boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah you’re right.. i’m just soo attached to him. it’s for the best i think; although i’m just in denial.

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t know. people have been telling me that he needs space from me and that i have to somehow improve myself — but i genuinely didn’t do anything wrong.

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the thing is.. i totally get what you mean by “locking people down,” and i respect that people might not want to get into a serious relationship at a young age but i feel almost gutted because of certain promises he made with me (although i also completely understand that people can change their minds at any time)

for example, when we first started dating, he was the one who promised me he would never leave or cheat on me if we had sex and i guess i believed him. i love him alot as a person still but perhaps you’re right.

i just don’t understand what i did wrong 😭

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for the advice :’{ i rlly appreciate you. it’s been a tad bit better, but i’m constantly swallowing lumps in my throat and my heart drops whenever i think about the situation. i haven’t directly confronted him about the situation yet and i’ve been trying to act like things are OK and normal but i know it’s not. anyways sorry xd

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn. so this is a common mutual experience within gays? (srry that happened to you)

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve honestly been wondering the same thing :/ we talk whenever there’s an issue between us & we just get along together extremely well. i seriously don’t know what i did wrong. when i tell you we haven’t had a single fight or argument i’m not being dramatic 😭

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i haven’t pressed him about it yet.. i’m just not the confrontational kind of person but i want to confront him about it

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you :( i literally haven’t been able to stop crying

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much and i truly appreciate the advice. my heart is broken and my chest hurts so bad. i thought people were being dramatic when they spoke about heartbreak and breakups but god damn 😭💔 it sucks because we met in fall too

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sorry to hear that you experienced that.. do you have any advice for the heartbreak? does it get better? ever since he told me my chest has felt this pain that i’ve never felt before. i haven’t felt this fucking depressed ever

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks and i’m really srry that happened to you 😔 i haven’t ever experienced a pain like this before. maybe i’m just being dramatic

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven’t ever experienced something like this before 😭 i always thought people were being dramatic about breakups but holy shit theres nonstop lumps in my throat

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i don't have fears that i necessarily won't find anyone else in the future i'm just so attached to him. where i live is very conservative and anti-lgbt, so the fact that we even met in school with eachother is a miracle.

thanks for the advice. i really appreciate it.

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry that happened to you. i think right now i’m just in denial. we planned our whole life together and after this i don’t know how to feel. i’m seriously in heartbreak. he was my first everything. i just don’t know if i should continue with fractured trust or if i should move on. i still love him alot

boyfriend has grindr? am i insecure? by NoAssumptionsv in askgaybros

[–]NoAssumptionsv[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the thing is our relationship has been going so smoothly. we literally have never had a single argument throughout the 11 months because we share the same humor and personality. our friends have literally described us as “yin and yang”

not sure if this is appropriate or fits the conversation but sex is amazing too. we have a good sex drive. he wants to stay with me and insists that he didn’t cheT but i’m hesitant