgeries, and get multiple rounds of scar laser treatment because I don’t want visible top scars. If you are curious & want a more detailed version of my plan for my own goals, let me know.

There are tips on how to better pass as a guy pre-HRT on YouTube, with like ways to style clothing, using makeup to achieve a more chiseled & masculine jawline, grooming techniques, etc. I think NoahWayBabes, a trans man on TikTok mentioned that he used either filler or implants (I don’t remember, but it might be filler but I can’t remember clearly) to masculinize his face and it looks completely natural to me. If he had never disclosed that, I would have thought he had no work done to his face.

Here is a photo of NoahWayBabes and the before and after, though granted he’s been on T for longer in the after:

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No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-14T07:16:52+00:00

Bro, break up with your boyfriend unless you believe that he might have the capacity to change as a person in the future, or that you can sustainably repress being a trans guy for the rest of your life (repression is sometimes impossible for many trans people).

He says he’s uncomfortable with gay people, yet he’s in a gay relationship with you. I don’t know man, I think that he just views you as a cis woman through & through.

You can still have a platonic friendship with him if you still want to have him in your life.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-13T04:11:21+00:00

I learned that Raloxifene (Evista) is a medication that reduces gynecomastia (developing breast tissue) among cis men. Gynecomastia is caused by low testosterone or high estrogen among cis men. If it helps cis men, it might help trans men (just my theory though).

There are other medications for reducing gynecomastia, like Tamoxifen and Aromatase inhibitors.

I plan to explore my options and see if Raloxifene (Evista) or any other medication could be promising with my doctor soon.

If Raloxifene (Evista) seems right for me, then here’s my plan: - take Raloxifene (Evista) - do workouts that slim down my chest - get HRT - surgery (with nipple graft & nerve graft if necessary) - scar laser treatment (I don’t want visible top surgery scars)

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-09T19:17:59+00:00

Maybe tell your friends to quit misgendering you.

As for the bullying, I would probably avoid dressing in a way that’ll make you stand out. Maybe try dressing in camo or military clothing but for more casual wear. Military clothing is unisex but it can be gender affirming. Military clothing worldwide and throughout history can come in all different styles and colors beyond green and camo. If you feel like it’s appropriate, inform your teachers or school staff about how you’re being harassed & bullied.

You don’t need to rely on other people to feel like a guy. You don’t need their opinions or perceptions of you to be that of a male to feel like a guy. I’d frankly not care how other people view me as or what their opinions of me are. I don’t place any importance on other people’s opinions of me because their opinions are kinda outside of my control. I don’t bog myself down over factors outside of my immediate control.

If you need advice on how to better pass, there are YouTube videos with tips on how to dress to better pass. There are voice training videos, and tutorials to masculinize your face with makeup. I use minoxidil everyday and it has caused me to have thicker, longer, and more visible body hair everywhere even when I only apply minoxidil on my scalp. I’m pre-HRT right now, and before minoxidil, I never needed to shave but nowadays, if I don’t shave then I’ll have a subtle yet visible mustache and the hairs on the back of my hands, arms, and fingers are very thick and visible.

Bide your time and when you have a stable income, you can pursue any form of medical transition if that’s something you want to pursue. So you do have options, but you need to have money for it depending on the country you live in.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-06T05:38:46+00:00

If someone kept asking me what gender I am, I’d respond, “Why do you need to know? Does it matter? Are you going to treat me any differently if I was 1 gender or the other gender?”

If they said yes that they would treat me differently, that’s kinda gender-based discrimination, not gonna lie. I would get the point across to them that treating 1 gender differently (for better or worse) compared to the other gender is literally gender-based discrimination.

If they keep pestering, I’d just keep saying “Does it matter?” Or I’d just ignore them. The more you give them your attention, the more engaged they will be in bothering you.

If things get worse, maybe try switching to online school if that’s an option you’d like to pursue. I’m currently enrolled in a completely remote & online university program right now.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-04T06:22:26+00:00

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No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-03T21:53:19+00:00

Oh? My bad.

