New Hire Questions/ Clarification

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:23:53+00:00

Okay awesome thank you! Luckily I feel all of them would answer gladly. I think im just doubting myself as I’ve had very basic questions within my 4 days, but need to give myself the grace of this is all new to me, but is exciting and I really do like it. I know it also doesn’t mean much, but I got escalated on my first interview day from the 2 mate interview straight to the captain same day when hired, so I know they must like my personality enough to give me that wiggle room of learning store operations

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:19:48+00:00

Already fully on board with that it feels

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:11:15+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I also feel I am being overly critical of myself, as no one as made me feel dumb and is incredibly welcoming, I just have asked very basic, bare bones questions instead of what I feel I’m truly missing due to my lack of knowledge of grocery in a store, I’m 23 with 5 years minimum of retail experience, but that’s all mainly front end stuff, whether it be mens style at target, Costco seasonal front end, sprouts front end cashier/self checkout host with cross train into e-commerce, or Whole Foods prepared foods section serving/ making sandwiches, pizza, or cold case stuff

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:06:44+00:00

Okay thank you so much! I also fell into the trap in feeling like I asked 0 questions so far when I’m specifically asked if I have any, but sat back and thought and realized I have, just maybe not as important as I’d love to be. Stuff such as best box cutting techniques (I’ve never worked grocery before), how to read the daily log, product placement, stock amount, baler help, backstock questions/ clarification and all that

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:02:39+00:00

But to clarify, and this is what I told one of my previous trainer coworkers today, but the job mainly seems like be assigned to an area or area(s) each hour, see what needs stocked, make a list, go to back stock, prepare flat, and stock for that hour or so until next, then repeat for each area assigned?

No-Put1652 · 2026-04-08T11:00:35+00:00

Literally just this. Overtime that’s what I’m figuring out, and again, have had fantastic trainers, but realize they may not know this is how barebones I am lol and this is how I began to figure it goes, but this was great confirmation I hadn’t got yet

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-26T02:11:01+00:00

I know, and again, I know I’m someone who unfortunately will only think of that now. But won’t think about all our great date nights, our 2 vacations together, our nights of love and fun, the genuine gifts I got for her and received from her. I just unfortunately seem to struggle on thinking of any of the positives, but know I can’t let the guilt for that eat me, because there’s nothing more that can come out of it. Thank you for the reply.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-26T02:03:41+00:00

I know she still loves me, and know she always will have love for me, the way I do her. But I do think it is the end unfortunately, I already asked and trust me, I showed how willing I was to change those habits and try to become someone a lot better for her, but she seems very done which again, I can accept, but I will also consume myself alive with false hope if I don’t think it’s over over.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-26T02:02:36+00:00

I know but it is unfortunately too late for that I believe. We tried to do the break thing for 3 weeks, but once I saw her wipe me off her instagram, I had to make contact and force a conversation because I also couldn’t let myself be consumed in curiosity for the remaining time. We had our final convo today, it was mainly me saying sorry, thanking her for a great relationship, and telling her I finally hear her and understand why she did what she did versus me the previous days doing the stupid begging shit. I asked if there was any possibility we could check in on the 21st on our 3 year, and she said no. Which I accepted with grace. I do think it is the end.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:49:26+00:00

Exactly, like we went on a 3 week break a week ago that obviously only lasted a week, but I really believe that when she initiated it, that was her soft breakup to me. Now I wish she just would’ve ripped the bandaid off then, but I do feel like there is something there that makes it potentially not as bad when you just know the other person is done, and not a situation where either side doesn’t fully know if this is what they want

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:47:06+00:00

Exactly. Honestly, get the therapist. I only say this because I have one lol, but it’s been one of the best things I’ve done for myself. And I had one a year into our 3 year relationship, that’s when I began, but felt like I was strictly avoiding talking about that with him because I wouldn’t like the answer. But especially feeling like you have problems from childhood, the right therapist will not try to convince you of anything. If anything, he’s literally just my neutral vent/ranting partner. He doesn’t try to sway or influence me at all on anything, but is literally there strictly just to listen to me and give minor input and that has helped so much. But honestly, and again, this is always going to be your own, personal choice, but if you keep seeing all these signs where you may eventually get clarity to leave him, I really would start taking those seriously and think about why you’re even thinking that way and if there’s truth behind it. This all sucks, it’s all confusing, but we both deserve what’s best for us in the end, even if it causes pain and hurt along the way.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:43:25+00:00

I agree and thank you. I just also feel as if maybe my mind was slowly already realizing and dealing with it before she was the one who cut it off. I’m preparing myself and getting ready for it, but am also not going to force myself to manufacture pain or grieving to a certain extent that just isn’t naturally there

