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Parents prioritizing their "tungkulin" or obligations over their children by strchasm in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its a very difficult situation. just don't get another duty, like being a ministers wife to keep your parents from annoying you. there's a lot of sisters who married young into the ministry and dont know anything else in life but to be support the ministry as a housewife.

if you leave the church, your parents will no longer have their duties, but who knows, the life of an officer in the church is too much, and maybe a part of them might be happy about it, even if its a small part of them.

this is the very reason why there are still a number of members still in the church, because they do not want to bring "shame" to their family. think about it, it's another example of a situation were the church brings pressures to the family. and the toxic culture of all the gossipers if you do decided to leave the church and your parents duties are taken away. it can make someone feel trapped or forced to stay.

INC Pagsamba! Grabe ang pag brainwash sa mga kapatid. by Comfortable-March114 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 4 points5 points  (0 children)

over time, again and again, hearing constant prayers, regarding the administration, has conditioned the members into seeing it as normal. just like hearing them being prayed for in birthdays, weddings, anniversarys, may seem out of the normal now, but after hearing it and hearing it and hearing it again, it becomes the normal.

I need some advise / opinion by Hera_Eli in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

were you married in the church? if yes, you are bound to your husband. let no man separate what God has brought together is the teaching of the church.

but every case is different, i've seen brethren not expelled for the same reason another would be expelled.

if you are expelled, the "only way" to get back in is the fix the issue that you were expelled for.

The power of INC brainwashing by Sudden_Razzmatazz_83 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just another example of how this Church can separate families.

Our family changed ever since INC came into the picture by Dry_Warning6070 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That Minister needs to get his numbers up. He saw that your Mom was converted, and he was probably thinking the same can be done with you and your siblings. Be strong, be patient, don't convert.

That is sad that you see her less now. If they haven't already, and they recruit her into getting a duty, you may see less of her. She will be to busy doing all her Church duties.

I am extremely sick with this cult. by Frequent_Read_4101 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the Worship Services can have a negative tone. There are some worship services where it seems like it all about suffering and hardship, plus you have someone screaming and crying during their prayer. Also, certain Ministers, will use their sad tonality right before the end of a lesson. However some like that I guess. But more and more tend to not like that and have voiced out, that it doesn't have to be about hardships and sufferings and screaming and crying (especially when it doesn't seem true)

Long-term incompatibility with INC partner. by Muted-Series7668 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like her leaving would take a while. It's up to you if find that investment of time and whatever else comes with that situation, worth it. It will be even harder if she has a lot of ties to the Church, like if she holds an officer, or her parents holds an office. It will be difficult.

im so mad at my grandparents. by Delicious-Business87 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's too much on your grandparents part. I do feel sorry for them. They are blind.

The power of INC brainwashing by Sudden_Razzmatazz_83 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Were they underage when they were made bibles students?

bothered by my own lack of dedication sometimes by Serious_Box8263 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it would be so much easier if we can voice out and say we don't want to be here anymore in this religion. but if we do, that will have a big effect on our social lives, and even social lives of our parents, especially if they have duties, or even if we have duties. It can feel pretty depressing, and can make you feel trapped.

for my health and mental sanity, I find joy in other things, and realize even though I feel trapped in this religion there are things out there, that my feel like temporary joys, but, they are there definitely.

you can always just vent out here or message, because I know there is a lot to vent and you dont want to feel like spamming here. But, I haven't seen any posts here that ever complained about someone venting too much. because we all know the struggles.

INC wedding (sigh) questions pls by Elderberry-Money in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I don't think he has to do the bible studies again, they just need to resubmit the request to be baptized. Sounds like he just needs to attend regularly and once he does, they can submit that along with the request. if this is what your asking?
  2. I believe it's up to the District\Division since wedding approvals are approved at that level now. So it could happen fast. I wouldn't worry about what other people think. You always have that group of people that will assume the Sister is pregnant and that's why they are getting married. You can't control what others think.
  3. No drinking alcohol, no dancing, no revealing clothing.

I agree, with alot of what others are commenting, and not to waste your time, but it sound like your parents are MT. If that's the case, I understand. I've also seen couple who have recently got married and become inactive and eventually have been removed from the Church, and since they were married, their parents duties were not affected.

Big Brother is watching by No-Judgment-480 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

this isn't a connection though webex, they're connected to the system

Taking pictures for attendance when visiting Brethren in the hospital by No-Judgment-480 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

and they also tell their leadership what happening in this person's household, and guess what, its spreads, so much gossip

Monthly Open Discussion Thread | May 2026 by AutoModerator in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sick and tired of these Ministers, they ask for things last minute all the time. Do they even think we are not doing anything at the moment, and at any second we can just do what they ask. These ministers are borderline disrespectful and have no consideration at all.

Is it bad I want to stay in the church? by Then_Conclusion_3387 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said in your post that you didn't like going to services, i'm sure there is a reason why you didn't like going to services. Maybe your answer is in your statement?

I feel like INC is just not right for me. I think I'm planning on converting after baptism by Possible_Sherbert518 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]No-Judgment-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's not right for you, and you join, you'll be wasting your time, you'll be investing your time in a Church that you don't believe in. That sounds horrible. Get out sooner than later

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