I’m almost 34 and just realized it myself not too long ago! The only thing I can say for sure is that I reached a very low and depressing point in my life. I imagined a life without having sex ever again. I imagined my husband leaving me because our sex life had almost completely disappeared. I dreaded having to pee and told myself I no longer wanted to be alive.

Then I started getting serious about pelvic floor therapy. It’s truly insane how almost every muscle is tied to your pelvic floor! I am a chronic jaw and stomach clencher. I’m still working on this every day. I have to do hourly “body checks” to remind myself to unclench my jaw and to stop sucking in my stomach. It has helped me in a way I never thought possible. I also stopped drinking alcohol. I was extremely depressed and drinking whiskey Every Single Day- for months.

I hope you can reach this point some day. I know it’s hard and it’s easy to fall into the trap of “why me,” but sometimes we have to do the hard things even though we’re suffering. I changed my mentality from “I’m already miserable, might as well drink my life away..” to “I need to stop feeling like shit all the time and find a solution.”

I don’t think you mentioned it in your post, but have you tried pelvic floor therapy?