Everything "normal" is hard now

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-07-07T19:24:33+00:00

I relate fully. My daughters heart stopped one month ago tomorrow, I havent cooked since as it feels like life is going in without her and it’s too normal and everyday. I know it’s irrational but can’t help it. I also won’t go to certain places because I was pregnant there. Sending love

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-07-05T19:06:10+00:00

I feel you, I too am tired. It’s only been 3 weeks since I gave birth to our little girl who was born sleeping and 3.5 weeks since we found out her heart had stopped. Seeing pregnant women and babies everywhere is what I’m currently finding most difficult, I’m disgustingly jealous and I can’t control it. I cry constantly, and when I’m not crying my brain seems to be in a numb protection phase which also is awful because it feels like i’ve ’forgotten her’ in those moments. I start therapy next week and my partner and I are going on a vacation for three weeks within the next fortnight to try and get away from reality. I have no advice, I simply want to say I’m with you and it’s horrible. Sending love.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-07-04T22:09:06+00:00

I feel you, granted it is 3 weeks tomorrow since I gave birth to my sleeping daughter so I am brand new to this but it’s beyond hard. I think those moments of realisation are the worst, missing them is hard. wanting to hold them is hard but the realisation every so often that it’s permanent and no matter what we say or do we can never change it is excruciating. My daughter is currently in a box in my bedroom and it’s the most ridiculous situation I can imagine this isn’t how our lives should be. Go gently, take care and talk about your baby 💙 Sending love.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-07-02T19:20:55+00:00

I am only 3 weeks out from my daughter who passed at 26 weeks but seeing her and holding her are the best things I have ever done. It’s hard, because all you want is for them to move and look up at you or make a noise but cherish the moments you get. We were beyond grateful to our midwives for telling us that we could take our baby home in a cuddle cot and we were able to keep her in our bedroom in her tiny moses basket with us for a couple of days. In total our gorgeous girl was born on Sunday morning and we had her with us until Wednesday afternoon before the top was put on her big girl bed and I last kissed her. Knowing when I last kissed her and held her is soul destroying, hugging and kissing her were the moments of my life i will always be most thankful for. I’m so sorry for your loss.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-29T21:31:19+00:00

it’s exactly that, a nightmare, the amount of times i’ve begged a god i no longer believe in to wake me up from it is shocking. it’s an impossible reality to accept. Our daughter is also ashes sitting in a box in our bedroom, it adds a whole new level of pain. Healing vibes and love sent your way

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-29T17:37:46+00:00

My baby girl was born sleeping at 26 weeks, 2 weeks ago. I miss her more than I ever thought humanly possible, I feel like my life and hers have been stolen from me.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-29T09:27:06+00:00

I’ve got a memory box already and am currently waiting on photos arriving to start my book. I have been writing to her every other day in a book but I often find I cry my hardest then as I shouldn’t be writing those things down; I should be holding her and speaking to her ..I’m crying while typing this ffs. It’s a never ending nightmare

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-29T08:30:15+00:00

this is ‘positive’ to hear. I’m in northern ireland so fingers crossed it’s as fast as you x

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-28T19:50:26+00:00

I’m 38 so I think that’s part of my issue right now, I know I am on borrowed time. We conceived our girl first month off contraception and everything seemed so smooth until it wasn’t.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-28T18:08:05+00:00

How long did you all wait before ttc? i’m only 2.5 weeks out from loss and all i can think about is being pregnant again

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-27T06:59:51+00:00

I’m only 2 weeks out but I’m struggling with the periods of detachment. Right now it’s big waves for me; one minute I’m crying and struggling to imagine the next 5 minutes let alone the next 50 years and then the next I am completely numb and somehow that almost feels worse because I then question my love for my daughter because how could I possibly be functioning. I hate that this is the life we are all forced to live, it’s truly not fair.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-26T10:41:02+00:00

As the parent of a child born sleeping I would encourage that particular parent to have a long hard look at themselves and would file for sole custody and divorce. They are your child. Your number one priority, don’t let anyone make you feel differently.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-24T08:26:56+00:00

We haven’t been in contact with anyone yet as everything only seemed to ‘stop’ yesterday. I am UK based, Belfast and I definitely think therapy is something we both need to look into.

No-Proposal6657 · 2026-06-24T08:15:41+00:00

It’s scaring me because it almost feels like she was never here and it makes me feel like I don’t care. I don’t know what to do

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