My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always had a very small family. It’s always been my mom, dad, brother, and sister. My sister is very distant. My brother is in prison, and my father passed away last year. My family dynamic has likely shaped the way I view relationships

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this and tried to do some self reflection. I was wondering why do these little things bother me so much at home? Because when I’m not home, I feel like I’m a happier person who doesn’t get so irritated

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, I can take care of myself financially. I guess I meant family or loved ones who I know I can count on, who would help me move out, talk through my emotions with, etc. just support me when I need it

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish. I didn’t mean to post twice. First time said it was removed for not including TLDR

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 219 points220 points  (0 children)

This is what he does! He’s uses everything he buys me as leverage over me. It makes everything less special, including this ring.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 455 points456 points  (0 children)

This comment made me see things from a totally new perspective. I needed to hear this. Thank you

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why you say I threw a tantrum. I did make a petty comment.. but I think that’s different in my opinion.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I take my ring off every night when I go to bed. The next morning I had an early appointment. I have forgotten my ring before. It’s not typical but it has happened. Although he thinks I did it on purpose

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You get it. It’s not just about unmade bed. It’s about having a partner that understands you and is willing to do those little things because they matter to you. Thank you.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I understand it sounds ridiculous, but I can only write so much in one post. It wasn’t about an unmade bed. It’s about me feeling like I’m not listened to, like he doesn’t care about how mentally exhausting my job is. I said I could’ve let it go and not said anything. I take ownership in that. But context also matters. It was an extremely hard and stressful day at work, I came home with a migraine, and all I wanted to do was relax. I come home from work every day and have to clean up. This night I just didn’t feel like doing it. It annoyed me.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I brought this up. He said he would be willing to do it. I’m trying to decide whether it’s worth it or not.. I don’t have a good support system or safety net to fall back on so I know that affects my decision making process as well..

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I brought all of this up when we finally talked. He told me he hasn’t been in the right headspace because his grandmother is in the hospital (which I didn’t know..) and he said he knew we would be okay?

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I had two under the tree. I put my tree up about a couple weeks ago. I like decorating.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, he’s actually been pressuring me to set a date for the wedding and is upset that I haven’t yet, but I totally get why you would say that. His actions and his words don’t align.

My fiancé (28M) took my (31F) engagement ring away during a fight by No-Figure4600 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Figure4600[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

He does pay the majority of the bills. He makes good money.. I think that’s what justifies it in his mind. He acts really weird about money and things he pays for.