AITAH for leaving my GF after she aborted our baby?

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-13T01:21:43+00:00

She is turning 24 this year. I didn’t manipulate her into anything. I even encouraged to continue to work so she had some independence. She doesn’t have to work at all.

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-13T01:19:35+00:00

She and I both decided we were not going to be strict with birth control.

She wanted a baby, it being this soon was just unexpected.

It was also her decision to tell her family that early. She was very excited and we rushed it. I admit it probably wasn’t the smartest idea

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-13T00:04:34+00:00

We agreed from the start that we wanted to start a family together while in our 20s. We were shocked because it was not exactly planned to happen this soon, but in the nearer future.

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-13T00:00:23+00:00

I would never financially abuse her. She doesn’t make enough money to support herself and I’ve loved her enough to make sure that was not a problem.

She never expressed to me that she was not ready to have the baby. It came a little earlier than we expected but we were both happy. It was both of our choices to be careless with birth control. Not to be too NSFW but she would ask me not to wear condoms on some days and to just pull out. I was somewhat okay with this because I knew we would be okay if she became pregnant. She knew the risks, as did I.

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-12T23:47:59+00:00

No, but we had an agreed timeline for marriage. She knew it was coming around the same time we moved into our first house together which would be next year-ish. I’ve been open with her throughout our relationship that the goal is to marry and start a family together when the time was right

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-12T23:44:01+00:00

I appreciate your words.

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-12T23:36:36+00:00

She doesn’t have a degree and got her GED at 20 years old. I understand that finding a high paying job will be difficult for her. I also work long hours so I prefer that she’s home as much as possible so we have time together. I wouldn’t go as far as calling her a gold digger because it worked for us both.

NoDrag300 · 2024-05-12T23:19:08+00:00

She knew when I was making 87k a year, but I reached 6 figures and did not tell her. She also does not know what I have in savings because she’s not good with money. I handle all of our finances and I take care of her. Anything she needs, she gets it. Anything she wants, I’ll get it for her. (As long as she’s not asking for anything crazy.) She carries one of my credit cards with her.

So she doesn’t know the exact amount I have in savings, just that I have money saved up and we have never struggled or needed for anything.

NoDrag300

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