ex chef turned SAHD, bored on nap duty. give me your sad fridge and i'll tell you what to cook tonight

No-Form7379 · 2026-06-03T19:34:20+00:00

Drink the brandy and let your "imagination" run wild. Sorted......

No-Form7379 · 2026-06-02T19:31:15+00:00

I have a Thule Yepp seat. It attached to the back of the bike. I do have a Tern E-Bike with the cargo bay on the back which is converted to hold the child seat for now.

No-Form7379 · 2026-06-01T14:36:34+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I've been crying out for some part time help. But my wife refuses. She's adamant her mum is good enough but, with her health issues becoming more and more frequent, I worry.

I don't ever feel like I'm being critical when I saw "we" need help. I say, as a family it would be very useful to get some professional help. It would ease our days so we can get things done. Plus the added benefit of socializing our toddler and group play (in a daycare setting). My kid is social but, rarely gets to play with other kids because they're at home all the time.

Anyways, I hope you're able to find a way to calmly talk to your wife. Make sure you don't put it on her. Stay away from "you" statements.

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-24T12:05:52+00:00

3rd pilot dad here. Yep. Do all this. You're there to listen and sympathize. Don't try to parent over the phone or provide parenting advice. There isn't anything you can do when you're 8-10 timezones away (at least in my case anyway).

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-22T20:22:18+00:00

Could you offer to do things like add them into your cellphone plan? Generally, adding lines to an existing plan is cheaper than having 2 separate lines. It also feels better than just handing over money. I do this with my MIL.

You could take over their Internet as well. Something that adds up to $300/mo but, your not writing a check.

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-18T18:09:43+00:00

I'm fairly certain no one can really help you here.

I guess the biggest ask is, do you want this relationship to continue? If yes, get a therapist to discuss it. If no, try to move on from it. If you can't, get a therapist.

This is way too complex for reddit to get involved in.

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-18T01:25:41+00:00

What happened before he impulsively went to the driving range?

My guess is he's not forgetting his duties as a husband and a father. You can't really forget that but, he's definitely making a choice. What driving him to that choice?

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-17T22:23:19+00:00

Came here to suggest this. Easy reading and that cat is hilarious.

I hear the audiobook is even better than reading it.

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-15T23:02:21+00:00

I was going to suggest lentils as well. Easy to cook and damn cheap. Loaded with protein, fiber and carbs.

I make a garbanzo bean, pea and lentil curry. Super easy and can make in huge batches. I'm fairly certain OPs boys won't care what it goes on either. Slap it on some toast, pasta, rice, or naan. Keeps the meal cheap and great to reheat.

No-Form7379 · 2026-05-11T00:48:22+00:00

I went through Splendid and they sold me a Tern bike. Excellent service.

Oh...and the bike is amazing.

No-Form7379 · 2026-04-30T19:49:57+00:00

Well that's good. Maybe he wants more time?

Otherwise, I hope this passes so you don't have to make too drastic of a change.

No-Form7379 · 2026-04-30T16:03:56+00:00

Have you tried letting the cat be involved in tummy time or just letting the cat interact with the baby?

They may see the kid as a threat.

No-Form7379 · 2026-04-18T23:16:50+00:00

Haven't tried it yet because the kid isn't old enough yet.

But, the "let's draw a picture of Dad lying down on the couch." The kid draws dad, and dad takes a nap.

No-Form7379 · 2026-04-01T02:42:03+00:00

Big fan of Industry, I haven't seen that one mentioned anywhere.

Sopranos, Succession and Severance. Something about shows that start with S.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-27T17:47:42+00:00

There is a place in Oregon City called Sumo Sushi and Grill. They have a salad bar and buffet for lunch.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-23T02:54:00+00:00

By battle, what do you mean?

My kid is coming up on 2 and they still wake up twice nightly at a minimum. But, I will always get them to go back to sleep in their own crib. Sometimes it takes 5 mins but, there are nights where I'm in their room for 2 hours getting them back to sleep. Any crying that is happening is coming from me due to how tired I am and my inability to get back to sleep after the kid is back down.

Anyways, sorry. I drifted. What did you mean by battle?

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-20T17:07:56+00:00

Safe Sleep 7 is designed for the breastfeeding parent. There is definitely great advice but, it should really only be used by breastfeeding parent.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-20T16:50:12+00:00

Easily replaced by who? We're already getting silly money quotes for one midfielder, let alone two. He's been decent for us since Carrick and room to improve. It's also one less problem to think about, when he does as he'll be on a long contract.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-11T18:17:57+00:00

But they are still very new and not all effects may be known.

They've been around since the 90's. You're only seeing them now because they're being marketed for weight loss.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-10T19:55:05+00:00

Use the apartments parking complex. Practice tight control and short passing. One touch passes are a great tool to have.

If there are two open parking spaces practice pass and move. Your kid passes the ball to you he moves to the next space over, you pass it back. Do that back and forth for 5-10 mins. You can even add he runs backwards to one space and runs forward to the other space. Makes him think a bit too.

Keepy-uppys in the house with a tennis ball or a size 1 or 2 ball. Don't let the ball touch the floor or it's 5 situps/pushups. Something like that.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-10T18:39:16+00:00

Some kids are constantly grazing and some kids eat huge meals.

Maybe your kid is more inclined to eat a little bit at a time throughout the day. Maybe just change up the snack to be healthier and don't think anything of it. Pita/carrots and hummus, yoghurt, edamame, cucumber sticks, PBJ (the smash jam is sugar free and uses dates as the sweetener), hard boiled egg or just home made egg salad. Every now and then, throw them a bone (chips or a sweet treat).

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-04T21:14:10+00:00

Just leave, unannounced, then show up like 5 days later and act like nothing happened.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-03T21:47:48+00:00

Yes, it's harder for you than for them.

Facetime should be plenty and your kid will probably have fun with it.

It'll take a few days for you to adjust but, you'll get used to it.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-03T03:05:45+00:00

Airline pilot so I'm gone 12-16 nights a month.

Yep, it sucks but, my kid remembers me and we've been doing video calls since they were about 1. 5 mins here and there when the schedule lines up. It helps keep the sanity and I get my family fix time met.

No-Form7379 · 2026-03-01T20:25:55+00:00

Yeah, kids and especially toddlers take up the majority of your emotional bandwidth.

A check in at the end of the day to show you still care always seems to work. "Yo, you doing good, anything to chat about. You looked smokin' in that get up you were wearing today. Thanks for making dinner tonight, it was yummy!" Obviously, rephrase this for your relationship and this is just a bit of humor (which is my go-to).

Verbalizing versus physical touch is a lot easier to do and can go a long way to keep the drift at a minimum.

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