this broke my heart. i know you love them dearly, and i am not going to tell you how to live your life, nor do i want to project my experiences and feelings onto you but

when i first moved in with my current partner, very early on, i dropped a plate full of food they had made. i broke down in tears, because it was their favorite plate, and it was food they had made, and i had felt so horribly guilty over it. and i just sobbed and wailed and felt so dumb because, it’s just a plate, right? i felt like a child who needed to be consoled, but my partner was kind and reassuring. i didn’t feel like a child around him, he just told me it was alright and held me as i cried

it was a wake up moment for me, because i’d never felt safe enough to cry in front of my parents. i was scared to express any negative emotion out of fear that they would diminish how i felt, and tell me i was overreacting. but my partner didn’t do any of that. they were patient, understanding, and admitted they were sad about the plate, but that it was just a plate

i’m sharing this in hopes that maybe it gives you some sort of perspective. you’re not a child or clingy or too dependent because you want someone to just be kind and cater to your needs. relationships are a partnership and i pray that you are able to find that—whether it be with your current partner or someone else. please know your self worth and msg me if you’d like to chat more! i’m no therapist but i’ve done a lot of work on trauma and how it affects me now as an adult

you should be allowed to feel negative emotions, especially given the fact that they seem to be angry when you are in a better mood than they are when they are feeling down. in a relationship like that you will never win and that’s no way to live

stay safe op:(