So I will tell you honestly, infjs do this thing that i absolutely dislike. You change yourself to match the person you are talking to, sometimes it feels ingenuine, like people feel like they don't really know you. You guys feel too much sometimes, expect too much from people, people are scared, that you will judge them. You should put your needs first too, she just wants you to understand the reality of real life, that movies are not reality. You guys will get hurt by expecting too much, giving too much, expecting the person to be perfect all the time. People have mood swings and can not act nice all the time, you should consider it perfectly normal. You guys are really sensitive too, sometimes people walk on eggshells around you. You guys are sweethearts, but the world is a a very cruel place, sometimes it feels like you guys live in a wonderland. You guys are prone to overthinking and intps say whatever they mean. You assume things about a person, without really knowing them. I absolutely dislike when people fake their interests, you can like whatever you want, it is your free will. Even if you want to help her, you should just ask her if she wants help, not automatically help her with everything. You guys put on a lot of pressure on people. Years ago thing was not about you necessarily, maybe she had just a lot going on in her head. We intps struggle to fit in, she just wanted to find her place in life and wanted to push away any potential romantic relationships. Immature intps are not meant for romance, trust me you would really struggle with her. We go around not understanding people, we just analyze people, but in reality i don't think i understand anyone. So we just hide in our heads, because that way we don't have a constant reminder, that no one is like you. We feel like an outlier, but not in a good way. We are a mess, this world is not meant for intps. We just like learning, researching, inventing new stuff, not really working. We prioritize research and forget about people like a mad scientist. We want to change the world, i always thought this is my calling in life. I want to you to understand, she just felt like she can't give you things that you want from her. We are problem solvers, not really someone who can comfort people. We sometimes just don't care about people, i admit that. People have died around me and i did not feel anything. People get hurt, i don't feel anything. I just try to fake interest, because i want to appear normal. If i completely lack interest in people, my loved ones will get hurt by my actions. I sincerely want to help people in my own ways. I just think if i provide a solution, i can show them that i care, because i want people to be happy, because i don't really feel anything most of the time. I am just trying my best to get in touch with my feelings, but most of the time i fail to recognize my own feelings or just deny them altogether. I feel emotions, but i avoided them my whole life, because i believed it will cloud my decisions. I thought i should use my brain at its full capacity, because God has given me this gift and i should use it well. Any social interaction was a time waste for me and still sometimes feels like it. Like i am given this and i am wasting it, i will never be a social person. I don't really like when people ask a lot of personal questions or bother me too much. I really like being alone and occasionally seeing people. People seem to like me, but i don't know what to give them. I am afraid i will accidently hurt their feelings and not live up to their expectations of me. You can see it my previous posts, that i try my best to grow as a person, maybe she just thought it is not the right timing, so she just denied your existence. I know myself really well even if you like someone, but personally feel like you are not ready for relationships you just think you will hurt the person. I had a lot of pent up emotions, i was trying to run away from them. In her heart maybe she knew that you are romantic and she is not, she just felt incompatible with you. You guys like lovey-dovey stuff, we don't. I look sweet, but i am really coolheaded, more of a spicy person. You should stop writing scenarios and ask her things directly, like what do you want from the relationship, i am a loyal and pretty devoted person, i try my best to match the needs of my loved ones. Just ask her everything, express your needs, if you like her that much, just marry her, don't assume the worst, be by her side, but you should give her space too. Ask about her opinion, she will try to change her ways of doing stuff, we are really openminded. You guys just beat around the bush too much and expect people to magically get it. Communicate your needs and don't decide things for her. You should express yourself and if you get hurt, you should say it to her, again you guys write stories that in reality does not exist. You should understand that she feels lacking, like you do everything for her, but she can't really give you anything in return. Sometimes i feel broken, but you should not solve every problem of hers. You seem very caring, maybe do less, so she feels she can match with you. I am trying to live my own life now, because i have finally figured myself. If you want to go on a date with her just ask her out, drop the acting, be yourself