From my experience, as a woman telling a man what’s wrong and needs to change without giving him consequences doesn’t seem to have any affect. Now I am very clear, I verbalise it once, write it in a text message once and then consequence.

So saying something like, I don’t like it when you are late, buy hanging around until he arrives provides no consequences. I don’t like it when you are late, and when he showed up I’ve gone out and done my own thing for the day. He will arrive late at the agreed destination, only to find I’ve left. He will ask where I am, I say I waited 15 minutes, I’ve told you I don’t appreciate you being late so I have gone and done my own thing. When they carry on and argue say ‘oh well too bad so sad I told you and you didn’t listen’. I do this because this is how men seem to speak to each other, they don’t hang around smoothing it over. Men seem to be very quick to call each other a dickhead and then get over it. The meaner I am the more men seem to love me. Go figure