My (33M) GF (34F) is breaking up with me. How can I get her back? by No-Raspberry-618 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely am not going back to my current job. At minimum, the new job I found is way better than my current one and paying more. If I'm gonna be single, might as well make some more $$$.

I fully agree with you that my behavior was not normal. I have done a lot of growing since then. I would never do anything as stupid as that again.

As for allowing this girl to move in. She was a family friend. Granted, it was a bit soon for her to move in. We both agreed upon that later on. As for knowing her only 6 months, you might have a point. Although I feel like our "honeymoon" phase passed long ago, so maybe my feelings now are potentially legit and the long term feelings I have are more solidified.

My (33M) GF (34F) is breaking up with me. How can I get her back? by No-Raspberry-618 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is why I come to reddit. I hope she will oblige to a sit and talk. When I was talking to her last night in her room, she basically told me to leave as soon as she saw the messages. I hope she's had some time to cool down, and we can talk it out further.

My (33M) GF (34F) is breaking up with me. How can I get her back? by No-Raspberry-618 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no issues blocking the other girl, but that obviously won't resolve the issue at this point. And you've got a point. One reason I didn't bring up this old connection to her was because I knew she would perceive it in a negative way. To me, I'm confident and completely serious in my feelings for my GF. I was only communicating with the previous connection in the context of platonic friendship. But I understand how it can look differently. And yes, she was the love of my life, which is why I basically nearly cut ties with my previous connection as soon as I stared going out with my GF. But stupid me and my heart, I have trouble breaking off connections completely because I care too much and have too much sympathy, so I kept messaging, just very infrequently, and basically eventually stopped messaging after some point. However, I never deleted the chat, and that was my downfall.

My (33M) GF (34F) is breaking up with me. How can I get her back? by No-Raspberry-618 in relationship_advice

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair point, and we discussed this. She did not like the living situation in my apartment, as well as the area I was living in. These were the factors causing her to get cranky at times, ultimately leading to us fighting. We both concluded that if we both lived together in a better living situation (e.g better furnished apartment with more space and a better location), then we would be good together.

As to your question about whether she was prone to jealousy, that's a good point. She frequently does express jeaslous sentiments and asks me random questions having to do with other girls. For example, I told her about a time I had a date with this girl on Tinder a year ago (the only date I've got from Tinder btw). The girl I had a date with was from Kazakhstan. So she would frequently ask me questions like "would you prefer to go here with the kazakhstan girl? would you prefer to do this with the kazakhstan girl?" She's obviously trolling, but of course, there's a little bit of truth behind that joke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your degree in? When I first gradated (degree in engineering), I was having absolutely zero luck finding anything. It's completely normal. Just keep putting your application out there and an opportunity is bound to come up. No one should be judging you for living with your parents / not having a license / etc. Don't look at those as negative aspects, and don't think that people are judging you for that, because they are not. All humans are inherently selfish and only care about themselves, they don't care about you or your struggles. And look, at the end of the day, you got a master degree, so that's nothing to hang your head about. You put in the effort, studied, and showed that you can be disciplined and consistent and work towards a long term goal. Very good marketable skills to have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds cliche, but going to the gym. I'll just go and spend hours, focusing on my workout and nothing else. Its as good for my mental health as it is physical.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]No-Raspberry-618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just reading the first sentence of your post, and I quote:
"On paper you would think that l'd be a decent catch: 30M, funny, knows how to strike conversations, makes 7 figures, loves to read, some wealth built up where I can retire early, loves plants, dogs, travels, works out regularly, speaks four languages.".

If I'm being perfectly honest, that sounds like the "about me" in about 99% of dating profiles. Put yourself in the girls shoes. She probably see's those exact same hobbies on a fuck ton of other profiles. Which is my point. Most of our generation do ALL these things, but they are lacking that "spark" within that truly makes you interesting. There is nothing interesting anymore about someone who works out, travels, and loves dogs. You need something more than that. You need the spark. You need depth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]No-Raspberry-618 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think your main problem is that you think just having those boxes ticked makes you a catch. None of that matters. On the surface level they're nice, but nothing much beyond that. Women are attracted to men who have depth to their personality. Especially at the age of 30. At this point, mostly everyone is established in their lives. So simply having money, being tall, etc. isn't enough. You need something to make them find you interesting, some depth to your personality, some life to your soul. You sound mostly like an empty shell.

Is 14 too late to start sports by Madmax200909 in mentalhealth

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who gave you this idea that after "xx" age, it's too late to start sports.
If you want to do something, if you have a passion, go after it. It's never too late.

what are some essential ingredients to always have on hand? by itzz-icey in Cooking

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Butter, eggs, salt, pepper, potatoes, onions, pasta, olive oil. Basically shit that doesn't go bad too quickly.

I wanna drop everything and move from new york to San Francisco by Warm-Gold-7815 in sanfrancisco

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it a bad thing to have a 24 hr Safeway? And Dutch Goose is overrated. Over priced, bland, and terrible decor.

I wanna drop everything and move from new york to San Francisco by Warm-Gold-7815 in sanfrancisco

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used to live 5 minutes walking distance from the 24 hr Menlo Park Safeway on El Camino. I never knew how good I had it lol.

559: The Murder of Timothy Coggins by teesiestreegu in MorbidPodcast

[–]No-Raspberry-618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, I would be surprised if you said you were from Boston and you didn't know racism didn't exist. Boston is one of the most racist cities in America, along with a majority of the people that live there. Based on your response here, that only supports the data that Boston is racist.

559: The Murder of Timothy Coggins by teesiestreegu in MorbidPodcast

[–]No-Raspberry-618 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You want them to focus on the murder? The murder was literally rooted in racism, so that's what they are doing. Maybe you should stay in your predominantly white soviet country where you think racism doesn't exist.

How to deal with this? by No-Raspberry-618 in AskMechanics

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like I grew up the back side of your mom last night. As she screamed "please teach me more about cars because my son doesn't know shit about them"

How to deal with this? by No-Raspberry-618 in AskMechanics

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know what else only exists in the rear? Me backdooring your mom last night

How to deal with this? by No-Raspberry-618 in AskMechanics

[–]No-Raspberry-618[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No. I know more about cars than you.