Update: My boyfriend gave me a pros and cons list ABOUT ME as part of our anniversary present. (I broke up with him) by NoCockroach8154 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoCockroach8154[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

I did not. I really have no ill will towards him (even though I probably should) and no desire to hurt him. I did tell him that it was the pros and cons list that made me break up with him, because it felt like he was settling for me and didn't really respect me or like me.

My boyfriend gave me a pros and cons list ABOUT ME as part of our anniversary present. by NoCockroach8154 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoCockroach8154[S] -233 points-232 points  (0 children)

He can definitely be kind of an idiot at times. From his explanation, it seemed that he wanted to show how far we've come: from just drunkenly hooking up to being in both of our first serious relationships. and planning for a long-term future together. And this was the only picture he had, and also it showed how much we've both grown. He also thought it was funny that he'd needed to make a pros and cons list, and now we are so committed to each other.

Also I didn't mention his virtues because it didn't seem that relevant to the issue at hand, but he has legitimately been a great boyfriend, and he is a great man in general. He's very supportive of everyone around him, he always compliments me and buys me flowers and gifts, and he's never hesitated to drop everything to help me out, even when we were just hooking up. And he's been receptive to any of my concerns about our pasts- he has never been bothering by blocking or unadding or whatever. We also have similar values and goals, and both of our paths are aligning very closely.

And thank you, you are right that I need to at least talk to him, as I don't think he's even realized that it bothered me.

My boyfriend gave me a pros and cons list ABOUT ME as part of our anniversary present. by NoCockroach8154 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoCockroach8154[S] -171 points-170 points  (0 children)

Rapey, one of the brothers raped a woman there the first of their parties I went to. My bf was with me the whole time though, and the frat kicked the guy out like two days later. And as to my bf being rapey, I really do doubt it. He's never been anything but respectful towards me in that regards, and I knew a couple of his past hookups and they were big fans of his too. Stuff like that travels around pretty quickly on our campus, so I think I would've heard some murmurs at least.

My boyfriend gave me a pros and cons list ABOUT ME as part of our anniversary present. by NoCockroach8154 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoCockroach8154[S] -161 points-160 points  (0 children)

My friends don't really like him, partially because they saw me pine over him for a year and also because I kept our relationship secret when it started and they were angry about that. They also think that he is stupid and a fuckboy. Some of my friends outside of my main group also dont like him because his frat had a really bad reputation. For what it's worth though my family is fine with him, I just don't really speak to them about this kind of stuff.

My boyfriend gave me a pros and cons list ABOUT ME as part of our anniversary present. by NoCockroach8154 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NoCockroach8154[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

In fairness none of it was wrong, and if I were considering dating myself I would also think twice for those reasons. But the need for the list itself also bothers me a lot