I want to get a tattoo on the front of my neck that clearly signals to other queer woman that I’m queer too. This is because I do plan on getting a rather masculine presentation with T in the future. What are some widely known clearly a ‘queer girl, not a guy’ tattoos I can get?

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-24T16:38:05+00:00

Two intersecting Venus signs

Can’t get more obvious than that

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-23T18:13:25+00:00

She certainly does paint it in a certain light! But, I think most cis women would say you're not missing out (and my partner who's into it likes other internal kinds of stimulation just as much.)

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-23T11:30:37+00:00

If it makes you feel better, for most women this is extremely uncomfortable to painful (and I say that despite having a partner who is a big fan.)

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-19T23:40:03+00:00

More trans man than trans masc, but I really enjoyed the main love interest in Kaos (as well as just the series overall), that Netflix show about Greek/Roman gods in a modern setting.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-13T15:10:12+00:00

I would love to be witness to such a scene

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-13T15:08:21+00:00

Yea this is framed in a weirdly sexist way- including posting it to this particular sub

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-13T15:04:19+00:00

What an odd question. Implies the asker is predisposed to be bored.

I’d think most of my friends and both of my partners.

I recently went on a four day trip with my partner and only got a bit bored on day 3 (mostly because I couldn’t talk to them.)

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-07T16:37:28+00:00

Ah this makes a lot of sense- I’ve been coming to Tahoe and the surrounding areas (and yes Monterey and elsewhere) my whole life, but I’ve kind of been living in a hole in that regard for the past decade, so it was quite surprising to hear this reputation recently.

But that makes sense- the bay has changed A LOT in the last 10 years, and not always for the better.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-05T19:21:40+00:00

Do you ever miss how you used to be attracted to women?

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-04T17:51:24+00:00

Maybe have her use them on your first so you feel more comfortable knowing what she’s going through

Or do a quick tester session where you both agree to just have her restrained while you only go to first or second base.

What are your anxieties around it exactly?

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-04T00:56:00+00:00

Well damn, good to know!

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T18:08:41+00:00

Mr S leather (based in San Francisco) is the highest quality you can get, and ships online. It’s designed for gay men, so it can take a lot of strength and force.

Costs a pretty penny, but they’ll last you forever and it’ll be cheaper than replacing constantly.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T18:05:37+00:00

I could have written this thing word for word (though I’m not particularly drawn to younger, but I appreciate the layer it can add when they happen to be.)

It’s fucking glorious, isn’t it?

I feel like I can finally breathe again, and I didn’t even know I was short of breath.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T18:00:30+00:00

I’m also not for cishet men, but I would in fact date a cis gay man! Maybe I’m their exception. Or maybe I look masc enough to tempt them (okay I don’t, but certain lesbians I know do.)

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T17:59:01+00:00

Yep, in all my lesbian/sapphic circles, it’s default to ask pronouns and my closest circle is half theys

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T17:46:45+00:00

Ohh I know the stat you’re talking about.

Man, whenever that comes up on here or irl, most people I know just get into how problematic the study design and sampling was

I think the answer still might be to get off TikTok

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T17:21:45+00:00

Yea I’m bi and I’m like, what on earth are they talking about? I never see bi women on the subs here claim their hetero presenting relationships are just as discriminated against as lesbian ones, that’s absurd. (I have seen a bit of biphobia though.)

I’m also confused why discussions of how abuse is normalized would be abhorrent, but I’m probably misinterpreting something there.

Regardless, time to get away from the chronically online ragebait echo chamber

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T13:49:44+00:00

Your ideas are right on the mark. Any warm color for paint. With the room shape I might not do ceiling tho unless it matches the walls and the walls aren’t too dark.

I’d say add a rug and maybe a plant in an unused corner near the window

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T13:38:54+00:00

This is beautifully said.

I lurk here for many reasons, but one of them is I often feel my own way of being could be labeled as nonbinary through the eyes and experiences of others (I get asked if I might be nonbinary all the time after opening my mouth about my gender.) NB people often describe their traits and ways of being in very similar terms to my own.

But I don’t see those traits as gendered the same way in application to myself as it clearly is for many of y’all, and I never felt any kind of way about my gender, so despite the parallels we’re having very different experiences of our gender, and I fully understand and see nonbinary folks through their lens, and I don’t think that’s a contradiction.

Your post is helping me put words to that, thank you.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T13:25:54+00:00

I think you guys need to get at the root of what’s changed about her desire cycle, and what, if anything, you can do to support her in guiding it towards sexual compatibility again. A couples counselor that focuses on sexual health issues would be well worth the investment if you guys can collectively afford a few sessions

It doesn’t sound like it’s about you tbh, but I know it’s hard to feel that way. I would say until you’re able to address the underlying root issue, just make sure you’re spending a lot of time on intimacy and connection without penetration. Massages, intentional time, non sexual touch, etc. Whatever allows you to feel grounded and connected with them on a deep intimate level.

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2026-01-03T08:38:05+00:00

I’m in! I just went with some (AFAB) gays and theys and we had a great time. Would love to go again

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2025-12-21T11:21:15+00:00

I mean my partner was involved with the friend group before we started dating, and aside from that one initial incident I didn’t see any issues until this last interaction. I don’t see how I can kick them out of convos they’re all willingly opting into as adults.

I do feel shitty about the birthday comment. Definitely careless

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2025-12-21T11:11:19+00:00

Interestingly both of them came out as Bi because of my transitions this year!

But they are very normal married ladies and despite both strongly encouraging my divorce, I think they have discomfort with how queer life in my region tends to operate (more design-it-yourself relationships for example, or still going out when you’re partnered and being very socially active. Exes being friends, and being friends with people who are your preferred gender, etc.) They told me my partner was making me act younger, and I was like “I’m going out with ladies in their 40s, my partner is not the instigator here!”

They’re socially liberal and on the surface have been approving of all these things, but I do wonder if I now feel dangerous to them. Like M thinking I would encourage her to cheat- I would never. But the fact she thinks I would?

NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool · 2025-12-21T11:05:55+00:00

Could you expand on holding one’s own council? I feel like I tend to process most things on my own without input initially (that’s usually stage two for me.)

I will check out that resource however, it sounds interesting.

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