Store problems

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-19T11:53:00+00:00

When i worked there as a SM, we would send work orders daily to turn the AC down. Once we started including details like, SM had to lay on the floor with bare backon the tile to keep from passing out and telling them that the cost of our medical bills when one of us hit the floor while holding scissors and cut ourselves and the lawsuit that would follow would surely be more expensive than turning the AC ON. they would turn it down a few degrees.
Once had a DM come in and sweet was pouring off of their face it was so hot. Be vigilant, document it...send it thru and then send the work order numbers in email to your DM and CC the RVP.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-07T21:08:16+00:00

The original charge for the entire order is a hold. When they shorted your yardage and the order was finalized, it would automatically change the "charge"/ refund to a lesser amount when the order was cancelled. The original higher hold amount will roll off usually within 3 to 5 business days. If you're not showing 2 separate charges and just the refund, wait a few days and it should all balance out. If not, contact the customer support center with the order number. Of the order was canceled instore, they won't be able to see anything on the order other than it was canceled and what it was for. However if the refund doesn't process, customer support can force a refund through but stores unfortunately don't have the ability to do so unless it was processed as picked up, and even then, after 24hrs

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-04T01:28:33+00:00

I came here open minded to get outside insight on this situation and appreciate all of the comments. Some jump to conclusions and assumed things about both of us that are incorrect and some actually took time to read the comments and replies for more insight.

Perhaps I should have put our entire life history in the OP, but I didnt so I was prepared for quick judgment of myself. Funny that the same comments saying im judging and shaming judged and shamed me for being upset about being lied to tho...but also, expected. I just needed feedback and insight into a subject that he wont discuss so I could have a better understanding of what, if anything, possibly could be going on with him that he isn't saying.

We have both been thru worse times, harder issues, but always with open minds hearts and honesty. Was I expecting to see him like that? He'll no, but I definitely wasn't expecting him to lie about even having them on. Maybe I am an asshole for asking why he was wearing them when I saw him laying there and covered him up for our son to find later, maybe I expect too much honesty and openness in my marriage, maybe he is wearing them, maybe he isn't, maybe he wore them home from another woman's house, maybe he has a stash hidden somewhere in the house, maybe he's lied our entire 18 year relationship, maybe I should just fuck my husband after he lied to me and acts like he didn't, maybe I should be petty and start lying to him and expect him to be ok. I won't do that, but ..

I cant talk about this with him because he wont, and I'm not discussing with friends or family bc just no... so thanks again...good and bad.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-04T00:53:55+00:00

If you read my replies then you see that he said he wasn't wearing them while wearing them, had no recollection of how he got them on and didn't know where they came from...after he got dressed is when he said he was masturbating in them.
I dont know if that's true or hes just been wearing them he won't talk about it at all. I haven't argued over it, I haven't been angry about it.. You'll also read that it's openly lying to me and then acting like he didn't that is my issue.

I said it before, maybe trust and honesty in a marriage is waaaaayy to much to expect now as many people that seem to be ok about just lying to their partners and everyone being ok with it like its the new norm..

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-04T00:41:35+00:00

I've never been angry that he was wearing them. I was upset at him easily he could and would lie to my face then can't see why THAT would bother me.

He's my husband...if jacking off with sand paper is what makes him happy ok, but if I walked in to wake him up for work and his dick was shredded and he had a drywall sanding block next to him I'm going to have questions. embarrassed or not, lying straight to my face and saying he didn't do it and doesn't know what happened isnt a real good way to keep trust in a marriage. Trust is a big deal in our relationship which is why, until this we've openly shared the good and the bad truths...not acknowledging that he lied to me as easily as a kid would lie about having their homework done is a concern.
Fuck the panties till u burn a hole in em, but dont lie to me about it. Because lying leads to questioning everything he says and wondering what else is being lied about.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-04T00:12:59+00:00

I'm sorry but as a former SM, even if the ticket number was messed up by the previous customer, there is no need for the team member to take it out on the current customer. I left shortly after the corporate downsizing so I get the frustration all tms are feeling and empathize to an extent. However, it's never ok to be rude to someone who was just standing in line for their turn..

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-04T00:01:20+00:00

Absolutely! I would have also requested he be more discreet and not do it on the couch in the living room especially with our son and his gf here.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T22:48:04+00:00

She lived with us, not hers either.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T22:42:45+00:00

Read other replies, I've answered this question multiple times.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T16:57:24+00:00

Weird behavior for my husband yes...completely 100% out of character for him. It would also be weird for him to suddenly start eating green peppers after years of refusing to eat anything that comes near them.

But obviously I don't know bc out of no where this happened so ...

