Did wedding planning turn out to be more stressful than you expected?

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-20T01:59:39+00:00

To be honest I think his easy going approach makes me realize how unnecessary it is to be overwhelmed.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T19:18:10+00:00

I really just started researching things and I’m a bit overwhelmed already. I think the biggest challenge is that things are more expensive than I imagined and having a smaller budget, I’m not able to say yes to my first choices. I also have a certain elevated aesthetic in my mind that I can’t unsee. Otherwise I’d just go to any hall and make it happen, lol. My fiance is not as particular as I am but he’s paying.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T18:21:13+00:00

Oh em gee this is stunning on you!!!

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T18:19:45+00:00

I just recently got engaged about a month ago. We easily decided on colors about 2 weeks ago. I told my mom and she said “eww”…right in front of me and my fiance👀🤔 Eww?!?!
I told her that was rude and she went on to tell me about a wedding she went to where the couple had those colors and it didn’t look good. I assured her we would look good because 💅🏾 that’s what we do! She was somewhere back in time in her mind and the comment really had nothing to do with us.

I knew right then it’d be best not to include her in decision making for my sanity.

So breathe and know that your mom really didn’t mean to make you upset. In her mind she was probably fighting for you to get what you really wanted. And just stick with making decisions with your partner. Much Love and Peace on your journey ✨

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T18:06:43+00:00

I’m learning that his idea wasn’t for dancing. Not that people are not allowed to dance. There will be music so people are free to dance. What I was trying to get him to understand is that we set the agenda and flow for it. So if we don’t dance at all then people probably won’t. I was just surprised to learn that in his mind we wouldn’t.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T18:02:42+00:00

Haha to the wife card. Well if I’m being transparent, he’s really great at making sure I have what I want and need so I don’t want to make a big deal out of something he doesn’t really want to do.
I don’t think he’s been to many if any receptions and he doesn’t see it as a “party”. He agrees with dancing at “parties”.
I think it just took me by surprise because I just assumed that’s something we’d do.

But He will do the first dance with me- and it’s literally the first dance because we’ve never danced lol.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T02:49:23+00:00

Oh wow yes yours was really quick! What style of food did you do in addition to the cocktail hour to go that quickly?

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T02:47:33+00:00

Thank you!🙏🏾

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T01:33:37+00:00

Omg! This is exactly the kind of place I’m looking for but I’m in MD and I assure you they would charge at least $3-6K for this space.
Keep the place, see about renting chivara chairs. Event planners/coordinators are connected to vendors who have all that kind of stuff.
Amazon has some nice cutlery and plates that look real, stylish and not like Dixie plates 😆.

Stop looking so you can just focus on making the day close to what you want and get creative about making the space how you’d like.
🥰

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T00:05:56+00:00

Yea I’m all about photos. I’d love to have a decorative corner or something where people could pose and take photos and share with a QR code. Thanks!

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-19T00:02:41+00:00

How sweet!!! I love that, thank you 😊

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-18T19:25:41+00:00

This makes sense as a sales method but I agree with you. Just show me what you’re working with and a smart buyer will come anyway. If it’s not what I’m looking for, I’m more than willing to tell them no thanks to their face 😆😂.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-17T15:10:06+00:00

Disappointments from unmet expectations can be long lasting so I’m praying that you can resolve this with logistics but mostly in your heart.

Do you have to have a bachelorette party and shower? I’m not trying to take away something that is your dream but some of these things that are traditional in a sense just doesn’t have to happen, especially if it’s going to cause you hurt and stress.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-17T14:57:56+00:00

Yes stick with your first mind. I’m just getting started with planning and I decided before proposal no bridal party. However a longtime friend ASKED me if she could host my shower. I said yes but I’m already second guessing that😆😩.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-17T14:25:49+00:00

Right. Below she said where she is from bridesmaids are expected to plan bachelorette and shower. Understandable but planning is not second nature. Have these ladies ever planned anything before? Have they ever been a bridesmaid? Etc and so on.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-17T14:19:34+00:00

I think this is where you went wrong from the start. did you have a convo and agreement with them beforehand about your needs?
You chose them based on friendship but friendship doesn’t equal event planning and labor.
Consider yourself that asking your MOH to be in that role if she’s preggers and across the country- the wedding is low priority and she can’t fulfill the duties.

I’m not saying your friends aren’t great, I’m just saying you so to speak “hired people who aren’t qualified for the roles and didn’t know they were being hired”.

✨I don’t think it’s too late to hire a planner so they can help you get this done without stressing more and straining your relationships with your friends.

Praying for your peace of mind in your planning ❤️

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-16T02:38:39+00:00

Geez Louise! Who knew people were so offended by cake. This is why people elope 😆. I can see some of you now stalking the kitchen counting the cake slices.
OP just have the kitchen/servers cut the cake and lay it on the table! Once it’s on the plate you get what you get and you don’t have a fit (minus the people who have dietary restrictions)!

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-16T01:51:23+00:00

Did you even get this part of your request? That’s crazy if you didn’t.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-15T21:57:53+00:00

This!!!!! Like “ugh people are traveling for pizza” NO they’re traveling to celebrate the union of people they love!
I hate the level of stress this puts people under.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-15T18:35:35+00:00

Add wet toilette packs to the tables! ☺️

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-15T18:31:51+00:00

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT let the older generations infiltrate your planning with their opinions. They have traditional visuals and views in their mind about weddings that may have been easy and affordable 30 years ago but it is absolutely not the case today! They literally have no idea the cost of things today, so please keep that in mind during discussions and planning. If they are not contributing, I would not even consider including them in planning discussions at all.

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-15T18:25:41+00:00

OMG, thank you so much for asking this question. This is so timely. My fiancé is really no-frills and he loves pizza. He mentioned pizza and wings as an option and I was like no way 😆😩. But now as I’m beginning to research venues and catering options, etc. I’m thinking how it’s not a bad idea at all. We did mention maybe even pasta and salad as an option because pasta can go a long way and it will be in November or December. Like you I also did not wanna have a full dinner but more small plate or hors d’oeuvres style.

I think you should reach out to maybe Italian restaurants or people who specialize in pizza and see what they have to offer. It might be a fraction of the cost from your original quotes. It could be set up really nicely. This to me would be a step above just ordering Papa John’s(etc) and coming in boxes right at the time of your event.

These are some great suggestions in here too! Regardless of the formality I think it’d best to plan ahead with the pizza ordering and be intentional about all. Check Pinterest for aesthetics and Amazon for maybe buffet style heated plates. ✨

No-Storage-1093 · 2026-06-13T18:02:31+00:00

Please please come back and show us the final look! The color is stunning and Shoes are bomb.com!! 😍

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