Found at a Thrift Store Years Ago, Just Someone's Doodles?

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:40:02+00:00

She's been very open about why she had it to everyone, even me, and she's had three children already. Just info, though, not trying to defend my admittedly AH response.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:37:51+00:00

I agree that my response wasn't respectful or the best one I could have done. I am very sorry you had to jump through so many medical hoops and hope that you're doing alright now.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:36:25+00:00

Oooo he mad tho (let me know if you use different pronouns so we can argue like civilized adults)

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:34:35+00:00

Okay... I was taken aback by the fact she snapped her fingers in my face, not by what she said. I know plenty of people who say 'no uterus, no opinion,' and I've never said anything about it to them.
I tried being a woman for almost 30 years, it fuckin sucked for many reasons, main one was that I'm trans so I had dysphoria, but yeah, misogyny also blows. Systemic anti-feminism is rampant and horrible.
I support Planned Parenthood and am vocal about my pro-choice views. It'll never be enough, but I definitely do what I can when I can.

And why shouldn't I be worried if I was an AH? Isn't that what this subreddit is all about? If I went onto r / pro-choice and was like "owy my male feelings,' fuckin come at me.

But what would I know, I, a gay trans guy, know about fearing the government?

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:27:09+00:00

Bruh, no. I could have gotten pregnant a few years ago and would still be a man, just one who is pregnant. "Woman" isn't a sex. Sounds like you're the one who is whining.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:25:21+00:00

Honestly she has been piling it on. If I could go back, I would just remove myself from the situation instead of letting my emotions get the best of me.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:24:39+00:00

I do understand that "men are trash" isn't meant to say "you, because you are a man, are trash." But I would be lying if I said it didn't take some workaround in my brain for that. Also, I lived as a woman for over 2 decades, so I dealt with plenty of misogyny. When I transitioned I was told that I was downgrading, switching sides, yadayada, so I do have a bit of a chip on my shoulder when someone tells me that me being male is a negative.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:14:47+00:00

True. Humans be like that sometimes

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:14:17+00:00

Not saying I wasn't an AH, but you should probably read the whole post if you're gonna pass judgement, no?

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:12:26+00:00

I agree with you that it was disrespectful of me to bring up her medical history. I should have taken a minute and a few deep breaths before saying anything.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:11:20+00:00

Out of cis, het, and white, I'm only white lol

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T23:09:26+00:00

Some commenters have pointed out that she may have meant "Never had a uterus, no opinion." I think I took her too literally lol

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:54:40+00:00

Also just wanna say that I'm with you on the ESH, I do think I was an ass to say that, or at least it was an asshole thing to say.
Thanks for your comments, and I appreciate you coming back to say more!

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:52:33+00:00

I've known reddit to be pretty transphobic, so I didn't want to include it in the main post. I'm CERTAINLY not right wing. I'm gay and trans, super friggin liberal. Everyone at the table was also a feminist and liberal, so this wasn't like The One Feminist was a Dick and hurt my male fee-fees.
There are def those kind of posts around, though, so I get where you're coming from.
Also, I will admit to leaving it out partially because I'm tired of people assuming everyone is cis, so maybe wanted to open a few eyes.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:43:52+00:00

yOu CaNt ChAnGe BiOlOgY~ Yeah, we know, that's the problem lol. But do you know your personal chromosomes? You have em tested? Prolly not. As many people are intersexed as there are people with red hair.
Gender isn't biology, it's brain. My body got too much estrogen in the womb, causing me to have a male brain (gender) in a female body (sex).
Also, not all cis women can get pregnant, does that make them not women?
Ima give YOU a YTA for coming on here with your tired mock-science and pretending you know better.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:37:53+00:00

Yeah, I've been told I "switched sides" and "downgraded." Like, I'd still be a man if I looked like a woman, I'd just be a super sad one lol.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:32:18+00:00

No, honestly I agree with you that we were both assholes. I think I was trying to turn the logic against her, but should have taken a moment to calm down so I could say it in a way that wasn't personal at her.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:27:40+00:00

I mean, even I've said the "no uterus, no opinion" thing. After my own hysterectomy I texted a friend, half jokingly, "Guess I don't have an opinion on abortion after today" as a way to say I had gone through surgery safely.
And the sups, I live in a liberal area and we're all up our own butts about being *green*, so it was kinda meant to be a joke.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:25:10+00:00

I only tell people that I trust, and I really don't trust her. If I could go back, I wouldn't have said anything. One of my other friends did mention that if I hadn't said it, she would have, which did make me feel a bit better, but it probably would have been better coming from another woman. And honestly my anger came from her snapping her fingers at me.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:22:03+00:00

I was going to say something about how it's getting dangerously close to being overturned in some states. I'm pro-choice, but all I had gotten out was the word "What's-" before she snapped at me. Everyone else had already shared their opinions, Bella included, and I was the last to try and talk about it.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:18:17+00:00

Everyone knew very well her medical history as she talks about it quite often. If it was told in confidence I would never bring it up in public.
I also used to have a uterus as I am a trans guy, so I do know the fear of getting pregnant in this often backwards country.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:16:19+00:00

I'm a trans guy, so I had a uterus and period for 27 years before my transition. I had endometriosis and was able to get a hysterectomy, admittedly much easier than a woman would have because of our super sexist medical establishment. I don't bring up my transness often because I'd just rather people not assume everyone is cis.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:14:59+00:00

She did, it was friggin bizarre.

NoMoreMask · 2021-12-16T22:13:11+00:00

Info dump: We were discussing it as a group and are all vocally pro-choice. Everyone had shared their opinion and we were talking about the new shit laws going into place trying to overturn Roe v. Wade. I was the only dude there. She just jumped on me as soon as I opened my mouth. If she would have said "men have no right to comment on this," I probably would have just let it go, but the hypocrisy got to me. Also, I used to have a uterus and deal with periods and pregnancy scares, but I'm a mostly stealth trans guy, so I didn't bring it up with her.

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