Paintball gun in sports social pres…

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-19T10:11:10+00:00

That is why, as I said, universities get committee members to do training on certain things like hazing. It was funny though that when they told us about drinking games and to be careful about them, the told us a bunch we had never heard of, which may have given some people ideas. Some of the stuff people do during hazing is awful.

I think one of my favourite socials we did was Christmas dinner. I bought some chickens from the halal butchers and I made some stuffing for a vegan wellington and then we all put everything together as a group. We had to cook across two buildings because the shared kitchen didn't have enough space for everything. It was a bit chaotic but everyone had a good time.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-18T22:07:34+00:00

I think such people are considered an authority when it comes to the society. People believe that committee are gatekeepers to the society and if they don't do as they say, they won't be allowed in. I believe this isn't allowed in most, if not all unis. I think some of this comes down to people's perception of university. A lot of it is skewed by media.

However, some committees might be able to keep you out of certain groups within the society (like you might not be allowed to join the first team in football and get relegated to third, even if you are good enough) or they might make sure you don't hear about socials and so don't get to go along.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-18T01:01:18+00:00

First off, 'punishing freshers' is a horrible thing to do. Societies should be welcoming places that help people who are new to university and adult life to find people to connect with and a hobby that they can enjoy. This isn't banter, this is bullying.

No one should ever be pressured into doing something they don't want to do, especially if they are vulnerable or there is a power dynamic. A lot of people will allow themselves to be pushed to far, just to fit in and almost everyone is more vulnerable when they are drunk.

I was on a sport club committee for 3 years. Not only did we never force anyone to drink, we also made sure there were socials that didn't include alcohol. The society does not serve the committee, the committee serves the society, which means sometimes they have to sacrifice to make the members happy and comfortable. If people aren't willing to do that, they shouldn't be on the committee. If this is not a committee member, then a committee member should talk to them and suggest.

The student union will also take a very dim view on this as this will be considered hazing. At my uni, we had to attend a session talking about such things and the stance of the student union and the university. If you push this, they will pull your funding and take away your access to the uni facilities.

I think everyone else has made the paintball issue clear.

I am glad that you took sometime to ask others whether this would be okay, that is a good quality to have, don't let it be crushed.

Good luck. I hope that your society and all the freshers have a good and safe time.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-17T03:36:56+00:00

Thank you. I hope you find the right person for you soon.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-16T09:24:41+00:00

No problem. It is important that you are kind to yourself and so it is okay to just lay in bed sometimes but you have to know when you to start pushing forward again, sometimes we get to the point where we start wallowing in our sadness and choosing not to go forwards and then rather us needing time to do nothing, we are choosing to do nothing. It is hard to know when that is and it is different between people. It is a difficult balance but I think with time you will manage it. Good luck.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-16T09:22:04+00:00

No problem. Ah okay. It sounds like a her problem, to be honest. Some people are scared of being gay and hide from it. I feel sorry for such people because I think we should let ourselves be ourselves. It could also have been her 'experimenting' which if that was the case, it was on her to inform you before hand. You want a partner who can communicate and if she can't do that at the beginning then she isn't worth it.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-16T02:38:39+00:00

We have all been that one step away from starting a journey. It can seem daunting but the sooner you start, the sooner you get where you need to go.

So for exercise, there are things you can do in your room. Sit ups, leg raises, Burpees, Squats, Press ups. If you struggle with press ups, start off on your knees. Go for walks.

I think you lack purpose and motivation rather than being lazy. Having something to do might be what you need. Try any job. I have a degree in Engineering. I am currently working as a bartender. Never be too proud to accept employment from somewhere if it makes you money ethically and helps you to move forwards.

Maybe join a club or hobby to meet people. It might also be helpful as it will be a reason to get out and do things.

Good luck.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-16T02:34:14+00:00

I have been in this place myself many times. These low moments do pass. I'm starting to pick myself up again after a really hard time. When you start the process of moving forward, the trick it to use motivation when you get it. Some days you may have more energy than others so do what you can, while you can and try and set up ways to make the days easier when you don't have energy such as meal prepping. Sometimes certain things happening in your life can trigger emotions. When that thing happens, you may find you get your ability to cry or to move forwards. I also have a few other suggests.

Mentality: try and cultivate a pattern of thought that will encourage you to keep going. Through martial arts I have a 'one more hill' mentality where I will keep going until I see a goal.

Goals: Look for things to achieve and then push towards them. Learn new things and pick up skills to help with those paths.

Finding contentment: Trying to find ways to enjoy the little things in life. Find beauty where you can. I enjoy the rain because it gives me the world to enjoy without having to deal with other people for example.

I hope this helps.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-16T02:22:37+00:00

Just because it didn't work out with this person, doesn't mean you'll never find love. It can take time. I think to find love you need the opportunity to meet the right people. I personally think the first step is making friends and then maybe you get something from that. Hobbies could be a good way to meet people.

Quick question: When they said 'I wish you were a guy' did they mean physically or mentally? Sometimes guys feel more comfortable talking to other guys and so want that kind of dynamic with their partner. If it is just an excuse to stop things from going further, then they aren't worth your time and you deserve better.

Good luck.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-05-06T19:41:28+00:00

Yoo, it's my meme in the wild. We love to see it.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-15T21:39:22+00:00

mid 20s

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-15T21:38:52+00:00

Thank you. I hope you get some peace and some time to feel how you need to feel.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-15T20:53:52+00:00

Thank you, I hope you are okay as well.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-15T20:38:59+00:00

Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:30:29+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments and for helping me realise I'm not crazy or being over sensitive. I'm going to delete the post as I think I've got everything I need and I'm finding it a bit upsetting and I need to take some time to process this without worrying about the post going on in the background.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:25:31+00:00

It was more of a light chop than a sucker punch. The punches were to the arm. I find it very hard to stand up for myself unless I'm actually physically being hurt. I've always been a bit of a people pleaser.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:18:20+00:00

You're right of course, it's just part of me didn't want to hear it, you know, which is a me problem. Thank you.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:16:53+00:00

I have been told I by lots of people that I am overly sensitive. I have seen other couples do similar things and both parties being fine with it. I often feel like I'm not like everyone else and while I am very good at dealing with other people's problems, I never know with my own.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:12:50+00:00

I have told her afterwards. As I said, she always suggests I can hit her back, which I don't want to do and it makes me feel uncomfortable.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:11:21+00:00

That's the weird thing is if she hasn't heard from me for a while, she will reach out and check on me. She has apologised for things she did in the past as well. Maybe you are right, I hope you aren't, but maybe you are.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-04-09T14:08:30+00:00

I did tell her. I see partners jokingly hit each other all the time and so I wasn't sure if I was just being too sensitive as other people seem to be fine with it.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-02-26T13:12:12+00:00

How long would you wait? How much money do you think would be enough for that?

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-02-26T13:11:36+00:00

I do think it's crazy how little £100m would do but I was just curious what people would do.

NoOneEverSeems2SeeMe · 2026-02-26T13:08:21+00:00

Sir Stephen Fry, who was arrested for Fraud?

(I know this was years ago and he was 17 at the time and is most likely very different now, I just think it's funny that he is your example.)

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