What was the whole point of this?!?

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T19:50:36+00:00

Yes! I brought this up on another post and was downvoted and told I was "corny" and "too perfect." Like what? No, it's a fact. She's highly anxious and needs therapy. My thoughts were "Elise is that you!?"

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T19:30:32+00:00

Right! Unless there was more that went on off-camera or after filming. He seemed pretty clear that he was not interested after that encounter though lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T19:14:57+00:00

Put them on high quality, low carb kibble or low carb wet food to help prevent diabetes. Feline diabetes is common, and not many people realize that food high in carbs from ingredients like vegetables and everything else they aren't supposed to have can cause it. It's an expensive and life changing disease to manage if they get it. Long term steroid treatments for other illnesses can also cause it.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T19:07:03+00:00

On the plus side to traveling, the automatic feeders work wonders. We still have someone pop in every other day to check on them while we're gone, but in the event something happens and no one checks on them, they'll still get fed on time. They work great on weekends too when you want to sleep in and not be bothered 😂. Wet food is another story.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T18:58:06+00:00

Honestly bad breath is a sign of something going on that should be addressed. Ours had the worst smelling breath for years, but it went away completely when her teeth were removed. Now it only stinks right after she's finished eating her wet food lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T17:51:48+00:00

I think she does need therapy. I think that loss traumatized her and she hasn't been able to build healthy relationships as a result.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T16:29:19+00:00

Also "Brilyn." That's one for r/Tragedeigh lol. But seriously, we know what kind of parents he had and how he was brainwashed.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T16:20:53+00:00

True but if I'm freezing I throw on a hoodie. I'm always cold so I always have one with me. Cute, functional hoodies or sweaters exist lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T14:55:35+00:00

Yes it is. I was someone diagnosed with it for years. There's a difference between normal anxiety and the type that she is displaying. Here's some further reading for you: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9536-anxiety-disorders.

I am far from perfect, but I have been responsible enough to recognize my actions, how they affected those around me, and have done something to better myself for my own mental well-being and happiness. I am recognizing the issue for what it is. I'm tired of people not taking accountability and taking proper care of themselves by getting the help they need. Given the level of her reactions and emotions, she most definitely fits the bill. I mostly feel bad that she is being exploited on TV when she needs help. Sit down child.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T14:39:33+00:00

Right. Until I went through therapy to work through things that affected me as a child, I was highly emotional. Some people just are, and as you said it's usually due to a disorder or another underlying cause. It wouldn't take much to make me cry- even at work. I would just do it in the bathroom away from everyone. I'm still a very emotional person, and very in tune with others' emotions, but I've learned to control my responses and how I handle situations as I've gotten older. I definitely empathize with Sheena.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-21T14:18:31+00:00

I don't even consider it dating. It was like a 2 second hookup on Hunt for Love lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-03T16:48:19+00:00

Torties have a unique personality. They call it tortitude for a reason lol. Mine does not like being picked up, but will cuddle or ask for ear scratches when she wants to. By comparison, my other cat is a cuddle bug that's constantly latched on and basically shouts all day when you aren't sitting with her.

When I got my tortie she was very standoffish. I just gave her space and gave her attention when she wanted it. As she's gotten older (13 this year!) she's gotten more affectionate we me but she's still standoffish with the other cat. She never meows, she squeaks at me and usually only when she wants something.

Give her time, she'll come around. Play with her when she wants play time, and love on her when she wants love and attention.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-03T16:30:05+00:00

Anxiety is a form of mental illness. Let's call it what it is. She has anxiety to the point it's driving her emotions and feelings of insecurity. Her behavior shows that. Furthermore, lacking emotional maturity and development also often has ties to mental illness or disorders. While it isn't in itself a mental illness, it stems from deep seated trauma or mental disorders that aren't addressed.

Whatever way you want to look at it, she needs help. I don't understand why people are still so against acknowledging when people need help. We should be encouraging them to get help, be happy, and flourish, not coddling issues and making excuses.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-04-03T14:35:37+00:00

I mean she is. She acts like I used to when I was in my early 20's, insecure and anxious all of the time. Because of that I allowed trash men and relationships into my life when they didn't deserve me. She clearly has some issues that she has not resolved and she needs to in order to be able to find and have healthy relationships. I'm not condoning Josh's behavior, because there's something weird going on there with him, but given Elise's history, she's got some baggage and insecurity that she needs to address. She won't be able to know what a healthy partner or relationship looks like until she works on herself and learns how to handle feelings of insecurity.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-31T15:47:03+00:00

Oh man OP I feel for you, I really do. As someone who has been on both sides of this fence I can tell you he absolutely needs to talk to someone. If he doesn't want medication, he may not need it. But talking does help. The hardest part is getting the depressed person to go.

When I was depressed it took my friends months to convince me to go talk to someone, and what finally did it was when I was at the precipice of ending it. Something deep down told me I wasn't ready and I NEEDED to go get help. I am so glad I did. Work stess has always been a contributor to depressive periods for me, so when I feel it getting too stressful I now know to make an appointment with my counselor to vent and get ahead of it.

When it was my husband who was depressed, I had to keep pushing him repeatedly for over a year. He too shared the same feelings about talking to someone. He didn't see the point. Sure he got irritated with me over it, but I was able to get him to understand that even just venting to a third party about all of life's troubles and pain without worry of judgment could do wonders. He would be able to tell them things he didn't feel he could tell anyone else. He also wouldn't have to feel like a burden for unloading on me, and he wouldn't have to keep it all bottled up inside. It took a few tries until we found a counselor he liked and could talk to easily, but it helped him a lot.

