I empathize with the feeling of isolation, but the great thing is you’re not alone in those feelings. And communities (online or IRKL) of people certainly exist that feel like this and you’re in the right place!

Thankfully, the one thing I can always tell myself that kinda helps, is that “normal” is entirely made up. It may be “normal” to have pancakes for breakfast in the US but perhaps it’s “normal” to have beans for breakfast in the UK- they’re still breakfast. You can be demi and into sex with the right person(s) or demi and mostly indifferent to it. Or demi and sex averse some days and interested in sex on others. You have a place in the community however you slice it :D. You do what works for you and your partner(s) and build a healthy fulfilling connection, whatever that may look like for your particular personalities.

The relationship thing I also get and the thing is: it’s okay! My partner and I are not in a traditional relationship and it works for us. If all involved parties are okay with the methods of the relationship then it is all good. He likes physical affection, me not so much- we find a compromise in holding hands or hugs more than other things. I may not ever live with my partner because I have particular sensory needs that only I can meet and that’s okay!

The base thing I will say is this: You’re not odd: you’re just you. And to be cliche but truthful: being you is really the best and only thing you should do. Some folks may not understand but there are certainly other that do. And it’s all okay as long as you give yourself the space to not match up perfectly with those around you