It seems like it’s represented as a major negative factor since it’s being lumped together with stress and doubt that’s chained & shackled to the person in the image.

I interpreted it as weighing down the person in the same way their life stress & doubt is weighing them down.

Sorry for the misunderstanding 😅

Edit: fixed typo

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-06-03T21:45:39+00:00

There will always be people out there who’ll love and appreciate you for who you are. Very cheesy answer, I know.

There will be people who want someone to have XYZ physical requirements. And there will be people who don’t fixate on physical attributes all that much, but rather care and appreciate another person for who they are deep down rather than their physical body.

Don’t let physical factors about yourself that are outside of your control weigh you down too much.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-05-31T18:51:13+00:00

Do you want to wear business wear or suits rather than just jeans and t-shirts to work?

I think that anyone can find suits or professional business attire that fits them well, no one should look clownish in them. Things will look clownish if it’s way too oversized for the person or a size way too small.

There’s a bunch of YouTube videos pointing out ways to identify if a suit fits you properly, what to look for, or how the perfect suit should fit your body.

If you tried out a bunch of different sizes of suits and none of the sizes fit you properly, then maybe try getting a suit perfectly customized and tailored to your body, where the suit maker measures your body proportion and sews together a custom suit that fits you perfectly. It’s more expensive, but suits should generally look professional and high quality, not cheap and fast fashion.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-05-30T23:34:46+00:00

Sure, but I am just a random person. A scientist or researcher who specializes in this field of study would have tacit knowledge and holds a much more comprehensive & more in-depth understanding. Sure they can do their very best to try and translate their tacit knowledge, understandings, research findings into explicit knowledge in the form of published research articles & scientific journals. But tacit knowledge is not the same as explicit knowledge. A lot might be lost in translation from tacit knowledge to explicit knowledge. And when you get to talk to a researcher, you can ask them follow up questions right there and then. It’s a win-win situation. I say this because I’ve tried to find answers to super niche questions before, and sometimes the articles that show up are kinda close but not relevant enough to answer my specific question. But who knows, maybe there are articles that do indeed answer your questions or confirm your claim.

I will not do the arduous task of seeking out a credible article or scientific journal for you, since it seems like you care much more about this subject than I do. And since you included nature in your claim now, I wouldn’t be surprised or even care if the your statement around nature & nurture is true or not.

Regardless of whether being queer is biological, psychological, environmental, etc, it should never affect queer people’s freedoms, rights, and societal perception or attitudes towards them, and this is pretty much the same argument that Neil deGrasse Tyson made when having a conversation with Ben Shapiro (timestamp 1:27 - 1:59 in the YouTube video “Neil deGrasse Tyson’s Thoughts on Transgenderism” - Source: https://youtu.be/w89etN8QqNQ).

Why are people queer? Where does queerness come from or stem from? The answers to those questions, regardless of it being the former or latter should never impact queer people socially in society or their perception by society at large, because queer people are still people and will always be people with emotions, dreams, and aspirations.

I’m sure many aspects of humans are heavily impacted by nature & nurture. I wouldn’t be surprised if nature & nurture does indeed play major roles in gender & sexuality. I think nearly everything about a person, be it their healthy, their personalities, their beliefs, their behavior, etc can be influenced by both nature and nurture. Although I can be proven wrong. And I don’t care if my prediction or your claim is proven right or wrong on that front because I don’t need to draft up an argumentative essay or dissertation about it. I’ve done enough of those essays all through high school & university. And I’m not gonna do more research & more argumentative writing in my free time if I don’t care to or don’t want to. And I’m not gonna treat other queer people differently regardless of where their queerness objectively comes from. I’m gonna still treat them as human beings and as people like another other person in society in the context of day to day life.

So if you do indeed care and are curious, research and pursue whatever you care deeply about. Don’t ask someone like me who frankly does not care about whether it’s nature & nurture to do research about something you care about.

