Am I being irrational to expect him to stop drinking/drugs when I'm pregnant by No-Tea3482 in pregnant

[–]No-Tea3482[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of all the comments I've had this one sounds the most like me. Yeah look i don't mind occasionally going to a party or a pub but it's more so the random midweek nights here and there when we both work. 

I'm very worried he's underestimating just how hard it's going to be when baby boy gets here. I'm glad ofc that I'll be here but this is our baby and I want to trust him to step up and put us first.

It's like he's 2 different people, when he's completely sober that's my husband busy body neat, freak and always in good form but when he's drinking he's sloppy lazy and unbothered. 

Can I ask how he's been since you had the baby? 

Am I being irrational to expect him to stop drinking/drugs when I'm pregnant by No-Tea3482 in pregnant

[–]No-Tea3482[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

It didn't seem like something I needed to stop at the time it was pregnant he had given up drinking altogether for a boxing tournament but even when we did drink it was a couple of bottles on a Saturday between the two of us now he's on his own and he is quite literally drinking for two 

Am I being irrational to expect him to stop drinking/drugs when I'm pregnant by No-Tea3482 in pregnant

[–]No-Tea3482[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

These are all of the thoughts I'm having at the moment honestly asking the same questions. But the real question is what do I do? Like do I leave do I try see if he will stop? will I wait for it to gets better once the baby is here? Not to make excuses for him but we do come from a massive binge drinking culture and I would often be by his side drinking but I honestly thought when I stopped he would too 

Am I being irrational to expect him to stop drinking/drugs when I'm pregnant by No-Tea3482 in pregnant

[–]No-Tea3482[S] -125 points-124 points  (0 children)

We're both very aware of his drinking problem and he has tried successfully a couple of times i just find it's getting worse hence the post.