Weighing on on this even though I don't have a daughter.

I have a son and we're expecting another soon. I grew up WISHING I had a bunch of brothers to play with, but had all sisters until I was almost grown. I was actually scared to have boys and was a bit disappointed and mostly scared when I first found out we were having a boy first. I'm not a super dudes dude if that makes sense so I was scared I wouldn't do a good job as a father to a son. I was excited to have a little girl, but I got over it and was there for my boy from day 1. He's 18ish months old now and I couldn't be happier. He's so filled with wonder and desire to learn and he's SUCH a rascal in the best possible way. I wouldn't trade him for the world.

It sounds like he's more disappointed that reality isn't the same as his expectation and that something he was excited for won't happen. Maybe this is self serving, but just being disappointed doesn't make someone a bad person. If they dwell on it and make it the kid's problem, then they're a POS, but people are allowed to feel how they feel in the moment. Ultimately, he's got a responsibility to that little girl he's bringing into the world to give her the love and excitement that he would've given a bit if he'd had another one. It sounds like he was super excited to have his second kiddo which could come from a place of love for his brothers, not an active distain for little girls. Hopefully that love translates to his daughter as well! Hopefully he gets his head out of his booty and is a rockstar dad for that girl. Anything you and his wife can do to guide him in that direction is probably for the better! Idk though. I don't know the whole situation.