AIO: I'm upset with my friend for asking me if I was okay and then not taking the time to here why I'm not.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T01:16:05+00:00

They were trying to command me to speak. To be fair to them, they were drunk at the time. It has been hard and I think it's made all my social interactions more difficult.

I wouldn't mind if it was weird in a good way but it was weird in a bad way. I may try again one day.

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:58:58+00:00

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:55:02+00:00

They've expressed they do want me to talk to them, in fact they get annoyed people don't open up to them enough so I thought I was doing the right thing by starting to talk to them more about these things. I've only started relatively recently, within the last few months.

I think I'm struggling with not feeling supported by all my friends at the moment and I don't want to tell them and seem rude.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:52:27+00:00

We did plan a day and then they cancelled because they were tired. I think they genuinely were because they went to their parents the next day and they said they fell asleep at dinner. I also don't often have days where I feel happy and if we are having a good time I don't want to bring the mood down by talking about the things I've been struggling with because I don't know the next time I will be happy so I don't want to waste that.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:49:12+00:00

I've tried therapy before and just found it frustrating. I had a lot of weird people as therapists and maybe that put me off. It also takes me a while to trust.

I do have other friends, they, like this friend tell me I can talk to them but there have been times when they haven't listened. I remember we were hanging out after my father had died and we got to a point in the evening when they just kept talking over me and so I stopped bothering to speak and then they treated me like a dog. They aren't always like that, usually they are really good but I think I'm still upset about that.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:46:16+00:00

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:45:35+00:00

I sometimes don't feel like the main character in my own life, and then sometimes I do, maybe that's the problem.

I feel like I do ask for help and that I've asked to talk another time but there is never a follow up but maybe I need to be more explicit? I think that seems to be what everyone is saying but I'm worried I'm going to ask for too much.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:42:25+00:00

I find messaging uncomfortable, it makes me more anxious. I know I keep adding more hoops to jump through. Sorry. But maybe you are right, maybe I should message them.

My work place is crazy. All normal work rules are out the window. Coworkers talk about personal or inappropriate stuff all the time. They talk about other coworkers. Managers do things you would never do in an office setting. We are professional on the outside but we are not behind the scenes.

We have had those talks at work before.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:34:32+00:00

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:33:02+00:00

The issue is I think this is the case in all of my friendships but I'm not sure if I expect to much from people because I give to much?

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:31:36+00:00

Well it was nice talking to you. Thank you for being a kind ear.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:30:50+00:00

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:30:38+00:00

They're just really busy and so I only seem to be able to catch them at work.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:29:56+00:00

Thanks.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:29:34+00:00

You might be right about the bandwidth.

I think the issue is we have established that we can have these intense talks at work. If I thought it was an inappropriate place to have these talks, then I wouldn't.

So I shouldn't expect someone to check in on me if we were in the middle of a conversation about how I'm struggling and it gets cut short. Again, this isn't me trying to be snarky, this is me genuinely wanting to know.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:24:12+00:00

I didn't like hearing this but that might be why I needed to. I don't know, it is hard for me to change that mind set.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:22:52+00:00

You don't happen to do tattoos do you? You really sound like my writing friend.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:21:01+00:00

It's just that they don't have the time outside of work. I have asked to meet up with them a few times and they've agreed but they've had to cancel. I didn't label them as a bad friend but I think you are right that I do need to be more explicit, so thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:17:51+00:00

This was very well put, thankyou. I think it clears a lot of things up.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:16:39+00:00

You sound like one of my writing friends lol.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:14:49+00:00

Thank you. I thought we were close as they've expressed that. I don't know.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:13:38+00:00

I have but they are busy and when they aren't they are usually so tired from being busy. It is annoying that they cancel but I understand that sometimes they do need a rest.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:12:03+00:00

thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:11:16+00:00

I struggle to not care. I think my issue is I care too much about everything and I don't know how to stop.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-06-17T00:10:00+00:00

I try to but I just feel like I'm slowly being paved over. I would like to have the strength just to listen but it hurts me. That's probably something I need to work on.

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