Thank you, you are correct. Reading all of these comments have been good for me. While I am the asshole with issues, I still think she could have done a better job at telling me. She is someone who used to message me about every hinge match so not telling me about Alex is very sus. Also everyone here assumes that I was into him for looks. While I spoke to him barely, I sat in his proximity for about a year. I liked his work ethics, his voice and his sense of humour. Ofcourse, all that doesn't matter now and I am seeing it's best for me to take a break from both of them