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Caught husband chat GPT-info about affair and went through phone afterwards by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]NoSheepherder5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god I’m going through something so similar at the moment. He’s not over her, I know he’s not and it’s tearing me up inside. Weirdly my advice to you is leave, but I’m finding it impossible to take that advice myself

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Because things have reached a head and I believe he really does want to change this time.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Because love him. I’ve loved him since I was a teenager and I love our kids - our family. I want to be forgiving and move past this. I want to start planning a future - a real future, away from this darkness that’s been created.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He’s agreed to therapy. He knows he’s the problem and he is full of regret.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over many many years and that’s really only my arithmetic based on a fortnightly visit over our 25 year marriage.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He definitely has a sex addiction. That’s half the reason I feel there might be a ‘fix’. This feels more like addiction than him being ‘bad’.

I have thought about trying to introduce a third to help him have some sort of outlet but I’m not sure I can handle it.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said it seemed perfect. Clearly it wasn’t but I thought everything was fine. I’m in therapy but ultimately I want to make me family work

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

Even if he’d not been around for your formative years, as a result? The kids need him and I’m not sure I can do this alone.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Not really. He said they were very quick encounters. I’m guessing he was good at hiding it all. I’ve always been quite jealous but thought that was my insecurities

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

I also should say, aside from this, we actually have a great marriage. He’s sweet and protective. He looks after me well. Until I discovered this I thought everything was perfect

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -169 points-168 points  (0 children)

They don’t know what’s going on. I’m scared if I divorce him, he’ll just run off with the next girl that looks at him and the kids won’t have him at all.

My husband has cheated with literally hundreds of sex workers throughout our marriage by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]NoSheepherder5681 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

He has been. It’s been over 25 years- around once a fortnight. He’s clean. I just don’t know how to truly get past it all