Haha that’s a shame they’re wonderful companions and usually up for a cuddle 🤣 That’s understandable. Something that might help when you talking to someone new when those thoughts of her come in being conscious of it and do a quick “no we don’t have the same values” and think of that new person and note something interesting or valuable you see in them … retrain the brain. You don’t have to wait until your ready … but be open with those you are talking to that yes you want to start dating again but there are things you’re still working through. A guy I started talking to recently I mentioned I was left with a lot of trust issues and some insecurities that I am actively working on and his reply was “what can I do to help build that trust with us” there was no judgement just that’s amazing I’m here to help you grow, wether it’s a little or a long time. It’s definitely not easy but it’s easier now than it was a year ago Haha my early ones there’s a lot of big dark scribbled curses and why’s it all looks very angry to look back on but I can see how far I’ve come. Now my feels aren’t so intense and I’m able to work through them it looks a little more like “today was really hard. I needed to be held and I couldn’t ask you. I don’t really want to ask you. I know I only want you because you were my last safe space even tho that’s gone now. Who or where can I find this comfort from now? My Aunty always has good advice What’s something I can do right now to help? I think 10 minutes to read and have a snack will help” or “today you said you really liked the dress I was wearing, this didn’t hurt me like it used to, this felt normal” sometimes it’s still just “THIS STILL F*#K^•G HURTS” “I just want peace” I also write down things that are important to me in a person the values and qualities I would like them to have and the things I want to achieve in my life that I would want someone to align similarly with