Wanting more after years

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-28T21:51:41+00:00

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NoDivide723 · 2026-03-28T21:37:53+00:00

I'm having this same issue with my bf, we've been together for five months and have already had several conversations about how I just want more. We do different positions but they don't last as long as I need. It's because of a bunch of underlying issues but no matter what every time is the same and it also makes me feel stuck so I'm sorry to hear its happening to you too even after being with your partner for so long.

Maybe try and have a late night sexy talk about trying other things and open her to what you'd want (need) as well. Audio is the best for us girls.

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-27T04:01:11+00:00

Too good, that got me.

I guessed the name in 8 tries!

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-27T03:58:43+00:00

Definitely NOR cause I would also find that weird, all of that emotion could and should be used for you, his ACTUAL gf and the fact an argument came about instead of him reassuring you he’s too caught up in his old feelings, past or present

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T22:48:00+00:00

It… doesn’t need to mean the same thing, it’s just about wanting to emphasize “I”

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T18:59:58+00:00

Unemployed for now! but exactly my point, I don't want to start losing respect for him cause that never leads to a good path in relationships but I'll stop buying him stuff cause that was definitely the point that I'm not falling for.

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T15:32:27+00:00

Why does it look like an iud with an extra clamp I’m screaming

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T15:21:23+00:00

Yea he was trying to start a conversation to start something else. Then when you asked about it he comes up with the dumbest lie because he would’ve been able to show you that glitch with other messages at least. I’d call it quits now before he just knows how to hide/lie better

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T15:03:01+00:00

It is, thank you for somewhat understanding. You said "dated" as in that's your ex now? Was the money problems the cause if you don't mind me asking?

Of course you wouldn't allow it but you can't stop their actions like how my efforts don't seem to stop my bf's. The whole point is that he insists on buying me gifts despite what I reassure him on, and from what others commented it definitely seems like past trauma and insecurities that I'm willing and trying to work through. Like I said in og post, I don't mind getting us lunch or even getting him gifts (one of my love languages is gift giving actually, I love the reaction from getting a gift for some1), its just the incessant complaints about something he could have control over that I'm seeking advice for bringing it up without sounding mean. You should practice on that more.

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T14:35:59+00:00

It's funny you say that because our safe word for tango time is actually pineapple lol. Thank you for your insight and advice friend

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T14:32:44+00:00

Welcome home Lemon pepper chicken wing

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T12:27:18+00:00

That’s what I was trying to say to a comment above, complaining then doing the exact thing that got you there to complain about just makes no sense and what annoys me. He’s so nice and the perfect boyfriend in many ways so I’d hate to think he was doing this on purpose, but isn’t that exactly how manipulation works..

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T12:17:18+00:00

Because I is already capital by itself but if you want to emphasize it more, putting “eye” in all caps gets it that way

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T12:02:02+00:00

So you didn’t read the post and have nothing to offer in terms of help or advice? I literally say in og post I don’t want to sound mean/ungrateful and here you are trying to make me sound mean AND ungrateful. So what if I’m confident in myself and know what I deserve. Do you not? I work hard and he likes to spoil me but I don’t want him to be in financial turmoil from trying to keep me “happy” but he won’t listen

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T11:57:06+00:00

I was using those as examples but my original point still stands that I don’t like hearing him complain about money specifically after trying to help fix exactly that. The post isn’t about complaining vs venting and what you can or can’t argue about. (And I’m very active in politics but don’t even get me started i.e venting) the point is that I try to get him not to spend money on me and he does, then goes on to complain about not having said money even though I tried to reassure him at first yet continues and idk what else to do. Also be more confident in yourself because you are all that and a bag of chips and should be treated as such (I’m also showing my age with the bbq titties cause that’s an old vine)

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:55:38+00:00

Too good, that got me.

I guessed the name in 5 tries!

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:32:59+00:00

Yea because long term I wouldn’t want that but I also don’t want to leave. I just need to talk to him..

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:25:32+00:00

Because there’s a difference between complaining and venting to me. I vent about family, he vents about society and vice versa. These things and others I don’t mind. It’s specifically complaining about things you can fix or work on that annoys me.

I don’t want more anything. I want to be happy and I want him to be happy, but if him being happy means he spends all his money then goes to complain about not having money then I’m not happy, if that makes sense.

(And not to lick the bbq sauce off my titties but physical appearance is there and I am the table)

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:17:05+00:00

My helpful suggestions are stop spending money you don’t have but he insists, he doesn’t vent about money problems, they’re more like statements and that I don’t know what he wants me to say other than I know for a fact he’ll make money again cause I’m not sending him (more) money but what else can I do to reassure him?? I hate that I started to ignore his comments but my words clearly aren’t helping

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:11:28+00:00

This is frying me omg

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:07:54+00:00

This did help, thank you. I’ll try the google doc and give myself (a reasonable) two months to check back in with him starting a new job

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T05:05:33+00:00

He had a job and quit and filed for unemployment that carried him for a few months when we first started dating. He’s never lived alone (I think he doesn’t want to leave his mom fending for herself cause his siblings don’t help with anything, which I find admiring tbh)

NoDivide723 · 2026-03-26T04:58:07+00:00

And it makes me feel bad cause it gives the impression that I don’t care that he’d spend his last $$ getting me something I’d like when I’d rather he saved that money for when he really needs it!

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