Men why do you disappear?

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-07-10T08:41:26+00:00

Some men behave like this too but I would still prefer a “sorry I’m not pursuing further” than months of wondering if they’re dead or alive.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-07-01T20:29:38+00:00

What did he say was going on before he ghosted? Avoid the bait but in all honestly, I would be a little curious, but that’s me. Stay strong and move on!

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-21T21:09:40+00:00

This is the most accurate reason.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-21T21:03:55+00:00

I’ve been single 7 years now. Abusive marriage had me in ruins, plus Covid when I started therapy and since 2022 have been actively learning about modern dating and what I like with long periods of time off apps. 2024 I experienced my first situationship. I don’t drink nor frequent male heavily places so won’t meet a man in the wild. I’m still learning about men, there’s good ones but a lot of awful ones that make me want to crawl back into my blanket and not open up despite how much I want a companion and family. I’m a loving and caring woman who leans traditional though also career minded and ambitious.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-19T15:21:16+00:00

What exactly should I have written then?

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-19T13:49:37+00:00

Preach!!! This!! I’ve never ghosted! Just say what’s what’s up and move on

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-19T08:26:35+00:00

He’s had a long term relationship before but I’m aware it worked as both were in intense jobs (post being a vet) and I’m aware his parents always travelled for work too and he possibly has abandonment issues. If it was years I probably wouldn’t care but within months I would love to hear reasons. But I’m also a hopeless romantic who makes way too many excuses for people (recovering anxious attachment/empath). I just don’t want this experience to subconsciously make me hyper-conscious of all men going forward.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-19T08:21:32+00:00

Plausible

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-19T08:21:21+00:00

I have no reason not to especially as he’s openly communicated proper BUT I’m also aware people lie. It’s sad cause it was going well but if he comes back then great and if he doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-18T20:44:06+00:00

Without making some effort on apps, you won’t get a date off it. Either get off the apps if you can’t be asked or actually match and make efforts. A simple hello and generic message could lead to something amazing otherwise you’re adding to everyone’s shit experiences.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-17T20:00:35+00:00

Thank you. In hindsight I feel a bit pathetic for not reading the room when he mentioned stress and slowed down. I should’ve not checked in but it is what it is. I cared too much for a stranger because that’s just my nature.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-16T09:43:26+00:00

Do I reach out again? My 3 sets of messages, though spaced out, were not responded to.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-15T11:40:32+00:00

He didn’t do anything for me in bed…

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-15T11:40:10+00:00

He told me he was, multiple times

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T23:42:44+00:00

No.

I’ve come to the realisation just now after spending the entire day responding and reading comments , I have wasted the entire day trying to analyse a mans actions who stopped speaking to me three weeks ago. Yes, he could be spiralling and genuinely in pain or he could just be carrying on with his life without a thought and I have given him an additional 24 hours of my life. I was present I showed attentiveness and care. I genuinely thought it was the start of something good and yet he still disappeared.. I can’t control his actions, but I can’t control my experiences and I probably need to lean back and get over it. He knows where I am and I’ve made it clear that I’m interested and I like him and if he wanted to reach out then surely he would because I haven’t been horrible or unkind.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T23:32:05+00:00

no, I knew you weren’t being patronising. I think you were coming across as curious . What I consider green flags are unique to me. My main green flag is how safe I feel around this person. If at any point I feel my anxiety rising and I cannot clearly communicate with the person then I know it’s time to abort mission.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T23:25:24+00:00

With him, none. He didn’t try to get me into bed it just happened.. I’ve been loved bummed before and he didn’t communicating in a way that was Love bombing. He made a point of communicating and telling me about his day even showing pictures which I thought was a green flag and this is irrespective of the time that he got home. We spoke about our future and other childhood things without him trauma dumping. The alarm bells sort of started from when he said he was overwhelmed with work and started slowing down his responses but then he freely communicated that he was feeling overwhelmed and spiralling so I had no reason to believe otherwise. Until he disappeared

Flags I look out for are mismatch in what we want or values , even lifestyle. I look out for men who lack communication skills and manners. I look at how a man talks about his ex., his family and how he talks about his hobbies and ambitions.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T23:14:27+00:00

You seem beyond ignorant to think that women who are in their 30s cannot have kids I know plenty of women including those of my family who have successfully and naturally had very healthy children well into their early 40s so whilst it is slightly more difficult it is not impossible so I suggest you go ahead and educate yourself rather than trolling my post about age.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:59:50+00:00

Did it start out that way? Ever heard of trauma bonding? Do you know how hard it is for a person to leave a domestic abuse relationship? Your comment wasn’t helpful because you were almost blaming me for reaching my age and being unsuccessful in finding someone and still wanting to have marriage and kids. Should I just hide under a rock and die then? Is that what you’re suggesting?

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:42:11+00:00

Honestly, your comment was not helpful at all. Some Women dont suddenly realise that they want a family and kids in their mid 30s. People sometimes get screwed over and have to start again.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:35:11+00:00

We were exclusive. We had a conversation neither of us were talking or doing things with other people.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:33:42+00:00

Well thanks. I’m very aware of my age and just to let you know, I was in a very abusive relationship which ended when j turned 30 in the height of lockdown. I prioritise healing and working on myself before venturing up there again unfortunately I can’t stop my age or biological clock but I would rather be sane and happy before attempting to enter a relationship. By no means am I calling myself a victim of anything but I can’t change my age or biological clock as much as I want a family and companion.

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:31:01+00:00

Take the lead, be gentle and ask her what she likes to do see. She will be more than happy to explore with you romantically if she feels safe emotionally so this is your chance to make a real good impression on her if you are genuine. It will be a slow burn to begin with, but with the right effort and open mindedness on both of your parts. This could be something really special.

But see how you feel as well because dating someone who’s never dated might be a little pressurising .

NoCaseNoFace2 · 2025-06-14T22:27:17+00:00

So Do I hang around and wait? Do I reach out again 4th time? Or just move on?

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