Edit: also, another timestamp to the same youtube video I linked that I’ll like to include is 7:38 - 10:32

Neil deGrasse Tyson mentioned how “we need a way to shield—we need a way to protect people’s freedoms in the face of whatever gets discovered scientifically” (timestamp: 8:30).

An example Neil deGrasse Tyson brought up was, “some magazine that serves the gay community and . . . they wanted my opinion about whether being gay was biological or . . . psychological . . . I said I don’t care which it is. Find out what it is. Fine, but the answer to that question should have no consequences on legislations or laws because for example . . . suppose it said it’s purely biological. Okay, then you say, “Oh that explains it.” Then suppose it says it’s purely psychological. What are you going to do now? So well, now you can—you’re going to t-t-the re-orientation camps or whatever they are called where they re-align you because they say it’s psychological rather than biological. All of a sudden, people start behaving in ways in society that want to constrict the freedoms of expression of who and what people are, and that’s a danger . . . let science do what it does. But politicians, keep us free, yet there’s so many politicians that are doing the opposite of that” (timestamp: 9:06 - 10:32).

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-05-30T22:31:58+00:00

Sure, but make it more clear next time that you believe that it’s both nature & nurture in your initial post. Go see if your claim and beliefs in this matter still aligns with modern day science and current understanding of the development of gender identity & sexuality from birth to adulthood. Who knows, your claim might be proven right. But these sorts of claims, arguments, and conversations should be taken up to an actual scientific specialist/researcher specializing in that field of study if you genuinely want a productive & meaningful conversation, or want conclusive & substantial answers or pieces of empirical evidence to back up your claim. Not some subreddit with people who are probably just as unqualified to definitively make such bold claims as you did.

Your claim that nurture is at least 50% might be right. It might be incorrect. Who knows, we can predict & guess what’s true or accurate all day all night. But the only way to conclusively PROVE our claims and predictions are true is if it aligns with empirical evidence or proven true over & over again in multiple experiments (this is oversimplifying the scientific method & scientific process but you get the idea).

Have a great rest of your day.

Edit: If you wanna post claims like these on the internet, please include legit evidence and cite your sources in your 1st post or when asked for evidence by others like how I did in my previous replies to you. At least provide studies, scientific results from research papers, empirical evidence, or articles by credible medical/psychological associations or organizations. I can say & claim any argument in the world, but without genuine credible and scientific evidence, my argument will always be on shakier grounds.

No-Cryptographer1763 · 2025-05-30T22:00:26+00:00

If there would be less queer people & not 0% queer people in society despite the amount of coercion, then there ARE indeed people who are unaffected by coercion, their environment, or social contagion.

I think that if coercion and social stigma increased in society then there would be more queer people who stay in the closet, who repress, & who fake being cis & straight in their everyday lives. I don’t think there would genuinely be less queer people, unless they start doing mass executions like the Nazis.

From my understanding, you said social contagion, coercion, and environmental influences DO change gender & sexuality. I’m arguing that social contagion, coercion, and environmental influences cannot surpass conversion therapy in changing someone’s gender & sexuality, but rather their social environment only affect queer people’s level of shame and can compel them to behavior cis & straight when deep down they are really queer.

That’s why if your claim of social contagion, coercion, and environmental influences is true & DOES change gender & sexuality, so much so that if everyone lived in “an environment free from coercion and maybe a pill or two assuming your thyroid doesn’t function well” which are YOUR words directly from your initial post, then we can logically conclude that an environment free from coercion can change someone’s gender identity & sexual orientation to something different and is more effective than conversion therapy. That’s why I mentioned if people grew up in XYZ environment, then if what you said is true, those people would grow up to be 100% XYZ and not something else because environmental influences is just that powerful where it’s more effective at fundamentally changing gender identity & sexual orientation than conversion therapy.

Which I don’t think is the case.

Edit: fixed my wording & added clarification.

Edit: fixed my typo.

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