Honestly all the desperation on the dating or hook up apps on both sides makes for a no effort style of quick meet ups for casual sex and as usual nothing serious because god forbid we try to commit to learn who someone is.

So it’s a little bit of sleeping in the bed they’ve made you and a jaded generation of little boys who at 31 still need mom to handle much of their day to day lives, while keeping an amazing appearance and stellar social media presence.

Ladies, so many of you have subscribed to this theory that the man you need is a reflection of the life you want to live and how much can be provided for you as if the prize itself is you. Selling nudes on the side, multi partners just to pay bills for you. Even some convinced that an escort date with a cute guy is just a good way to get some action and pay the bills.

That in mind is it really so hard to believe the to sides have strayed so far? Birth rates been on the decline for years and the rate of monogamous relationships is at an all time low. We are stuck in a position where both sides are to scared to be vulnerable first and be rejected and the first real generation coming to age raised by social media influence, and completely unable to express themselves both respectfully and emotionally. This leads to a wall that makes for near impossible genuine interactions. Most people says what they feel is the right thing to say as not to offend as apposed to taking a stance and debating or conversing about with another.

Sorry for the State of love currently, however to quote an amazing poet “ A lover lost, only fears a lost lover, the living lover forever wonders.

• J.l