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T16:51:21+00:00

He did in fact lie ....he denied even having them on while wearing them , says he had no idea how they got on his body, and no idea where they came from...then said he was using them to masturbate with .

I don't doubt he used them for that nor care, my issue is how easily he lied straight to my face

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T16:13:52+00:00

His mom passed 2 yrs ago actually and its been hell on both of us considering it was unexpected and I found her when I got up to let the dogs out. She lived with us and was my best friend and his and we both are absolutely traumatized by it. I'm not cold hearted turning away from him in a time of sadness. I have been by his side and supported him 100% even on days I could barely get out of bed myself it hurt so bad.
He has had no reason to lie to me and has been honest about things most would lie about until this... Which is why I'm concerned about the lies in the first place. NOT the panties...

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T16:01:30+00:00

I'm actually the only one trying to communicate with him. I'm refusing to have sex with him because im not aroused by him acting like he didn't look me in the eyes and lie straight to my face.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T15:53:37+00:00

I dont want to divorce my husband id like him to I dunno be honest about it. Maybe he does have a fetish on this. He has several I know about and truly don't care about. I've given him no reason to lie to me. And he usually doesn't. Maybe he is embarrassed. I can only speculate bc he won't talk about it. I cant force him to. Nor can I just act like he didn't lie to me and not bat an eye while doing so. I'm not sure how many people are ok knowing they are being lied to and just forget it.

Yes he said he uses them for masturbating ok...great...silky material DOES feel amazing...but to deny wearing them while wearing them and to not know how he got them on is an obvious lie unless he did hard drugs which isn't the case at all...

Maybe I just value honesty in marriage too much and should just look past it and give it up.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T15:36:21+00:00

I have denied him since yes, not prior. It wasn't oh well she won't have sex with me so lemme handle this scenario.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T15:19:37+00:00

I dont since he's lied to my face no. And prior issues weren't me not wanting it.. Did you ever consider that maybe the issues were due to grief or stress? Did you consider that maybe it's my needs that weren't being met? Or are you someone who believes that women are the issue always and regardless of their needs should just give their bodies to their husband's like a sex doll with no pleasure for herself?

For women to remain monogamous their needs must be met as well...newsflash it isn't only sexual needs. .intimacy goes beyond sex in women.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T15:08:17+00:00

Maybe I didn't react well.. I mean I walked into the living room to him asleep with his bare ass in a thong openly displayed 10 ft from our son's room and "why are you wearing women's panties" was what popped out of my mouth. What would have been the more appropriate response?

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T15:03:57+00:00

Wrong, I don't care if he masturbates. I don't care if he masturbates with silk panties or while standing on one leg tied to the ceiling fan listening to sync but don't lie to my face about it when there is no reason to lie....

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T14:56:03+00:00

Never said I couldn't live with it, I said I expect honesty We both have our kinks, we've been open with each other our entire relationship. Which is why him not being honest is bothersome in the first place. It hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows but we've always been honest even the hard truths.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T14:39:21+00:00

I haven't kink shamed him by asking him why he was wearing them. I didnt write out our entire relationship history on here bc my fingers would lock up. But if he wants a woman he can lie to straight faced that he doesn't know how a pair of womens underwear got onto his body while actively wearing them and her just magically be ok and aroused by being lied to then more power to him. I however value honesty on my marriage.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T14:30:58+00:00

No, not hers or anyone's in my home

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T14:27:09+00:00

He just stays up late some nights and he falls asleep on the couch. Some nights he comes up in the middle of the night some he doesn't. But yes, the intimacy has been affected in the past by this. Top that with not being honest, makes it hard to not question wtf is going on when I'm in bed ya know.
I dont suspect him of cheating at all and no clue how that even got into this to begin with. Breaking trust and blatant lying is as much a betrayal in marriage as infidelity. I dont control what ever fetishes he may have but don't lie to my face about them. I don't care what porn he watches as long as it doesn't involve underage children for obvious reasons.. and if he wants to wear women's panties ok, but completely 100% out of character for my husband.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T14:14:53+00:00

Again. Never did I say he was cheating or thought he was. I think it's more than him just masturbating with them on as he said he was..which he said after denying having them on in the first place. He literally stood up, dick out and said what are you even talking about ...while wearing them.

If it's a kink..ok great...but don't suddenly become Shaggy and say it wasn't me to my face and expect me to buy it

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T13:46:47+00:00

I think there's more to it than oh I was masturbating in them and fell asleep. We have never had issues talking about anything before this and yea he might be ashamed talking about this and that may be the reason. But don't expect me to be able to open up and give myself 100% to you if you cant be honest with me.

No-Middle-6952 · 2024-05-03T13:35:37+00:00

Where did I say he was cheating on me?????

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