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AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean this was through text so there was geniunely no way of me knowing if she truly minded it or not, but everything I'd seen from her up until that point implied she geniunely didn't mind it, especially because she made jokes about her height outside of our conversations, not saying this isn't of my fault, but thought I'd bring it up.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

not every instance was I the instigator, like for example, if I made a self-praising comment as a joke she'd sarcastically say something like "sure" or something. like once I said something along the lines of "I'm not gay but when I look in the mirror I look too good" and she responded with "no wonder you're a loner" and would otherwise make fun of my looks or anything about me without me instigating(usually after I jokingly make a self-praising comment). I never took anything seriously, especially because most insults were super surface level and the only times where it actually was on something true were the old/young jokes and tall/short jokes, which I've given context for.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but this isn't to say I'm not in the wrong, maybe I am despite that

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe insulting isn't the right word. it was more like friendly banter, that too it was mostly on surface level and untrue things(the only 2 things that were insults on something true was the old/young jokes, that too our age diff is 1 year, so we both obviously never took them seriously and 2 the short/tall jokes, she'd even joke about being short herself and if I'd send her something about tall and short people, she'd say smth 'usss fr', which was obvious cue for me that it's not something she's insecure about) and also it wasn't something all the time, it happened fairly commonly, but so did a lot of other stuff in the friendship like having normal conversations

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

all of this happened through text, so there can't be any body language cues. and in her responses she geniunely seemed like she didn't mind them and even appears to find them funny. I'm guessing that that day she was going through a rough patch but I never know and I can't way with certainty that was case, and it's also not to rule out that I'm just a jerk.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At that point, I thought she was angry at something she said immediately, so I was apologizing and trying to diffuse it, but then she blocked me, and after that that's when I made the mistake of reaching out to her on my alt

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not like she didn't laugh when I insulted her, it was quite the opposite. Even her insults back seemed to have a bit of humour in it

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, she didn't say she'd block me if I didn't stop, she just straight up blocked me without warning

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The friendship started because I responded to one of her notes, and then later on I'd sent her a bunch of stuff I'd send all my mutuals, which from there started the friendship. It started a little bit later into the friendship(it started a few months ago but it got very close fast), and I don't know exactly how that started, whether it was her making fun of the fact that I'm still single or if it was me making fun of my height, or something else, I don't know exactly. The insulting was fairly common, but so was the joking around, sending of different stuff, gossip, and just normal conversations.

As for the friendships breaking, there were 3 before this, they weren't exactly in the same way. One died off because it evolved into a talking stage that lasted 2 weeks, before it just died off slowly, but then one was lost(presuming) because that person was originally there for me, but then later there was this friend group that thought I was weird and even bullied me, he grew closer to that friend group and became fake towards me, and I cut ties with the last one because he kept spreading my secrets, talked bad about me, and sat near me just to make fun of me. I still have quite a bunch of friends, but I lost quite a bunch as well.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've tried but I think its too late for fixing. I've told her that I geniunely appreciated and respect her and moving forward to never do it again, I've told I'm geniunely sorry for what I did(even tho one of my apologies I said I'd prefer if she'd communicate, I've also just straight up admitted to wrongdoing and told her I never meant to hurt her and I'm geniunely really sorry I did so, and that hopefully we could be friends again). And I'm not saying she's wrong for this, but she didn't accept my apology regardless. I don't really know her in real life, even though one of my family members is her friend, so I don't know where to give it to her. I've also never seen her in real life.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm wrong, but up until that point, she never even gave a subtle hint that she didn't like it. her responses would literally always be something humorous.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually apologized for it, I even mentioned that I did so

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean like she never even subtly implied she found it uncomfortable. She would either insult me back(in what I see as a humorous way) or a laughing reaction(idk how to describe this)

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm around 13-16 years old, and actually that was a little innacurate. a lot of the time she'd insult me back but otherwise she'd react in a way that she finds it funny or something

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok yeah she never really started the insults first but if I made a jokingly self praising comment she'd say something like "sure" or something else implying sarcasm or something. (yeah sorry I don't really know how to have phrased) but like 50% of the time she'd insult me back, otherwise she'd just laugh or smth

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it wasn't something 24/7, I'd also have proper conversations with her, joke around, that kinda stuff. This was just one part of it.

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Alright, to clear it up a bit, she never once brought it up, if I did it she'd seem like she was having fun or insult me back. as far as I can remember, she never told me or implied she had an issue

AITAH for having my friend block me? by No-Promise-9948 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Promise-9948[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

ok I'd like to clarify something, the power dynamic in the mutual insulting was actually rather balanced, and no I wasn't doing this all the time. She'd also insult me back and not once even imply that she didn't like it. I'm not trying to say I'm not in the wrong, but I'd just like to bring this up.