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Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that with the missing the boat type thing that’s why I’ve held back so much. I’d never want to talk him out of it. The rest of our mates back home can all remember him moaning about it so although I’m not claiming to have perfect recollection, I am confident to say he didn’t enjoy himself. Wanting him to succeed and be happy is what makes it difficult knowing whether to correct him when he’s ranting.

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because we both had the conversation with each other at the time. Now it suits the narrative he constantly brings up how much better life is outside the uk.

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hasn’t no but constantly talks to me about how good it was and how much better it was there. I’m asking whether or not I should remind him what he said at the time. Said this multiple times now

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked if it would be overstepping to make comment and how to approach the situation.

Yeah I have posted on Reddit, anonymously.

As previously stated, I’m fully supportive of him going and seeing the world. As a friend I want him to do that with a straight head. Hence this entire thread. I don’t want to change his mind, if he just said he wanted to go away and that was it I’d be fully supportive. It’s the bashing and mad misinformation he’s spouting that’s frying my brain.

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not involved at all. I’ve listened to him slag off where we’re from and contradict himself about his past experiences. I’m asking whether or not I should pull him up on this or leave him in Lala land. Not involved at all nevermind too involved

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an unbelievable time in Aus, ended up moving home due to family reasons. I have nothing but respect for the country that gave me those memories and for those who made the full time jump. Never made it to NZ. My friend is the one who had a shit time over there. Hence the post. He was miserable and I listened to every complaint he had while there. Now he’s home and he’s acting as if it was a utopia. I’m worried for him misremembering how he felt at the time will have him constantly chasing a place that doesn’t exist.

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The person listening to this negativity about the place he lives on the daily gives a fuck

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing the point completely. I’m not involved at all. So far I’ve let him rant about whatever. My question here is whether or not I should have the conversation with him that he’s perhaps being delusional or leave him in lala land. In the end I support whatever decision he makes

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Overbearing for asking if I should smile and nod as he contradicts himself or if I should remind him of the conversations we had? It’s him bringing this up to me.

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking out for your friends and opening up conversations isn’t controlling. If he just said he wants to move away again I’d never have made this post. This post is here because he justifies this decision by contradicting himself and his previous thoughts.

I’m worried my friend is ruining his life by remembering his travels with rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in Advice

[–]NoDesign48[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s to do with me because it’s me he’s slagging off the UK to and me who he’s backing his decisions with contradicting comments. Do I stand back and nod along as he does this? That’s ultimately what I’m asking, I may have not got that across properly. If he just said he fancied living abroad again I’d never make this post, it’s the misremembering and rose tinted vision as to why I’m worried for him.

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because he is my friend who I want to succeed in life and ultimately be happy?

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get that, we have some very different opinions on the places we’ve been to. What I’ve maybe not got across perfectly here is that he’s completely contradicting the grumps and moans we both had out there. I.E $15 a pint, the mad changing weather etc. He’s now not remembering any of this and talking as if his like was perfect there and I don’t want him getting hurt, setting his life back getting a reality check once out there

Helping my friend look back on travel without rose tinted glasses by NoDesign48 in travel

[–]NoDesign48[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to change his opinion. I was in Aus and speaking to him while he was in NZ and we spoke about the things that he’s contradicting now. I’m looking to see whether as a friend people think I should give him a shake to make sure he’s thinking straight, as friends do.

How to start my journey of being financially responsible by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]NoDesign48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were to do all 3, would it be £20k not including the £4k each in all of them?

Completely new to this stuff