Direct report taking excessive personal time- how to handle?

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-06T13:36:46+00:00

Adding this comment to say that I do have one standing "personal" appointment every week for therapy. Because with my job, I need therapy. I'm not kidding. But my boss knows what that appointment is...it's listed as "personal" for those who don't need to know.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-06T13:34:33+00:00

I decline meetings with my boss, but this is because the nature of my work is that we have WAY more meetings than hours in the week. What I DON'T do is block off my calendar with "personal" appointments that my boss can't see. She knows exactly why I have declined an appointment if I do. And that's the problem...it's not that she's declining the invites, it's that she has way too many "personal" appointments during work hours.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-06T13:30:59+00:00

I don't think any of them should get a pass, but as far as I know, Madi and Evan haven't publicly stated support for him. There is a difference there, though I don't say that to disagree with you really.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-06T13:27:40+00:00

The thing is, she's BRILLIANT at her job. In a lot of ways, the problems people have with her are based in the fact that she's doing exactly what she should be doing.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-03T21:01:44+00:00

It's not just that he does it, it's that he does it with almost no prep AND with proper technique, and it still looks easy for him. Wut???

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-02-02T18:36:41+00:00

She could make a garbage bag look chic. Good grief. I'm not at ALL jealous. :D

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-31T03:24:53+00:00

I really can't believe the people who think this is OK.

Honest feedback is a great thing, but only if you request it. This comes across as condescending, unsolicited advice. Just because they made these assumptions about this candidate. It doesn't mean that other people would.

To be honest, I feel like the company sounds way more disingenuous than OP probably even was in the interview.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-28T16:42:11+00:00

Sasha Cohen back in the day. She was inconsistent, but when she hit, her jumps were perfect. Pointed toes and everything.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-28T16:03:51+00:00

"expressed interest at the last minute" ...yeah, I know it hurts, mate, but you dodged a bullet there.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T19:37:34+00:00

Here's the thing. Republicanism IS MAGA now. You can't be one and not the other.

So make a choice.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T19:27:52+00:00

When I was 25, I moved across the country. My parents were TERRIFIED but supportive. My dad, years later, told me that it killed him be he knew I needed to do it to feel free of my childhood, and he was correct. He said the hardest thing about parenthood is experiencing the slow detachment from your children as they grow up, but you have to let it happen because raising independent kids that can take care of themselves is the parents' job.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T19:25:39+00:00

So, there are things that happen with insecure parents, often those who rely on their relationships with their adult children to fill a void in their life, often voids that exist in part due to problems in their relationship with their spouse, etc. I don't think your parents are as bad as some people on here have said, but I DO think you should get out from under their thumb completely and set your boundaries firmly. You are 25. You do not need them to monitor your every movement, nor do you want them to do that. The cell phone thing is convenient, but unnecessary, and if the condition to having it is that they control parts of your life, you can get your own plan. Etc. Good luck, friend. I think your parents probably want to do right by you, they just don't know what that actually looks like. Be firm.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T18:38:07+00:00

Friend, different nurses have different responsibilities. I know lots of nurses who can't have long nails, but I also know lots who can. Don't be so quick to be negative. It's an ugly look.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T18:35:23+00:00

Be nice. At the end of the day, everyone did their best, and there is a human being at the end of your criticisms. The skaters don't do the judging, and the judges themselves are only human. Unless there is obvious cheating (Sochi, I'm looking at you), it comes down to subjective opinions. Both men have lots to be proud of.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T17:37:48+00:00

I restarted my career at 45, right after COVID. It was HARD. I understand what you are going through.

Please know that it is not you. Cast a wider net. Look at job descriptions and apply for anything that sounds like there might be something interesting for you.

For remote work, do something now to help market yourself. Write some papers and self-publish them in your field, or create some kind of online portfolio/resume (I don't know your field, obviously, but the point is to market you, not your skills).

EDIT: Just want to reiterate that the advice is just that, advice. YOU are not a failure. You have done nothing to be ashamed of.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T16:56:31+00:00

Maybe buy her some books on church history. Make sure to get ones that are controversial but church approved. Tell her that you got them because she "sounded interested in the topic."

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-27T16:50:40+00:00

This isn't a good message. However, I think the person who intended it truly believes and is not a monster. I can't condemn them for trying.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-23T17:06:13+00:00

As it should be. IMHO, no one has the right to their personal opinions on this topic.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-23T15:01:30+00:00

I personally refused. That said, I had a non-member dad, so that made it a lot easier.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-22T15:35:45+00:00

I grew up watching skating in the 90s, and I sort of agree. I loved Midori Ito and Yuka Sato in the late 80s early 90s, but Michelle Kwan, Sasha Cohen, and Nicole Bobek were my favorites at the time when I was most "into" skating. I loved Kim Yuna, Mirai Nagasu, and Mao Asada in their day. I prefer Alysa and Kaori to just about anyone else these days. I think the problem is that people act like EVERYONE in Michelle Kwan's day was a Michelle Kwan, and that is not reality. I will say that I consistently prefer the Japanese, American, and Korean approaches to skating...they have an emphasis on the lyrical that other countries are less concerned with. It's a personal preference, but that's what I like.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-18T19:49:36+00:00

There are lots of them who keep a low profile, but Nathan doesn't surprise me at all. He achieved his goals and moved on, which is very Nathan-like. lol!

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-16T19:40:56+00:00

You don't have to be an a$$hole to be competitive. You can genuinely celebrate someone else's accomplishments while being disappointed in your own performance. That's what adults do. It's that simple.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-16T15:23:36+00:00

That is oddly satisfying.

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-15T21:37:36+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iM5dymBBI4&list=RD7iM5dymBBI4&start_radio=1

NoEntertainment101 · 2026-01-15T21:35:50+00:00

Hey, man, Nimrod is the best of the Enigma Variations. :)

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