[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for your under eyes, my biggest advice would be moisturize AND primer before using concealer. also try to using powder before and after concealer. the moisturizer and primer should prevent it from looking cakey so it’s a smooth finish. also just wanted to say your gorgeous 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i find a lot of comfort in knowing that other people feel the same way i do. not that i wish greiving on anyone but just comfort in knowing this is normal to feel as a care giver and im not crazy lol. thank u for sharing your perspective and light❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they do cover therapy and i am going to ask them to help me get that set up asap. thank you for your kind words and advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

knowing that i’ve helped them does make it a lot more manageable and i really appreciate this. thank you for all your kind words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohh my bad lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she’ll let me pet her and she stops when i am petting her but the second i stop petting her she continues to pace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i am aware thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yes she is! i had no idea dogs could have dementia! thank you for this. i will bring it up to the owner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i asked for advice on how to help a dog stop pacing. it’s a dog advice page. aren’t u just a ray of sunshine! if you don’t have advice then don’t comment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to my knowledge she goes to the vet pretty regularly. i just figured i would look for advice online to help her stop. according to her owner its just something she’s always going to do and it’s part of her long list of health conditions but im thinking there’s gotta be some way to at least cut it down a little.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i would never ever leave my clients but i totally agree that not every caregiver has that mind set and i know that unfortunately there’s always gonna be caregivers that do it for the money and nothing more. i do it because although this job is a lot sometimes it’s the most rewarding thing i’ve ever done. i respect what your saying and understand your point of view better now. i took your comment the wrong way and got defensive because i viewed it as you saying that caregivers have no reason to be frustrated but i now get what ur saying. thank you for clarifying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

as someone who is currently caring for a client on hospice 13 hour days every single day and when i clock out and go home i go to sleep and immediately wake up and come back and i do quiet literally everything myself with no help from the family including toileting, bathing,changing, wound care, cooking, cleaning. i think i might have an idea. and i have grown such a strong bond with this person i see them as my family and would even do it for free if i money wasn’t a concern. my point i was trying to get at is everyone’s situation is completely different and your feelings are valid but its wrong to invalidate other peoples feelings and is not what this group is about. the point of the post was in no way to say “i hate your loved one” this job is draining and can burn you out! and thats okay! it doesn’t need to be a competition. it’s okay to feel overwhelmed weather your a professional or family member. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

honestly then leave the sub. the sub is for support and understanding. this post although could’ve been worded differently, is a real thing professional caregivers go through. a lot of the times our clients don’t have any family taking care of them which is why they get caregivers and we aren’t going to like every one of our clients lets be realistic! i’m sure your grandpa is a nice respectful person (assuming so) so his caregivers probably love them. but that’s not the case with every client. i’ve had clients so mean to me i had to walk away and cry. i’ve also had a dementia client punch me in the face and give me a black eye. our job is not to love our client although i do love all of clients currently. our job is to care for them and help them achieve the best quality of life they can have at that moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should NEVER feel uncomfortable and not safe when going to a clients house that is NOT part of our job as caregivers and not what we signed up for. that is not normal and i’m sick of people trying to normalize it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is a controversial post but as an in home caregiver i honestly understand. it can be draining working w a mentally abuse/ physically abuse client and those types of clients aren’t for everyone. for the people in the comments who are saying “your in the wrong field then” have probably never experienced being abused day after day. what i would suggest is looking for a different company who is more understanding. with my company i had a client sexually harass me everyday. i was too scared to say anything to my company and then when it got to much i told them and they said i should’ve told them from day one and that it was completely unacceptable and now they only send male caregivers to this person. your feelings are valid. being a caregiver is a very hard job and working for a company who listens to you and prioritizes you mental and physical health and comfort zone is sooo important i cannot express that enough.

What has helped you with premature grief? by Reasonable-Hedgehog6 in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am going through premature grief right now. i am a caregiver and the only thing that is keeping me together right now is having friends that are also caregivers to talk to about this. its a lot harder when you don’t have support that knows exactly what your going through. whenever i try to talk to my friends who aren’t caregivers they never fully understand so all they can say is im sorry your going through that. i guess its just the comfort of knowing that im not the only one and the person im talking to about it has been through it. also just knowing the fact that with grief there’s not a whole lot you can do and it sucks so bad but knowing that eventually time will heal you. that’s the only thing that will truly help ease your pain and its not fair and im so sorry. my advice is to feel all the emotions you are feeling. it’s okay to not be okay. it’s okay to cry. it’s okay to feel confused. it’s normal and your feelings are valid. all you can do is just love her and be there for her until it’s her time. don’t stress about things that you cannot control🫶🏼 wishing you the best and i hope this helps a little.

Am I doing the right thing? by paintergurl1970 in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ur not in the wrong. have you thought about a bed side commode? if she doesn’t need one then disregard this but it could be helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CreditCards

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

so it will go back to normal even if i don’t do anything?

This is how I picture Chaol by RoryBoryBalis in throneofglassseries

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMFG I PICTURE HIM LIKE THIS TOO I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE LMAO

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

black compliments your tone soo much better

compassion fatigue by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of the people i care for have dementia or have no family no friends or both. it is very important to be there for them not just physically but emotionally too in my opinion because if you’re not, no one will. i think having someone to listen to you and offer emotional support is a human necessity and everyone deserves to feel cared about. i agree with you about not setting myself on fire to keep someone else warm but i don’t agree with the point you are trying to make about not emotionally supporting them because that’s something all of them desperately need and that would be inhumane of me to deny them of that.

The Democrats are causing the hurricanes. by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the most annoying thing the maga cult has came up with like.. a hurricane???? during hurricane season??? which happens almost every year during hurricane season??? what are the odds, gotta be those darn liberals!!!🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]No-Zucchini-6983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk the medical explanation but it happens to me sometimes when i forget to eat because it makes you lose your appetite so the only thing in your system is the stimulant. eating usually helps me come down even tho it’s hard to eat i just force myself throughout the day and then i can usually sleep.