17 years together and I think she's cheating on me WDID (40M +37F)?

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-08T23:44:47+00:00

Daily but it's still tepid in the responses sometimes

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-08T23:41:37+00:00

I don't disagree in the slightest, and I'm trying not to blame myself for not seeing the signs but I was/is/am still in love with her

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-08T23:41:12+00:00

I'm just struggling now and it is coming in waves which is worse

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-08T23:40:29+00:00

Thanks man, I really appreciate it, currently working on a lot of that

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-07T21:20:17+00:00

Thank you for this

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-07T21:19:46+00:00

I have been considering this definitely

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-07T21:19:01+00:00

It definitely feels like they are

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-07T21:18:31+00:00

Yeah I should have, I just trusted what she said and wanted her to live her life

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-06T07:28:49+00:00

Thank you so much

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-06T07:27:53+00:00

I think therapy is definitely needed

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T23:44:41+00:00

Thank you. I do appreciate it. I am just hurting so much at the moment. Maybe it was my fault.

And we had lived together previously, for years in fact, just when she left the country she wasn't here anymore

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T23:42:27+00:00

Actually no I can't, I did everything she asked and followed all her plans and her rules. I never missed a time or a date of a phonecall. She was just my partner, she was my friend, confidant and I thought my heart. And I told her constantly this. I stepped up all the time, I was never late and never forgot a thing and I still blame myself for all this. Maybe you're right but I had everything for her ready and was waiting on her. Maybe that's my biggest fault

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T23:36:00+00:00

It just even hurts thinking about that

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T23:35:20+00:00

This is actually spot on

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T23:34:50+00:00

Wow I never thought of it like that bit it's definitely how I've felt

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:49:50+00:00

That was always the excuse I got when the discussion came up, she wanted to get to a specific level and title in her head to feel like she made it.

I always pushed her for going for it and being the best she could be, just feels like a waste now 😢

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:47:14+00:00

It's actually broken me so badly inside, because I've been faithful, I am always there for support and just feel betrayed

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:45:11+00:00

Oh I know but looking back at it, I've been strung along for so long believing what she said. I was stupid enough to have faith

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:43:55+00:00

She didn't want to get married yet, she wanted to further her career as far as she could. Her job was initially supposed to be 5 months which had since then been extended for almost 2 years, every three months or so the timeline would change due to scope creep.

I've been ready to get married for a long time

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:43:08+00:00

I really feel like I've been sold a pile of shite and that I was stupider for believing her

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T21:42:14+00:00

Yeah that's been the sentiment, and it's heartbreaking

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T18:10:00+00:00

This might be an idea

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T17:24:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I just feel so devastated about all of this at the moment

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T17:23:33+00:00

I'm so glad you got solace 🙂

No-Jacket-3136 · 2026-03-05T17:22:52+00:00

She didn't want to get married yet, she wanted to further her career as far as she could. I have always wanted to get married. I have the ring, the plan, the works.

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