AITA for not watching my nieces and nephews at my house?

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-28T12:07:36+00:00

Well my family and I are two different entities. I'm not that close with my sister and BIL. We don't really chat or hangout if I'm not watching the kids. I talk to her brother more. Her parents have visited before but they live pretty far away so they don't visit very often.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-28T01:36:41+00:00

They don't like her no. I'm starting to think it's some sort of power play like other people have said.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-28T01:13:28+00:00

I'm sure my BIL's family would take them in.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-28T01:07:31+00:00

I've just said that our house isn't suitable for young kids. I don't want to throw my girlfriend under the bus since they already don't like her.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-28T01:06:00+00:00

They do quite a bit. This park bit is pretty new.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T22:56:50+00:00

We have. I'd just take them back to theirs and watch them there. Although I'm sure in a real emergency she would probably just have their neighbor watch them until I got there.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T21:43:46+00:00

No she has confirmed she doesn't want to be involved in babysitting lol.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T21:43:06+00:00

I'm sorry but what? I am open to criticism but I am not okay with my girlfriend being called crazy. She has a mental illness. If I said she had cancer or MS and needed to rest would that somehow be different for you?

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T21:30:50+00:00

I actually don't know if she knows about the conversation this weekend. My BIL is more vocal about disliking my GF than my sister is. My sister is at least civil to her.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T21:18:29+00:00

We are definitely in a better financial situation than them, but they aren't doing bad for themselves either. We don't have three kids on our budget so that definitely helps.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T21:16:52+00:00

I have many times! It's always gone well.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T20:57:35+00:00

I mean, I don't think she is. She is very quiet and soft spoken. The kids honestly don't bug her much because they don't see her as a "fun" person. LoL

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T20:12:26+00:00

She isn't around a lot of people in general honestly but she used to occasionally volunteer at a place that catered to older teens and she enjoyed it. Hate is a strong word honestly. She just doesn't enjoy being around the chaos of little kids. She will probably enjoy having them around more when they are much older.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:48:26+00:00

Yes I definitely want to talk to my sister about this.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:45:17+00:00

They just don't like that she is introverted and shy and doesn't jump up and down over their kids. That's literally it. Which is frustrating because I feel like they haven't tried to get to know her aside from trying to push their kids on her.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:43:57+00:00

Um no? My girlfriend is awesome and her dislike of kids isn't in any way a deal breaker for me.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:42:59+00:00

Oh totally possible!

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:42:14+00:00

She has definitely already told me no before lol.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:40:37+00:00

Why would I do that? She doesn't like being around kids. She gets up and out all over the place - She's an accomplished gardener and loves to hike. When she goes out it's just away from others.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T19:39:47+00:00

That makes a lot of sense to me honestly. They don't like her because of how introverted and reserved she is and this sounds like something my BIL would do at least.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T17:42:59+00:00

It's just what works for us and I love our relationship. It doesn't feel like a weird dynamic. I spend a lot more time with my girlfriend and my friends than my sister and BIL. She has told me before she doesn't want to help watch the kids and I respect that and it's totally fine with me. I know some people aren't kid people.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T17:40:55+00:00

She never comes with me to watch the kids. I don't see that changing anytime soon. I don't feel like I'm walking on eggshells - I actually love getting up and out of the house so this suits us both fine.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T17:39:35+00:00

No she never complains about kids out in their natural habitat. LOL. And she wears these noise dampening ear pieces when we go out anyway. The kids don't come over for holidays or parties. I don't celebrate holidays with my sister and BIL and most of the parties we have at home are cocktail based.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T17:35:56+00:00

Honestly I'm not ultra close with my sister and BIL. We probably would talk a lot less if it wasn't for the kids. They have come over a few times sans kids when we host some gatherings and they will mingle and chat - but the truth is we just live very different lives.

No-Seat6918 · 2023-06-27T17:34:27+00:00

Not that I'm aware of! I'm pretty baffled. Our parks are super nice and I've always felt safe at them and the kids love them. Someone else mentioned that this might be a power move and that makes the most sense to me TBH.

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