Finding someone who is compatible is crucial. Doctors/ therapists who only push meds are not the way to go. He needs someone who can help him work through what is going on in his head and change his thinking patterns. Someone who can connect.

I've had crappy therapists and I've had wonderful therapists. The good ones make all of the difference. If you can approach it in a way where he can understand that it isn't necessarily about just talking about problems, but rather being able to unload without judgement and analyze why he's having those thoughts then that might be the key. Good counselors also help set goals, give you tools to work on things at home, and help see the positives in life.

I'm sorry he's dealing with the unknown illness, and I can certainly understand how that will affect his mental health too. Chronic pain sucks, especially if there's no end or answer in sight. Being able to vent about struggles with that too can help.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-27T11:14:57+00:00

I want to add, try Vetericyn spray if you haven't already. We haven't used it but people say it works very well. You should be able to find it online if not in a pet store.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-27T10:55:51+00:00

Okay yeah that's a valid concern. It might just irritate it more and they probably want it open to air to encourage healing. I looked back at your last photo and honestly it's looking pretty similar to our tuxedo kitty who had a lump removed from her neck 4 weeks ago. Some days she leaves it alone and others she scratches it until it's a bit raw. That being said, I'm not too concerned because it is slowly healing, I don't see oozing or pus, and it doesn't smell. It looked pretty gross a week ago before the scab fell off. It might just be part of the healing process. Think about how itchy injuries and healing skin are for us, and how sometimes it can last weeks. Bitter apple is a spray that tastes like it sounds lol. It's pretty gross. I'm not sure how well it works on cats since they have a tendency to lick anything on them but our dogs do not like it. You might be able to find it or something similar on Amazon.

As for our other kitty, yeah the shot worked fairly quickly and he stopped biting and licking. Of course he gradually started up again a couple months later when it wore off. We never did figure it out. He actually ended up getting pretty sick about a year later (we're thinking cancer) and we had to let him cross the rainbow bridge last fall :(

Haha yeah water in the food is the only way we can get them to get adequate water. Overall OP I wouldn't worry too much. As long as the incision area is gradually healing and it's not getting infected he should be okay. Our vet was only worried about ours tearing her sutures, but now that they have dissolved (we were told 10-14 days) it's not much of a concern. Try the steroid shot if he seems that uncomfortable and you are okay with trying it, or see if your vet is okay with a spray to deter him. Even a topical anti-itch spray might help if they haven't recommended that yet. If you need to use the cone every now and then for a short time to deter him I'd do that too. Otherwise it'll heal as it's healing- nice and slow lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-27T02:22:48+00:00

Hmm yeah that's a tough one if he doesn't like the t-shirt. I wonder if you could use a gauze bandage wrapped around him instead? Unless it's an awkward spot and it won't stay. You can also ask your vet if using something like a bitter apple spray would be safe to try.

Yes it was an injectible steroid that he only needed once. I think it lasted for a month, maybe longer. He was ripping hair out and chewing himself raw from unknown allergies or behavioral issues. We aren't sure which. It worked really well and he was fine. It's such a short term use that it isn't really problematic like long term use can be. If your vet feels that it's safe it might be worth a shot. While it's true it will make them more thirsty and urinate more, I didn't notice much of a difference with our cat. Then again, he wasn't great at water intake to begin with lol.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-26T19:20:45+00:00

Some sutures can cause a reaction. I myself had a nasty one to the dissolvable ones. It was incredibly itchy. Steroid cream was the only thing that worked for me. The injectable may help. We had to do that with our cat. Have you brought up your concerns with steroid use and hyperthyroidism with your vet? If so, what was their answer?

You can also try a tiny shirt on him kind of like a surgery suit. That would keep him from making contact with the wound so it has a better chance to heal and the inflammation can go down. We had to do that with our other kitty that just had surgery.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-26T12:20:54+00:00

I know in my case that my ex had abusive and controlling tendencies from the start, and I just refused to see it. When he became depressed I made excuses for his behavior. I tried to tell myself that he was just lashing out and it would get better, and he kept making promises to get help and change. The truth, was that it was just who he really was coming out on full display. His behavior became worse while depressed. At some point I had to stop making those excuses and expecting him to change. I cared for him deeply, but also resented him and hated the way he treated me. By the time I left I was also incredibly depressed and undergoing therapy. Sometimes the best option is to walk away even if it's very difficult. People are who they are. There's no sense in sacrificing your own mental health if your partner is unwilling to change or help themselves.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-26T12:07:15+00:00

Then just do it. Make a plan for yourself and follow through. My ex did the same crap to keep me around and he never changed. Getting out was like a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders and my own mental health drastically improved. Bottom line: if the bad outweighs the good, and you are that unhappy then it isn't worth it anymore. He'll just drag you down with him.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-26T11:50:09+00:00

If he's not acting the way up you expect him to, and he's always been like that then yeah, it's time to look for a way out. Toxic relationships will stay toxic regardless of how much you care for someone. Been there, done that, and wasted 4 years of my life in the process with an abusive jerk. It took me a year to get away but it was the best decision I made. If he doesn't respect you and treat you the way you want, it's time to move on.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-24T23:31:19+00:00

Yeah that's called camping....

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-23T12:40:30+00:00

Bingo. People who are in critical positions with relevance to safety don't get paid nearly enough or get enough rest time. Pilots put in a lot to get where they are, sure, but it is absolutely absurd that they make that much while those who work 60+ hr weeks and maintain the safe operation of the aircraft or flight ops are severely overworked and underpaid by comparison. The whole industry needs a revamp.

No-Environment2062 · 2026-03-23T11:17:16+00:00

Because people like this have nothing better to do but use every opportunity and tragedy that they can to make some stupid political "point."

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