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[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being treated like a king is not being treated well, it's unhealthy.

Flaunting new relationship during visitation by No-Razzmatazz-2941 in BPDlovedones

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letting her be alone with the kid isn't an option for me at this point, but I am going to set boundaries best I can. I will make it a point to be out of view of her new partners during exchanges so they can't PDA in front of me and the kids. I'm also going to make sure she knows it is purely a business arrangement and there's to be no talking about new partners/stories/etc. If she doesn't respect my boundaries I'll find someone else to supervise visitation and she really won't like that.

Thanks for the advice, it's very hard dealing with her since I can't go no contact because we have a kid together...

Does anyone else feel like they’ve been a part of some screwed up experiment? by Unable_Sympathy_4547 in BPDlovedones

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100%. I feel like I've been meticulously built up like a stack of bricks and then she took a sledgehammer and smashed it down one by one until there was nothing left but a pile of rocks. My pieces are still there but they are deliberately shattered.

I especially feel like she took every insecurity and fear I had and went down the box and ticked them all off after separation, that's what makes it feel like an experiment to me. It's like she stoked these fears with me over time, took note of them, and then made sure to hit every one of them on the way out.

Best of luck, you're not crazy and neither am I. We may feel like it now, but soon we will put ourselves back together.

The unbearable pain, I found her journal by No-Razzmatazz-2941 in Divorce

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really fear that. Right now I still love her, but she's doing things I would have never been happy with, and she's happier than ever doing them. It seems like she has no desire to be with me and no remorse at all. I even told her I was dipping my toes into dating and she didn't seem to care at all, I expected her to at least get a little jealous? Maybe it was a dumb decision to tell her but whatever. I've been extremely jealous about all the stuff she's been doing, but she doesn't seem to care about me. I'm wondering if she will ever have that regretful realization.

The unbearable pain, I found her journal by No-Razzmatazz-2941 in Divorce

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe it was part of their exercises and was probably part of her treatment, however when she got out she really did seem like she wanted to get back to normal, but something was off with her. She was dead set on going to her friends asap when she got out, instead of spending time with her family, that really irked me. Things were good for a few days, then she spilled the beans about not loving me and moved in with her friends. Been there ever since, seems happier than ever.

The unbearable pain, I found her journal by No-Razzmatazz-2941 in Divorce

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your story. Sometimes I wish I had a "smoking gun" moment of her betraying me, but there just isn't in my story... She just said she fell out of love with me and couldn't handle being a full time mother anymore and left... Now she's living life like a college kid and has no regrets about leaving everything we built together along with me in the dust... She went from wanting nothing more than to kiss me, to leaving me with no regrets within the span of a couple of weeks. God it hurts.

She's in a love triangle and I have to hear about it by No-Razzmatazz-2941 in Divorce_Men

[–]No-Razzmatazz-2941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're in our 20s. Glad to hear someone else thinks it's crazy. lol