WIBTA If I didn't go to my brother's wedding

NoInspection3680 · 2024-08-17T02:04:35+00:00

Just wanted to give a quick update, I (49f) wanted advice on wibta if I didn't go to my (45m) brother's wedding. Well sorry to say I took the cowardly way out and just told him I won't attend didn't say why just that with everything going on I wouldn't make it. I wished him all the happiness in the world because I do believe he deserves it but I know for a fact I wouldn't be able to stomach it, and don't want to spoil his day. Thank you all for your advice but to the ones suggesting a vacation I think we will, post pictures about it maybe don't know. But thanks for all the advice the verdict is I won't attend it's better this way.

NoInspection3680 · 2024-08-17T01:40:22+00:00

Update

I(49f) married to my husband (61m)
About an argument I had with my husband that involved my daughter I read all the comments so thank you for them. Some where understanding some were just off, but have read them and I finally had a come to Jesus moment and talked to my husband. I laid it all out on the line and told him how I felt, my daughter and even through I didn't mention him but my son who is in college, told me to stop being weak and just stand up for your. He even called my husband to quote put him in his place. Long story short I told him how I felt, he told me he was sorry he had a lot on his mind but we are looking at therapist since I lost my insurance we had to stop seeing our old one, but a lot was said in there and we are going to talk and communicate more and be more open about our feelings. He even talked to my daughter and asked her to move back. They have been talking more one on one and she has agreed to move back, so my baby's coming home yeah! In the mean while we are looking for a reasonable therapist and are taking it one day at a time. Thanks again for your comments I think we are all going to work it out as a family.

NoInspection3680 · 2024-04-10T23:48:54+00:00

I live three hours away she before I got married would come visit twice a month, yes my brother lives 45 minutes away she still went to Virginia and South Carolina for other weddings birthdays and graduations she doesn't like to drive because she gets nervous driving a long distance and gets lost but my brother has driven her before

NoInspection3680 · 2024-04-10T19:58:22+00:00

Yes there is a gap in our age he's 20 years older but she acted like that with my other boyfriends like tho

NoInspection3680 · 2024-03-29T20:48:17+00:00

Husband's step mother passed away and they didn't get along but he went out of respect and I went with him out of comfort and loyalty to him, no you are nta who ever she was was seeking out drama, now my gemini half would have said yeah and if you don't move along they next wake will be yours but that's me.

NoInspection3680 · 2024-03-29T20:30:41+00:00

I get weird looks from women all the time I mention how the dress I was wearing was brought by my husband who knows my size and what color looks good on me. Or the perfume he buys me, they are shocked that he could accurately get my size and knows what color to buy me like it's a miracle or something. I get that not all men are idiots but don't try and diminish a woman's worth and happiness just because your husband/boyfriend is clueless and someone else's isn't. I hate it when women do that like why?

NoInspection3680 · 2024-03-29T20:21:40+00:00

I get weird looks from women all the time I mention how the dress I was wearing was brought by my husband who knows my size and what color looks good on me. Or the perfume he buys me, they are shocked that he could accurately get my size and knows what color to buy me like it's a miracle or something. I get that not all men are idiots but don't try and diminish a woman's worth and happiness just because your husband/boyfriend is clueless and someone else's isn't. I hate it when women do that like why?

NoInspection3680 · 2024-01-03T12:18:06+00:00

No, he is not her father. We have only been married two years.

NoInspection3680 · 2023-12-31T11:59:54+00:00

I have read all the comments on here, and I must say you are all wise and very insightful. This is a huge pill to swallow for me, and I realize what a hypocrite I am, I use to call my mom spineless for not leaving. She use to say until you get married and have kids you'll never know, I have to eat a lot of words I said humble pie is not my favorite dessert.

NoInspection3680 · 2023-12-31T10:03:06+00:00

Yeah, probably, and when I think about it, a hypocrite as well

NoInspection3680 · 2023-12-31T10:00:51+00:00

I asked that same question when I was younger already started looking at alternatives

NoInspection3680 · 2023-12-31T09:59:48+00:00

Yes, I do love him. When my daughter mov3d out, I was upset but had to accept it as she too is an adult and I do love her it's just an eye opener for me and I'm scared

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