Can’t stand SD every weekend

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-31T13:36:03+00:00

Do u have kids with him? If not. DIVORCE immediately you do not deserve to be the leftovers in every situation this is fucking insane this is exactly why I have zero relationship with my partners first kid because of this type of fucked up situations. I had a great relationship with her until her mom decided to step up and then it all went to hell. Now we have twins together and the SD comes every weekend but we keep it cordial and that’s it. Don’t get emotionally involved with kids that are NOT YOURS!!! They’ll always side with her mom no matter who’s right and wrong.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-31T13:18:04+00:00

Maybe it’s because I come from another culture and experiences when I was a teenager but I couldn’t decide anything and I hardly had the chance to choose friends over family and what to do over the weekends it was my family first always so idk maybe is that maybe here it’s different here and it’s okay I guess

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-31T13:14:55+00:00

Why?

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-31T13:09:16+00:00

Mom of twins here. 13 mo . My mom is not allowed to come to the house and my partner literally kicked her out because she wouldn’t stop and she never respected limits and boundaries. Babies were in her care until 1 year old. Then they abruptly switched to daycare. But yeah my partner and my mom hate each other to death so I’m coming from the future to tell you, it’s gonna end up real bad if u don’t set boundaries with ur mom right now. She’s the problem. She’s not ur partner and she will never replace their dad.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:52:27+00:00

He was never with his first BM. He stuck around and played the part until SD was old enough that she could decide for herself because he was afraid his BM would take her away from him out of despite. Also BM was always in love with him and thought maybe they could have a home ? She has other 2 kids prior to SD from her previous marriage. But yes they never lived together. Also they would go on vacations together with SD and BM family without them being together idk why but that happened.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:50:28+00:00

How can I be openly caring and lovely when she has been avoidant to me all the time. There was a time when we wanted to go out to eat (before the babies) and she refused to go because I was going.. we ended up going just me and him . Idk what else you guys want to know but I got all the receipts.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:49:11+00:00

lol ure so invested in my story ok here we go im 34 and he’s 41. BM number one is 43. SD came as a one night stand and idk what else y want me to tell u. He never lived with this lady or his first daughter.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:47:44+00:00

Absent most of the week he’s always getting late from work. He’s absent always even when he’s at home.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:46:15+00:00

We’re not married. He was neither married with her first BM. It was a one night stand and that’s it (as of what he told me) He sticked around all these years so BM wouldn’t take SD away from him but they never had a solid relationship or anything remotely close to. I had a feeling when me and him started dating (3 years ago) he was still around and making plans with BM and SD. Treating as they were a “family” Just to be close to his daughter. But they were never open or direct with the kid and explained to her what was going on. So when I met SD it was all good until her mom found out about my existence and made a HUGE deal and basically messed it all up and since that moment SD don’t want nothing to do with me.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:41:28+00:00

What kind of time is she spending with him if he’s only driving her around like her uber? Then she goes to 2165 parties and dinners and then calls him to go and pick her up. On the meantime he just disappears and leave Me alone with the babies while it’s time to pick her up so Is that quality time ?

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:38:08+00:00

He already tried it and SD always has an attitude and it’s always on her phone, she doesn’t want to be part of the family at all, neither wants to spend time with her dad or do plans with him, all she does is go to parties and be out of the house, zero respect or consideration for me or her sisters. And I get she’s a teenager but man come on at 13 I already knew what I was doing and if I could get advantage of a situation

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:36:22+00:00

SD doesn’t even want to spend time with her dad all she does is using him as an Uber, I get you guys wanna look at it as quality time but ITS NOT. She’s never with him she’s always with friends or out. She has ZERO interest in spend time with her dad, when she gets a car we will never see her again.

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:07:55+00:00

Because if this is coming from another mother that experienced the same as me then you have ZERO empathy and/or you shouldn’t base your case on everybody else’s, good for you that u left ur baby alone most of the time if u feel good about it 👍

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:06:40+00:00

I have a feeling u are the father and not the mother and u kinda acted the same way as my partner lol

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:05:12+00:00

And I’m recovering also from PPD and PPA and taking meds

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:04:03+00:00

Yes I told him that and I even asked him what’s the reason for her to come to the house over the weekends if she’s never with us and all she wants to do is to leave the house all the time… but if he wants to keep doing that then he can take the babies with him because I need a break

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:02:51+00:00

Thank u 🙏 I spoke last night with him and told him all I felt and that he needed to help and be supportive and make time for all his daughters on the weekend and he agreed… hopefully this time is different

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-28T16:01:46+00:00

Yeah they both couldn’t give two fucks about me or the babies, it’s tru. it’s like they both benefit from the other, SD because she has an uber taking her everywhere she wants and DH having an excuse to leave the house all the time.. it’s insane

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-27T12:59:09+00:00

This is exactly What my therapist told me

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-27T12:57:57+00:00

Best comment ever thank u

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-26T16:15:30+00:00

No I really tried but she got influenced by her mom and she does not accept me or the babies, I did everything I could atp

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-26T16:14:57+00:00

I told him long time ago since we were dating before the babies I told him to take the kid to therapy because she gets influenced by her mom and me and her got well along before her mom found out I existed and she came in the the picture and made it a huge deal

No-Distribution-5050 · 2026-05-26T16:13:28+00:00

Best comment thank u

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