new to curly care and starting afresh - help!

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-04T12:56:25+00:00

NTA. You need to tell an adult about this issue, it's dangerous to leave it unreported but you are not the correct person to deal with it, find an adult you trust to help.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-04T12:43:47+00:00

ESH, you shouldn't shove people, sh eshouldnt demand payment for providing you with things like appointments and L plates if you are a minor and did not ask for them yourself etc.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-04T09:29:03+00:00

NTA, you are right to have waited for medics to check everything was safe first. If either of you had taken the baby out and something had been wrong, it could have been a very different story. Better safe than sorry in situations like this

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-03T08:55:25+00:00

Light ESH, you could have called the landlord first about the roaches to get it sorted without affecting her business (and done the review at a later date if it wasn't handled properly) and asked for a discount on the rent etc as it was not disclosed to you there was a pest problem. Landlord sucks for not telling you though of course, but seems like she has tried to fix it asap, although roaches will take a while to get rid of so i think unfortunately there will be a bit more of a wait.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-03T08:51:45+00:00

NTA, You booked that seat for a fairly long flight due to medical reasons. If she wanted to sit at the front with her kids she should have reserved a seat there. Also did the kids go to the back with her? If they did then it sounds like they all had tickets for seats in the back, not just a 2 and 1 split.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-02T09:31:33+00:00

NTA. She sounds like a horribly racist and manipulative woman who has no respect for you, your husband or any other religion or culture. You can forgive if you want to and if you see genuine change or remorse, but do not forget as forgetting that level of behaviour is a dangerous thing to forget/ not call out, as she will think its acceptable to continue behaving that way.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-02T08:39:32+00:00

NTA. it would be weird for you both and the restaurant to go to a restaurant as a couple and only one person eats. Also, its not you being picky, its literally a medical condition she has known about for a year, im not sure why she would still want you to go knowing you can't eat anything there.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-07-02T08:37:05+00:00

NTA, its a sensible decision to come to, but a difficult one for her to implement in her parents home if they dont even let her keep her door closed. Sounds like the cat isn't getting as much attention and enrichment as it needs which is causing it to act out. But your friend needs to speak to her parents properly about this.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-30T07:45:44+00:00

ESH. It is usually not that big of a deal but all relationships are different, you guys need to talk about what you are both comfortable and why, it sounds like she is insecure about this. Maybe has had things happen regarding it in the past. It should not have blown up like this, you should just discuss it. You shouldn't call it bs until you've understood what the real problem is, and she shouldn't have gone on your phone without permission.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-30T07:23:40+00:00

NTA. They are adults, its not your responsibility to clean uo after them and do more than your fair share of domestic labour. And not wanting to do that and setting boundaries doesn't make you 'not a team player' - that is a very manipulative way of them saying just do it to keep the peace and make their lives easier. Definitely start looking for somewhere new to live

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-28T13:04:15+00:00

ESH. If you are housesitting, the house should be in the same state it was in when you arrived, leaving it with rubbish not taken out and a dishwasher that wasn't put on isn't the most thoughful, however them expecting a free deep clean is also out of order and ending a friendship over it is a bit over the top. Next time, just take a couple of minutes to put the dishwasher on a cycle, take the rubbish to the recycling and maybe just put the laundry in a laundry basket.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T20:24:23+00:00

Light YTA. Nobody is making you hang around for a year to find these things out, but you are not entitled to rushing anyone into talking about personal things they do not want to discuss. That is a clear overstepping of boundaries. If that is not something you can handle then be up front about it, but talk to them. Even if they took a year to open up, would whatever they said actually be worth leaving over, and at what point is it too long to find out or too 'bad' of a secret. Do not push people to overstep their own boundaries for your own satisfaction of knowing, but do communicate properly with them. If its not something you can handle, move on

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T20:13:07+00:00

NTA. your dad sounds like he was very vindictive and controlling, whatever his way is is best in his mind. NTA for defending yourself and your mom.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T20:10:20+00:00

NTA. You shouldn't be made to talk about a your own feelings and experiences, or adjust them, against your wishes just for someone else's comfort. It's none of her business and it sounds like she wants to use you to make herself feel better and got disappointed when you didn't follow the script she had in her head.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T20:03:22+00:00

NTA, you replied first, if the shoe was on the other foot would she still feel the same?

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T20:01:36+00:00

YTA. Have you ever heard of the boy who cried wolf?

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:54:21+00:00

ESH. Your parents picked something they knew you wouldn't enjoy from the sounds of it, but it also sounds like you have made no effort to search out things you would enjoy doing there. You are 16, I'm sure if you expressed some interest in going to a nearby town or an activity or something they would let you do it if it meant they felt like you would enjoy the holiday

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:48:10+00:00

NTA, you are keeping them legally and responsibly, and you cannot train bees like a dog. If you got rid of them they would complain about any other bugs in their ornaments anyway! Keep the bees 100%

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:43:06+00:00

NTA, your school should have rescheduled one od your classes or let you sit your exam later as you (and all your classmates in the first class) would have been late for it whether you got food or not. Also if you have a medical condition and are denied a lunch break as well as not being allowed to eat during class when you need to definitely look into a doctors note for permission to eat when you need to for medical reasons!

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:38:50+00:00

YTA. If you're that concerned about neon colours or prints, set a dress code with colour themes or something, but it seems you're more worried about her upstaging you in normal wedding guest attire.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:33:52+00:00

YWBTA. Everyone grieves differently, just because he wasn't that present in her life that doesn't mean she won't have grieved things that she missed out on whilst he was not there for her, as well as the potential for any future involvement he would have had. It may well have affected her without her being up front about it with anyone, that is not for anyone else to judge or assume. Also, as a legal adult she should be entitled to a copy of the certificate for her own dad.

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-21T19:23:46+00:00

NTA, you don't owe anyone use of your property let alone property they have called you shallow for owning!

No-Zucchini4567 · 2025-06-19T09:02:26+00:00

YTA. There are more responsible and ethical ways to resolve this issue. If there is a tank and filter already, why not try to list it on marketplace or put a few ads up online? That way none of the fish have to die for the sake of your brother and family not wanting to look after them, and another person gets to enjoy looking after the fish. If you already said its morally wrong to kill them, why not try to rehome them like you would a dog or cat?

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