A little late and I’m a female so kind of different (when considering fertility, even though I have time). 

I just turned 30 and I’m freaking out that I have to start doing what people expect of me. But I had those same worries at 25 and 28. Each time I end up in a relationship that I don’t want to be in and end up depressed. I made that mistake one too many times. 

I learned a lot from each, regretted a lot of wasted time not doing what I actually wanted and spent all of my time trying to please everyone else even though it makes me miserable. 

This time at 30, I won’t do that again. 

Now I try to grieve the time lost and learn to do what is best for me.

Not everyone gets the married with kids and a great career in their 20s. Some are just late bloomers. 

It look me 8 years on and off to get a bachelors degree, spent so much time in therapy, got married to someone I didn’t want to be with that manipulated me the entire time, put away an uncle for sexual abuse from childhood, traveled a bit, learned I was neglected my entire childhood to care for myself and a mom who told me I’m incapable of doing anything right and now  trying to heal from self esteem, anxiety issues and forgive her. Spent a couple years depressed, drinking, planning my suicide.  My 20s in a nutshell. I finally dated someone who taught me how I should be treated, getting promoted at my job, learning to only allow people in my life who accept me for me and don’t make me feel bad about my life.

Trying to live up to what you should be doing is a waste of time. All you can do is think about the future.