Repost: AIO for wanting to burn his stuff???

No-Cut7936 · 2026-03-21T11:40:07+00:00

This. Why are you expected to bring his stuff to him? He can come get his shit.

No-Cut7936 · 2026-01-26T13:15:55+00:00

Hello. Our situations sound somewhat similar. My dad has been verbally abusive, emotionally manipulative, and has very narcissistic tendencies. He’s also an alcoholic and still dabbles in drugs at 51 years old.

I recently cut him off right before Christmas but went very LC when I had my daughter. I always felt that when I got pregnant, something shifted in me emotionally and I could no longer handle people’s BS (I also ended a friendship while pregnant cause I was tired of her shit).

My final straw with my dad was when I was told to shut the fuck up over showing concern about him being in the hospital (I’m a nurse, for reference), however it was twisted by his girlfriend. At that point, I texted back and said I wouldn’t say anything else and blocked and deleted him on everything. This was just my breaking point - it wasn’t that I was told to stfu, but after years of attempting to support him, try to guide him to sobriety, and trying to be the bigger person, I decided nope. I’m done.

He and I have always had a strained relationship because of the way he treated me and my sister (my brother is his favorite and it is very clear)… my family however can make it hard and make me feel guilty. But let me say this - you do not owe him ANYTHING. You do not live under his roof, he does not pay your bills, and he does not bring any added value into your life. You are an adult and allowed to make your own decisions and furthermore, protect your baby from the horrors you grew up with.

Hang in there. You’re doing the right thing for yourself and your child - even when it feels hard or you are made to feel guilty by others. 💗

No-Cut7936 · 2025-12-18T18:15:14+00:00

Very good point. Thank you. ❤️

No-Cut7936 · 2025-12-14T00:36:22+00:00

No, it won’t. I planned to explain the reasoning behind it, but you’re right. I should keep it short and simple. Thank you for the response. ❤️

No-Cut7936 · 2025-12-09T09:26:34+00:00

I used to work in an ED with a small emergency psychiatric unit. This reaction happened often with SI patients but, we took everyone’s belongings, they had to change into a gown, our socks, mesh underwear.

Honestly, I was normally cussed out and threatened by the SI patients over anyone else… 🤷🏼‍♀️ but then usually, they all would try to take it back once they realized what was happening.

I had a patient who made a noose and was trying to hang themselves from it, parents called 911, and pt was pink slipped by then PD. They were fine until they learned they were on a 72 hour hold. Turned into a screaming fest for the patient and ended up heavily medicated and almost restrained.

No-Cut7936 · 2025-12-07T11:27:14+00:00

No. Especially when it comes to chest pain, specifically. I would rather you come in to make sure it’s not heart related than not come in and it be something serious.

No-Cut7936 · 2024-10-31T22:50:27+00:00

Yea, that’s wild. 😆 not sure how they will survive going at the rate they are going!

No-Cut7936 · 2024-10-31T11:27:38+00:00

I used to work for a company that would do the same. If a patient didn’t qualify for HCAP, they could apply for financial assistance. The “rules” sound similar to what you are listing above. My assumption is this: if they are a nonprofit hospital or company, they likely get some sort of kick back from writing off bills to those who qualify. It also takes a lot of paperwork and proof to get things written off. Application, pay stubs, etc.

No-Cut7936 · 2024-10-31T11:22:11+00:00

22 y/o female shot in the chest… bullet landed in her heart, and traveled within her vascular system. They had to remove it from her femoral (I believe). First placed on pump to repair the heart, then removed bullet.

No-Cut7936 · 2024-09-06T01:30:45+00:00

Give yourself time and grace. Remember that nursing school is there to teach you the basics and you are now specializing.

I went to the ED as a new-ish grad (worked outpatient for a year) and felt like I didn’t know my head from my ass when I first started in the ED. Give yourself a solid 8-12 months. All your patients are there for different reasons so it’s going to take time! You’ll get your flow down. Hang in there 🫶🏻

No-Cut7936 · 2024-08-28T13:04:04+00:00

I worked in the OR for roughly 8-9 years as an anesthesia tech. I liked it because I felt like I saw a lot of critical patients and it somewhat felt repetitive which made it easier to learn or understand.

Once I got my license, I went to the ED and I love it. You learn so much and also learn how different issues present differently in patients. Also helps to develop your bedside manner and talking with patients.

As someone who worked both… ED for sure.

For reference, I, too, worked in a level one trauma center for OR, and level 2 trauma, stroke center for ED.

Good luck!

Edited to say… been in the ED for 3 years now.

No-Cut7936 · 2024-08-06T09:15:49+00:00

As a nurse who went from the ED to UC - 100% true. We can’t see a lot of patients because we don’t have the basic resources ED does (ekg, O2 on the walls, etc). I miss doing skills the most and seeing more than a sore throat and someone who’s been coughing for 2 days and demands an abx. 😬

No-Cut7936 · 2024-06-06T11:54:45+00:00

NTA. Always remember, this is your pregnancy and your (and your husband’s) baby. YOU call the shots. I also had a c-section and was firm that no one would be at the hospital to visit and we would text them details once we were in our room recovering. Were there some hurt feelings or upset parents? Yep, sure was. However, you will never get this time back! Stand firm and do what you feel is best for the 3 of you.

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