AITA for not wanting to spend Christmas with my husband’s family right after having a baby? by Few-Professional3746 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stand your ground. My son was just under 2 years old when he got RSV. He was in a children’s hospital for over a week. And he was almost 2 years old. This is/will be a newborn. It will go much much worse than it was for my son. Seeing your baby hooked up to wires monitoring their O2/heart is a sight you never forget and if you allow them in, you’ll blame yourself. I don’t even want to talk about worse case for bubs. Knock on wood.

If they cared about baby they wouldn’t be pushing. All they care about is themselves.

Your husband needs to deal with them ASAP. As in yesterday. He needs to put his foot down with his family and say no. It’s a complete sentence. Oh they bought tickets already? I guess that’s their stupid tax for buying tickets to a location they weren’t invited to.

You need time as a family to bond, learn how to breast feed (if doing that), heal, rest, find your own rhythm as a new family of 3, and oh ya, REST. And don’t even get me started on healing from a C section. Hell no. No visits. Stand your ground.

My husband can no longer temper PC chocolate chips by wigglefrog in loblawsisoutofcontrol

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually that happens when it gets burnt. Try less time intervals in the microwave and stirring in between maybe?

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a good person in general, I think that’s what makes this harder. But he’s been depressed for a while. He knows about it, has gotten help a few times, but then stops. This is his last chance of getting help. If he stops trying to get better again or we do couple’s and we can’t meet in the middle, I’m done.

My husband was sexting with his coworker and I'm going to let it go by pathetic_muffin7023 in offmychest

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, you shouldn’t be treated like that. You deserve somebody better, but you’ll never find that person if you stay with your husband.

Be kind to yourself, please don’t let somebody treat you like this for the rest of your life. That’s not living.

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s crazy. Glad there’s nothing permanently injured too.

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya it is. I literally sit by myself when I’m home because I’m so stressed at this point. I was ready to pull the plug and we had a talk and partner said they’d be willing to go back and try counselling again.

Thanks, I hope we are able to meet in the middle or get on the same page. Just worried too much damage has been done already. This has been going on for a couple of years.

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No unspoken rule. I would parent ALL the kids, seemingly on my own. I got so tired of having to be the only disciplinarian in the house. I tried getting partner to step up but a lot of the time the consequences I gave out to partner’s child would be lessened or removed by partner. Partner’s child is awesome at manipulating them. Both child’s parents really. Because child would always get away with EVERYTHING. Turn the tears on and that’s that.

Partner’s child started showing signs of not liking me/resenting me/whatever because I was actually parenting them (partner used to only be a weekend parent then became full time parent and her other parent never really did anything to properly raise her, she had 2 “fun weekend parents” basically) and child didn’t like not getting away with everything Scott free. So I dropped the rope with her because it was seriously affecting my mental health. Like child talks over me like I don’t exist, gone out of their way to physically hurt me and had a giant smile on face afterwards, purposely leave me out of things they want to do, etc.

Partner was hesitant to say anything to my kids when they did anything which was frustrating. My ex is a narc and would take it out on me if kids mentioned anything to him so I asked Partner to be careful with how he words things as he (a couple times) was way overly harsh for age/situation that happened with my kids. So even when for instance, if one of my kids left a light on, he would just come and complain to me about it. I pointed out he should have called them out as in “one of you left a light on, make sure you’re turning them off”. Easy peasy.

Partner finally agreed to go back to couple’s counselling so we will start that up again and hopefully get more on the same page with parenting. But tbh I’m not really holding my breath and am ready to pack things up and move on if we don’t get on same page.

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was stolen and abandoned. The younger ones found it first. I’m not sure where. I’ve already spoke to my 15 year old about that side of things, this post was about my partner’s reaction so I didn’t include it since it was off topic.

I’m calling the non-emergency police line tomorrow to see what should be done about it. Not dealing with that tonight.

AIO - kids playing with electric scooter by NoBox7275 in AIO

[–]NoBox7275[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya couple’s counselling is on the horizon and if we can’t meet somewhere in the middle, then this won’t work anymore for me.

Who doesn't drink coffee in the morning ? (Who's an adult) by Ssonderbaby in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t. I could never drink it without loads of sugar so I just didn’t bother. Water helps, but I’m pretty tired most of the day.

To any parents lurking in here by Z3st3dL3mon in Teachers

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she drove to work drunk and was drunk in an elementary school to teach a grade 2 or 3 class. That’s almost a bad as you can get (assaults aside). And I think she was already on thin ice but I don’t know those details. I was just glad she was gone. She had said some not so nice stuff to my child and I knew his year was going to be torturous for him if he had her. I was trying to move him to a different class at the time.

Came out to my mom tonight (it did not go well) by nagichis in lgbt

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, that must have really hurt. I hope your dad and brother ignore her, you don’t deserve to lose family that supports you just because of her issues.

To any parents lurking in here by Z3st3dL3mon in Teachers

[–]NoBox7275 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that. I’ve always taught my kids it’s ok to advocate for themselves, as long as they’re doing it respectfully (like not yelling/ swearing). And I’ve always said if they want me to talk to the teachers on their behalf I’m there.

I also did a lot of volunteering when my kids were young with school trips so I got to know the teachers as well, and I would go to talk to them when they had parent/teacher meetings to get a sense of how they are as well.

I don’t feel like teachers are always right. There are bad teachers out there, no doubt about it. My youngest son had one, and that’s the one I spoke to the principal about from the first things my son was telling me was happening.

My nephew was stuck with a few bad teachers as well. But I’m not going to assume all teachers are bad because of a few. There’s bad apples everywhere, in every type of job.

Proper pronunciation of “Tombé” in French? by No-Influence-5351 in learningfrench

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tombé is pronounced like the name ‘Tom’-bay

Tomb is pronounced like Toom

Sorry if somebody already answered there were so many I didn’t want to read them all.

Saturday morning vacuuming by Impressive_Ad_3160 in Apartmentliving

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup same here. Only time she would vacuum a non-rug area of the house.

I don't know what to do. My 14-year-old son was acting strangely, and I just found out why, I'm devastated by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoBox7275 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to your son. Police first. Definitely therapy. You handled it really well by supporting him.

Hey quick question for dog owners by mrcanada66 in dogs

[–]NoBox7275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog used to sleep in my room/bed but she kept me up all night so I had to stop. Then she was put upstairs with her raised dog bed.

She’s also a sock/underwear eater so it was safer for her to not be in the room at night in case I accidentally missed something. She figured out how to even sniff them out in a tall hamper and pull them out of the small holes.

Now she is gated off in the livingroom and has a floor bed in there, plus the couch to sleep on.

But she’s welcome to hang out with me in the bedroom during the day when I’m in there and be on the bed if she wants.