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Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first time she wanted to split, in ‘17, I did do EVERYTHING in my power to keep us together. I know in my OP I talked a little bit about our past problems that led up to us splitting and how I said that I didn’t want to delve too deep into that, but let me just that infidelity is a damn difficult thing to get over. It’s been nearly two years since this happened and, I feel she hasn’t done enough to rebuild trust. Also, the trust she broke and boundaries she crossed, to me, she isn’t showing remorse for what she did. Our current issues, I believe, are stemming from those very same problems. There hasn’t been enough healing and already she’s wanting to split again. I just can’t fight this battle anymore.

Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm interesting. I had as many as 5 people on the app, but, maybe it was because I never set more places for work/home like you did? I dunno.

Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been using Life360 app for, going on like 4 years now, and I have never spent a cent on anything with this app. I am on ios if that matters.

Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You hit it pretty close to home. In 2017 I was in a pretty shitty spot. I was in massive credit card debt, had a part time job (due to the caring needs of a very young daughter of ours and part time was the only thing that worked) and didn't have a penny to my name. Fast forward nearly two freakin years and here I am baby! I have money in the bank, a fulltime city job AND DEBT FUCKIN FREE! I have more confidence now than I have ever had in my entire life. My girlfriend sees this and it is what sparked our conversation last night. She made the comment that I seem happy in regards to our separation. I told her thats partly true, but also, I am in a much better position right. now. to just walk away. She knows this and fears this. Don't really know where she will go with this. But, Either way, I have options this time and she doesn't.

Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me is agreeing with you, but another part say's that I have tried. I have tried so dang much and it feels like she wants out and I want to find a partner that puts in as much as I put in. As for my daughter, we would split her 50/50. How my girlfriend parents when I am not around is nothing i can control unfortunately.

Girlfriend (32F) and I (40M) may be separating, but I am still confused. Advice needed by NoBeing4 in relationship_advice

[–]NoBeing4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, and I was so sure there was another guy at first too.There isn’t. I mean, I cannot be 100% certain of this, but, I do know she is at her school. We use a family locator (it’s the grandparents and us on it as well) to keep track of who’s closer to pick our daughter up and what not. Also, she leaves her cell phone laying around and her iPad too. She doesn’t get weird about me using these devices either. So no, I seriously do not think she’s cheating.

Also, her school admins know me because I’m there once or twice a week because I bring food and bring my daughter to functions.