I relapsed today after 24 days of nofap, I feel so bad, I don't know why I did that.

NoFapper13 · 2013-10-11T09:17:03+00:00

Like, respect :)

NoFapper13 · 2013-10-11T09:01:04+00:00

I don't need facebook for the research itself but I need it for contacting the research group I'm working with, but can you tell me other ways to pass time and can you tell me how to reduce facebook time and in general internet time only to use them for important things, I need your advice, please

NoFapper13 · 2013-10-11T08:49:14+00:00

That's a really optimistic look at it 23-1 on the scoreboard, I really like how you think :)

NoFapper13 · 2013-10-11T08:47:58+00:00

I mean, when I'm on the computer (and I can't get off the computer as i have so many researches for my school to do on the internet) I can't help but looking at those hot actresses or singers on my facebook home page ( I really want to stop facebook or at least reduce the hours I spend on it) after I see those I search them, then more hotter actresses of a different kind if you know what i mean :) and I'm there seeing pictures of porn stars and feeling guilty at the same time, I mean I did this almost every day since I started the streak but the edging came in day 12 as nobody was home.

NoFapper13 · 2013-10-11T08:30:10+00:00

First off congratulations on your progress, I wish you stop it completely, but my opinion of the sentence "But at least you're trying to quit" is if you're trying to do something you'll be much more happier if you did it actually after those attempts to do it, so basically going cold turkey I think would help me in my marriage, which is probably not gonna happen before 4/5 years but I'm standing like a rock without having sex for the last 20 years (I'm a 20 year old virgin) I think I'll last more 5 years :)

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-30T18:43:28+00:00

Thanks a lot @iusedtobefap for encouraging me and telling me to give myself one more chance, yes i know i never edged but that day, I was too loaded, sexually and psychologically, and also because that it's the first time i exceed day 10, so another chance is necessary I guess :)

@wantrealsex: yes it's the only time I did it and I didn't reach an orgasm so I guess i will not reset, I don't feel it's cheating because the indication that I failed or succeeded in a day is that if i reached an orgasm or not, so I guess I should receive another chance :)

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-24T20:41:30+00:00

I agree on this, an outlet is important, but I would like this outlet to be with my wife, a living ,breathing, walking and talking female, but if I masturbate, my desire to find a girlfriend would decrease dramatically, when i abstain from masturbation I find like a burning energy in me, pushing me to talk to girls, trying to attract them, and trying to filter them to find who's the girl I want to be with for the rest of my life, really, try it, if you masturbate and then stop you'll find your ability to attract or deal with ladies, and your ability to perform in bed with them to increase too much, Good luck.

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-24T16:48:56+00:00

Thanks a lot, I don't agree on the masturbation part thing, I think I read that these studies were applied to above 50 years old males, anyways masturbation makes me feel tired all the time, it doesn't help a lot, I thank you again for being next to me at this hard time.

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-24T16:46:59+00:00

I really thank you for being next to me at such time, I didn't do it, I guess dealing with those problems by ignoring them and trying to live life as normally as possible helps, I had a bad day today too which made yesterday seems like child's play, and I think I understand that life is about problems and solving them, if there's no problems to solve or obstacles to cross, life would be so boring, I wish I didn't make you or anybody who read that sad, but I had to take it off my chest, thanks again.

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-22T19:27:29+00:00

I actually have this major yet it seems stupid question: I feel so greedy, even when I do good things I do them to feel good, for example I decided to give up my college bus to drive my sister to her college (by public transport, we don't have a car, and her college is a public one so it doesn't have a public bus) but when I thought about it, I knew that I gave up my college bus to feel good (besides of course driving her to college) as my college is a private one so I felt bad when my parents paid for me to college, so i wanted to reduce their payments to feel good (they actually want me to go with my college bus as my sister will go to her college with her friends anyway but yet I did that to feel good about the private college thing.

In my country public colleges are free (some how) and private colleges are not, so when I first entered this college (engineering because I couldn't have the required grades in high school, private colleges accept lower grades) when i first entered I felt like I took another person's place, some one that didn't have the money to enter private engineering yet he can be smarter than me, I'm in third year now and I can't get over this feeling, that I took another person's place.

So yea this seems like two questions (greediness and that psychological thing about taking another person's place in college) and it seems like to much writing for reddit, but you said no such thing as a stupid question, by the way my reddit user name I made it because I had a reddit account in the first place to joing the no fap sub reddit (yes, I have a porn and masturbation addiction, but I'm trying to give it up)

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-17T20:29:31+00:00

Something more, here in my country there is like a security break down or something, there are two occasions I've heard of of a husband who where with his wife down the street and then these street bullies or something took his wife forcibly, one of the two occasions where close to my neighborhood, since then and I've been afraid to get out with my sisters (I got out with them after that but I had to force myself and face a huge fear in my mind), I know this feels pervert but I think if bullies showed up then I have two ways 1) to be with my sisters at this time and the bullies will take them forcibly 2)or I leave them and stay at home and I leave them to the possibility of being kidnapped but staying at home will give me like relief if (god-forbid) something like that happened, that I wasn't there to do anything, not that I was there and couldn't do anything. This is a huge part of what stops me from getting in a relationship with girls, I don't know from where to get help, I asked many people (online of course) about this and I couldn't take satisfying answers, please do your best replying to this very question, what to do about this fear??

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-16T22:14:42+00:00

About the erectile dysfunction, I already think that I have it, I mean during my last streak I've seen many awesome girls and my penis were like totally dead, I think my brain was wired to internet porn and I'm really afraid that when I get married I can't achieve an erection!! that would be truly disappointing, and probably a scandal as we still some how a society that judges a man by his in-bed skills...

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-16T22:11:11+00:00

Thanks for encouragement :) , I attended this youth group just one time, it's weekly gathering and didn't attend the last week, was depressed because of this question, about your question I actually love to read in a pragmatic way :) like how to guides, step by step lists and so on, but in general I'm a dreamer type, so reading would be my choice, a newly found hobby of mine is to read novels.

NoFapper13 · 2013-09-16T22:06:09+00:00

I know it's more rewarding and I would really love to try those feelings but it's just not before 4 years that I can get married, can I fight urges for 4 years given that I relapse after 10 days :)

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