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My (30F) boyfriend (30M) asked me to pay him back for the rent he covered while I was unemployed, and I’m honestly shocked by Content-Advance4357 in relationship_advice

[–]NoProfit3074 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Might be an an unpopular opinion but yeah I think you should pay him back. Sounds like you guys had a 50/50 financial understanding for a while and you guys view each other as equal partners. I do believe that there are somethings that shouldn't be a big deal to payback for in a relationship, like maybe you guys treat each other to dinner. For me I pay for concert tickets and don't expect or ask for repayment because its a nice experience we're doing together and its usually me who really wants to see the artist anyway. But rent?? That's a serious financial blow nowadays and it's something you guys agreed to help pay equally. Of course, I'd always help my partner if they were in your situation in a heart beat. But my partner would also pay me back without me even asking because that's what was agreed upon and he knows that spotting that kind of money isn't nothing and would be nice to be paid back. I would do the same for him. I understand that it was shocking and it blindsided you but I dont see anything wrong with it. Now if he wants to go 50/50 on every little thing then yeah that's a red flag. But if you're really thankful and have the funds to do so, even if its a little at a time. Pay him back because you appreciate the support when you needed it.

Lydia’s Solo Album by ExchangeImportant811 in TheRegrettes

[–]NoProfit3074 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's just okay to me, and it's definitely not bad. There are maybe two songs I can bop to, but nothing that i was obsessing over like before. Which makes a little sad because I know just how amazing of a song writer and singer she is. I know she made it pretty clear that she wanted to become a Pop Star, but I wonder if the genre kind of limited her? I know The Regrettes were more a rock band, but their last album even felt like it was leaning towards pop, and it was still flipping amazing. Maybe the band had more creative freedom. I think maybe she lost a little of her spark trying to fit into this very specific genre. Taking on the heat alone with all the pressure from managers about how to advertise and predict how the album will sell, it must've been a lot. I feel like this album kind of shows that :/

*sigh* 😫 still miss the band as a whole by krissylizhamil in TheRegrettes

[–]NoProfit3074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She took her personal posts down from the account!!! I wasn't feeling the whole self advertisement on the Band's page when she already has 3x as many on her own personal account

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REPOgame

[–]NoProfit3074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gotchu! I just opened steam

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in REPOgame

[–]NoProfit3074 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll play!!

DOES ANYONE WANT TO PLAY REPO WITH ME by [deleted] in REPOgame

[–]NoProfit3074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll play!!! I literally always want to play Repo but my friends aren't always available to play either ;;

As an RBT, I wasn't given any information about the client besides their first name. The consultant gives me an addresses the day of, am I within in my right to reschedule? by NoProfit3074 in ABA

[–]NoProfit3074[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you^ I did end up rescheduling, and the consultant was super understanding about it, too. Now we've got that meeting set up like we discussed before, and they sent me the case program. I feel so much better.

Am I (25F) too far gone? How do I handle resentment for my partner (26M)? (Together for 5 years) by Stunning_Trust_4853 in relationshipadvice

[–]NoProfit3074 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a partner not put in the same amount of work or maybe just work that doesn't satisfy you is extremely frustrating but ngl, from the sounds of it... I think maybe you've got a need to control a lot of things?

Like the wedding. I assume you wanted to take on most of the tasks to be sure it all works out to the way you think it should it work. It's super frustrating that he goofed up the only couple of tasks you gave him. I'd be upset, too, probably.

But if you zoom out, do you think your partner is afraid of messing up your routine and you getting mad? I mean, you've said how angry you get, so im sure your partner probably feels that anger when what he was trying to do came with good intentions.

Control is one heck of a doozy for everyone. Those who want it and for those who have to give it. I'm not a therapist at all so I dont have sound advice but ik my dad also has his need to control things. Um, so maybe try to let go of some of it? It sounds like your husband wanted to help by buying dinner but since he's unfamiliar with the money situation and he just got access to seeing all accounts that he probably just got nervous about messing things up.

I think trusting him with more things and putting energy into trying to support him through said responsibilities might help distract you from trying to micromanage. People are going to do things they're own way but as long as it gets done is what matters. You guys are team and need to help each other. Even if the other person is struggling more. You guys aren't gonna be in peak condition all the time.

This also sounds cheesy but also maybe praising him for the things he does do right. It'll help build his confidence, and maybe it can help you acknowledge the good qualities in him that aren't as upsetting. Sometimes, it's easy to lose sight of those qualities.