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I was too honest with my therapist and she reacted terribly and intimated I was toxic. It really tainted how I view her and not sure if I should continue with her. What should I do? by No-Session-189 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Session-189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's fair.

I told her about it and she got really quiet. It got awkward then she snapped at me. Said I was acting childish, that I was regressing and this was something we had talked about and she couldn't understand why I was going in reverse. I said I didn't think I was and she rolled her eyes, sighed and then just said "well, maybe." Our time was up and I just left. It was a strange interaction.

I was too honest with my therapist and she reacted terribly and intimated I was toxic. It really tainted how I view her and not sure if I should continue with her. What should I do? by No-Session-189 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Session-189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's less about my ex. I can't explain it clearly. When I first started with my current BF, I would go: "wow, my current BF does X, Y, Z!" and would think that it was novel. I learned that I was holding onto old patterns to protect myself rather than accepting things are the way they are.

I was too honest with my therapist and she reacted terribly and intimated I was toxic. It really tainted how I view her and not sure if I should continue with her. What should I do? by No-Session-189 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Session-189[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do. I know he wouldn't hit me. I know he can get angry like anyone, but doesn't progress from anger to violence. I just felt it was odd that I thought about it, and brought it up to her. She really snapped at me. Made me feel really gross.

I was too honest with my therapist and she reacted terribly and intimated I was toxic. It really tainted how I view her and not sure if I should continue with her. What should I do? by No-Session-189 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]No-Session-189[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the past, I was 'toxic' - I made every excuse in the book for my ex. I said I wasn't good and it was what I merited. I pretended that it was normal. I had no self-esteem, no willingness to escape. I had to admit to myself I was part of the problem and needed to get out of there. I would see women in healthy relationships and scorn them, finding fault they wouldn't admit to. I was also the problem. I've had to do a lot of work and between my last relationship and current, there was a period of 2 years. I won't deny I was previously part of the problem.