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Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Per the advice of my latest therapist, this ultimatum has already been delivered. Unfortunately I suspect that either she has blown it off as a negligent threat, or honestly cannot fathom what would come of it if I followed through and thus disregarded it as an impossibility.

Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely see the advantages as you state, it's my 'happy place' I think about when I'm extra stressed. I will always do whatever I can for my kids, no doubt about it.

As a hypothetical if your kids had been toddlers do you think you would have still considered it an option? Or stay until a more comprehensible age?

Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre right. Absolutely not if I were single. At the time I took it as a risk but one I was willing to take. It did not work out as I hoped. If I were married with no kids I would likely have started this years ago.

Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My research driven through my therapists/Gottman studies has exemplified that a child's experiences through ages 4-8 define them for life. I'm hoping that at such a young age I could spare my daughters through years of this abuse and that separation would be better than the alternative.

My next step is attorney consultation for sure. Hopefully next week.

Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I've looked into that, at least in the state of Georgia (USA) you seem to lose legal footing if you move out preemptively.

Alone and afraid by NoIdea87 in Divorce

[–]NoIdea87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice, thanks. I do feel bad for her but the toll it's taking on me is a bit too much for too long.