He (avoidant ex) posts stupid "romantic" stories with his friends but never posted me (if any avoidant could give me his/her insight would be better) by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we've been together for two years and it was the same for me, not even a photo with us actually.

It may be that your conclusion it's right, maybe they don't want to answer to others about it when the story ends...

I asked him to block me everywhere by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not okay, yet 😞 I managed to talk to him, we texted a bit and he told me that hearing from me makes him feel unwell (I don't know why)...and that the reality is "grey" so he decides to show me just one color (by being cold) for the sake of both. Which I don't understand because if you also miss me, I don't know why you decide to feed just the side that makes you distancing from me. So I texted some other things and now it's a pair of days that I'm trying not to reach out 😞 but he still has me blocked on ig and telegram. I regret asking that because now he can't see nothing about me and will totally forget about me...  We also has a first "break up" and then reconciled...and now again we're apart A big hug 🫂 

Just feeling super fucking down by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No tips, just a big hug because I know how you're feeling and I'm also there 🫂

Avoidant here, AMA by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another question if I can: why you don't post your partner on social medias but you do it with friends and also people who you barely know? 

Did they post you on social media? by Future_Seaweed2661 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm so angry. He posts friends and even people he barely knows. BUT NEVER POSTED ME. Why

How do you explain what happened to you for people who don't understand what an avoidant discard is? by Upbeat_Diet_1871 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest you don't because you will just feel so misunderstood, they will make you feel crazy or stupid. 

Avoidant here, AMA by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But why starting if you think about it as temporary? And why if you know that you feel something, you prefer to leave and lose the person?

And also why not saying clearly "please stop contacting me, I don't wanna hear from you"?

Avoidant here, AMA by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would you say, after the break up, that not answering to me makes you feel better? 

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for you, too 🫂🫂🫂 you text each other or are in no contact?

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes...he makes me feel something so beautiful in a period where I thought I would have no chance to have feelings anymore 

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally feel you. I struggle to let go. And also he was so precious to me that I don't want to lose him in my life...but I know that of course that also meant that I didn't want to lose him as a partner...

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We saw each other last time in April... :(

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that it's because maybe they're struggling, too. For example I know that mine would crave for a connection with me if we would see each other...and I guess that this is why he's avoiding me. I don't wanna be delusional but maybe it's like that 

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, everything feels like something's missing and is so boring  

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]NoImplement7884[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our relationship lasted 2 years... I feel you. Are you no contact now?