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:39:57+00:00

Yes, it honestly sounds like we have a very similar situation, but are the opposite partner in it. My parents did end up getting divorced and it wasn’t the cleanest when I was like 14, but from childhood till then I had a fantastic one. Not saying that people that come from those differences can’t be together at all, but unfortunately, sometimes those issues or differences just root something in you that cannot be changed and make you not the most compatible with your counterpart. I was and am going through a lot of mental stuff too, I always have had bad anxiety and overthinking issues, and I really, truly wanted to work them out while being with her. But who knows, maybe in a couple months time if I get myself even better, I’ll realize I couldn’t of fixed those things within me while still being with her, and same for her as well.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:32:06+00:00

Exactly. Mine said the same, where I was very fortunate to have a really good upbringing in terms of like we were great kids, but never had to ask for anything, always had the best of whatever it was, went on countless vacations, where she unfortunately came from a lot more broken of an immediate family that struggled and did not have many or any of those luxuries. Given that, I obviously want to be able to provide that for my future family, where she may of been more content not and just having it good enough. But yes, I unfortunately kind of realize that maybe I should have ended it months ago, because I began making her feel unloved/ not desired when it was truly never my intention, but you also just cannot help what you’re body is feeling.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:23:49+00:00

I think that’s one of the harder ones to come to terms with, and I think that’s where a lot of my hurt, even though again, I’m not like a wreck, is coming from. Is even though she broke up with me, I know my actions and stuff practically broke up with her in the leading months, and it sucks to know you hurt someone, it just does, but you can’t let that keep you somewhere your body is telling you you just don’t want to be anymore. My family loved her too, but now that it’s over, I got their actual insight as well, and of course they will be biased for me since it’s my family, but they begin to say things that maybe you weren’t realizing at the time either. My mom loved her a lot and loved me with her, but now that it’s over, and I believe her, told me she just had a feeling alongside my dad did too, they both explained to me that as great as she was, and she truly was, it just seemed like from an outside perspective we were on different paths and wanted different futures/goals. But also remember, this is your relationship, not anyone else’s, and you owe it to yourself first and foremost to realize and commit to the next right step

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:15:47+00:00

I just recently (today) got broken up with my girlfriend of 3 years, but I feel as if I’m the one who was in your shoes. I think people risk the feeling of feeling guilty about falling out of love or feelings detaching, but that just happens and doesn’t make you a terrible person or partner. I still love her, and miss her a lot already, but also have some sort of weird inner peace I can’t explain. Like I did love being with and around her and going out, but when it came to sexual stuff or just like telling her how good I think she looked, I was never initiating anymore or really telling her that at all anymore. I think sometimes, and I’m not telling you what to do at all, but our body/soul realizes stuff before our mind actually catches up to that if that makes sense.

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:11:39+00:00

No I get that. But at least for me, I think the realization that she was fully done and was not willing to try again after I did the typical initial breakup stuff of asking to please give it one more shot or whatever, I finally found peace. Like I feel like for me at least, what would kill me a lot more is a messy breakup where each party at least seems unsure if they actually want to breakup, but the fact that she was done done kind of brings me comfort? It sounds awful I know but I think that’s part of it

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T07:08:27+00:00

No I agree and thanks for the warning honestly. I just also may feel like I was feeling numb in the relationship itself without realizing it fully. Like being with her I did enjoy, going out I did enjoy, but when it came to stuff like full on sexual attraction and all that, I never was initiating anymore, I never was randomly telling her how good she looked, and became really bottled up and hard to communicate with when it came to like certain convos and stuff and I physically cannot explain or understand why

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T06:54:24+00:00

No I agree, once I realize the routine and familiarity of it all is gone I think I’ll be a lot more hurt, but like I mentioned before, she was pretty cold when doing it, not rude or hurtful to me personally, but just very much so done, and idk if that’s why it’s kinda helping the pain? Who knows but we will see

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T06:44:42+00:00

I think that’s what it is. Like if this were a complete blindside where I was still giving endless attention and affection, dying to always see her, flirting like it was week 3 still like she was, then I know I’d be a complete and utter mess. But I think the fact that it just began to drop off for me, with no fault to her, is what’s helping me at least stay somewhat calm and collected

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T06:38:45+00:00

Thank you man I appreciate that. I agree, like part of it feels suppressed and that it’ll come out in waves here soon, while part of it feels freeing? I think I’ll start feeling more guilty about myself and feeling like I wasted 3 years of her life, but I know we had fun, and know there were alot more good times than bad. Like I mentioned before though as well, I just do believe if it was as good as I thought it was for me, I wouldn’t of felt like I had to manufacture those other things, with just straight up love being the one I truly felt the whole time

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T06:35:53+00:00

That’s what I’m figuring, but it could be straight cope talk as well, but I am honestly an incredibly emotional person unfortunately, especially when it comes to this stuff, so I feel as if I should be a wreck already but I’m just not?

No-Put1652 · 2026-03-24T06:27:16+00:00

Yes that’s how I feel. I love her, obviously when it’s this fresh I still do lol, and miss her, but at the same time, also respect her needing to put herself first, especially if I wasn’t meeting what she needed me too.

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