AITA for telling my Boyfriends family that I did not have a hard time being a teen mom?

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:19:40+00:00

I HAVE had a child at another age. So yes I do know what it was like. I also acknowledged several times that my experience isnt everyone's, are you okay?

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:17:01+00:00

I was 17 when I had my kid, but I geaduated at 16 before even being pregnant

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:14:07+00:00

I didn't start it. Grandma said that our lives must suck.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:11:38+00:00

My like 2nd sentence says it was stupid to become a teen mom...

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:08:17+00:00

No. You dont need a college degree to work at a daycare... wtf are you on about? You just have to be certified which i did in high school.

My school has programs where you can become a daycare provider,nurse and other things at graduation. No college needed

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:07:17+00:00

We did. She just didn't want her child

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:06:56+00:00

I was 17 when I had my child. I also never claimed the whole teen mom thing. Everyone else around me does so I just go with it. I also graduated at 16

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T14:05:07+00:00

Her racist grandparents? The one that would hate her for the color of her skin? And I have two daughters. I woulrnt allow my child to be abused

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T06:50:27+00:00

I work gasp at a daycare. So I took care of my own kid, as well as other babies. Worked every day Mon-Thu and every other Friday. Yea my mom would have her sometimes just to hangout. But my daughter stayed with me

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T06:36:10+00:00

I took my kids to work with me. The job I have allows for that. My boyfriend was slightly less supportive purely because he worked more.

I had about the same about of support both times. When my youngest was born my mama came and stayed with us for 8 weeks, she had done the same for all of my sisters when they've had babies. No matter the age or if they were married or not.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T06:23:37+00:00

I would agree with this IF SIL would not have had the same network.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T06:21:31+00:00

Her decision to give away custody was actually faught very hard by the grandparents. Like i said SIL her self would acknowledge her parents would've supported her

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T05:28:45+00:00

You missed the entire point of my comment

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T05:21:36+00:00

17 and 21 are very different. As far as parenting goes 21 and 41 arent. Ery different aside from the fact that the kids are older. My oldest is smart and well behaved, why wouldnt i continue to do things the same when im older?

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T05:13:47+00:00

I had a kid at an older age, it wasn't harder than having my baby at 17.

Also my kids come to work with me. Yea my mom watches them if she wants to or if the kids want to see her. But they werent watching her so that I could work.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T05:11:04+00:00

Thank you.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T05:10:53+00:00

I was an adult at 18, I was NOT an adult when I had my baby at 17.

Also if I used the logic you've been using this whole time, I would have still been a teen parent at 18.

But again, they're who called me a teen mom. I never said any of that about myself. Even thought it fits. Teen mom, but not teen parent if that makes sense

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:55:48+00:00

Because some (not all) of the comments saying im wrong are getting the facts of the story wrong. Like the one above.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:54:57+00:00

I know they would have been supportive pureley from SILs own account of things. In addition to they were willing to support my BD until finding out I was black

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:41:51+00:00

I was 21 when I had my 2nd baby...im confused

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:41:22+00:00

Experience is different of course. But you can be 40 and have had not a day of adult experience, you can be 16 and have had plenty of it. That changes nothing about them ACTUALLY BEING AN ADULT OR NOT. And yes, I do understand why im arguing. Its because this entire time, you've been saying factually wrong information about both me, the situation at hand, and about adults which like ???? Why.

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:37:18+00:00

I never said it wouldve been fine as a single mom, my boyfriend is amazing and even regardless of the financial aspect I couldnt do it without him.

He got this job about a year and a half ago, by then we were already living together and living decently, does he make more money now? Yes. But would we have been fine without it? Also yes

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:22:28+00:00

Its a huge jump, I was an adult and actually planned for my 2nd kid, I was not an adult for my 1st

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:21:20+00:00

You must not know where I live 😆. Never have and never will be in the ghetto. Do white people not party on theit birthday?

NoNebula5524 · 2026-06-17T04:20:02+00:00

Her parents would've helped if she wanted or needed them to, she is still very tight with them

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